Perfectionism Rewired

Lighten Your Load: Caring Deeply without Taking on Too Much


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You know logically it’s not *your job* to fix everything in your orbit yet the moment anything goes awry, you feel like the outcome is all on your shoulders. An overactive sense of responsibility can be a tough habit to rewire when you CARE deeply. Learn how to easily distinguish between CARE-ING and CARRY-ING.  Plus practical tips you can use immediately for being empathetic + present without getting bogged down by other people's emotions. 

On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, stop playing out worst case scenarios in your head or becoming JOYFULLY PRESENT AMBITIOUS again, Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/rewire

Listen to the full episode to hear:
  • The crucial distinctions between caring for people and carrying their load 
  • Why an overactive sense of responsibility impacts your peace, presence and growth
  • How to be empathetic. (the healthy way)
  • Practical tips you can use (today!) to lighten your load and enhance your emotional intelligence

 Highly Credible Sources Referenced in Episode 202:
  1. Bohns, V., Newark, D., & Boothby, E. (2018, October 8). When do We Feel Responsible for Other People’s Behavior and Attitudes? https://www.researchgate.net/publication/327854931_When_do_We_Feel_Responsible_for_Other_People's_Behavior_and_Attitudes
  2. Barrett, L. F. (2017). How emotions are made: The secret life of the brain. Houghton Mifflin Harcourt.
  3. Sugiura, Y., & Fisak, B. (2019). Inflated Responsibility in Worry and Obsessive Thinking. International Journal of Cognitive Therapy12(2), 97–108. https://doi.org/10.1007/s41811-019-00041-x‌
  4. Tangney, J. P., Burggraf, S. A., & Wagner, P. E. (1995). Shame-proneness, guilt-proneness, and psychological symptoms. In J. P. Tangney & K. W. Fischer (Eds.), Self-conscious emotions: The psychology of shame, guilt, embarrassment, and pride (pp. 343–367). Guilford Press.
  5. Wiltermuth, S. S., & Cohen, T. R. (2014). “I’d only let you down”: Guilt proneness and the avoidance of harmful interdependence. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 107(5), 925–942. https://doi.org/10.1037/a0037523

Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

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