Perfectionism Rewired

Lighten Your Load: Caring Deeply without Taking on Too Much


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You know logically it’s not *your job* to fix everything in your orbit yet the moment anything goes awry, you feel like the outcome is all on your shoulders. An overactive sense of responsibility can be a tough habit to rewire when you CARE deeply. Learn how to easily distinguish between CARE-ING and CARRY-ING.  Plus practical tips you can use immediately for being empathetic + present without getting bogged down by other people's emotions. 

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Listen to the full episode to hear:
  • The crucial distinctions between caring for people and carrying their load 
  • Why an overactive sense of responsibility impacts your peace, presence and growth
  • How to be empathetic. (the healthy way)
  • Practical tips you can use (today!) to lighten your load and enhance your emotional intelligence

 Highly Credible Sources Referenced in Episode 202:
  1. Bohns, V., Newark, D., & Boothby, E. (2018, October 8). When do We Feel Responsible for Other People’s Behavior and Attitudes? https://www.researchgate.net/publication/327854931_When_do_We_Feel_Responsible_for_Other_People's_Behavior_and_Attitudes
  2. Barrett, L. F. (2017). How emotions are made: The secret life of the brain. Houghton Mifflin Harcourt.
  3. Sugiura, Y., & Fisak, B. (2019). Inflated Responsibility in Worry and Obsessive Thinking. International Journal of Cognitive Therapy12(2), 97–108. https://doi.org/10.1007/s41811-019-00041-x‌
  4. Tangney, J. P., Burggraf, S. A., & Wagner, P. E. (1995). Shame-proneness, guilt-proneness, and psychological symptoms. In J. P. Tangney & K. W. Fischer (Eds.), Self-conscious emotions: The psychology of shame, guilt, embarrassment, and pride (pp. 343–367). Guilford Press.
  5. Wiltermuth, S. S., & Cohen, T. R. (2014). “I’d only let you down”: Guilt proneness and the avoidance of harmful interdependence. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 107(5), 925–942. https://doi.org/10.1037/a0037523

Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

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