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Are you trying to figure out “what’s next” at this age of reinvention?

Meet a former Army Airborne Captain who is best known for her “Ready, Fire, Aim” personality. Laurie Reider-Jabbar was part of one of the earliest female graduating classes of the United States Military at West Point.  After serving her country for 6 years in multiple locations in Germany, she decided to try her hand at something completely new and out of her comfort  by entering the world of entrepreneurship.

After starting and selling multiple companies, coupled with an epic startup fail,  Laurie decided to focus on being a mom and volunteer within her community.  Leveraging "the year of being home" in 2020, Laurie decided to launch a podcast.  With its first Episodes airing in January of 2021, "She's a 10 Times 5," strives to provide a voice and relatable topics, as well as inspire those women who want to live some of their best years after 40.

In this episode, we are talking to Laurie Reider-Jabbar. First, Laurie opens up and tells the story of being a female graduating from the United States Military at West Point. She explains what it was like to be one of the few women in The Airforce Academy and gives her opinions on sexual abuse in the military. Later, Laurie speaks about the importance of vulnerability as a trailblazer and what she learned about leadership in the military. Tune in as Laurie opens up about her divorce and gives life advice that you don’t want to miss.

In This Episode:

• Laurie Reider-Jabbar tells her story [ 6:40 ]
• What it’s like being a woman in the military [ 16:15 ]
• How the military made Laurie a good leader [ 20:45 ]
• Laurie reveals her controversial opinions on sexual abuse in the military [ 28:10 ]
• Why vulnerability is an essential trait for leaders [ 42:55 ]
• Laurie speaks about her divorce [ 45:20 ]
• How to let go of pain and establish positivity [ 54:30 ]

Quotes:

• “I love nothing more than to help a woman try to reach her goal.”
• “Don’t be afraid of being a woman.”
• “No matter how hard things get, or how hard they seem - somehow you could pull up your bootstraps and just make it happen.”
• “Sometimes we learn good leadership from really bad leaders.”
• “Being flawed is okay.”
• “I’m not perfect, and I don’t want to be.”

Links Mentioned: 

• Download 5 Free Meditations
• Walk Through This
• Join My Retreats
• Sara’s Facebook
• Live Boldly
• Laurie’s Instagram
• Laurie’s LinkedIn
• She’s a 10 Times 5
• EPISODE 18: Take the Road To Forgiveness, Featuring Sara Schulting-Kranz

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Have you ever felt like you are stuck?

Noa Shaw​ is a certified life coach who guides his clients to become better versions of themselves by helping them identify and understand their purpose and achieve what they want in life. Whether you’re searching for more meaning or fulfillment in your personal life and relationships, or seeking to establish the confidence and accountability to realize your business, career and leadership goals, Noa can help you chart your path and develop the tools you’ll need to grow. With over 20 years of experience working in addiction treatment and helping clients rebuild their lives in the aftermath of trauma, Noa specializes in helping guide his clients from the depths of darkness into a life filled with beauty and light.

In this episode, I talk to Noa Shaw, who has dedicated his life to helping other people. First, Noa opens up about his story of never fitting in and being the black sheep of his family. After a downward spiral of fighting, car accidents, violence, dead friends, suicide attempts, failed marriages, and stints in rehab, Noa needed to change. Noa explains how he turned his life around and why he loves to help other people work through their issues, improve their lives, and find abundance.

In This Episode:

• All about Noa Shaw and his story [ 3:30 ]
• Why Noa’s book starts with “I SHOULD BE DEAD” [ 19:45 ]
• The importance of mentors in Noa’s life [ 32:25 ]
• Noa reveals the least spiritual thing that you can say [ 35:20 ]
• How we are all products of our childhood [ 43:00 ]
• About the person that changed Noa’s life [ 50:10 ]

Quotes:

• “I met one of the most important people in my life on Zoom.”
• “Saying you're really spiritual is pretty much counterintuitive to the concept of spirituality.”
• “I'm a searcher.”
• “We have the capacity for great love, but also the capacity for great evil.”
• “It's up to us to be to be overly kind, loving, joyous, and free.”
• “I couldn't cry because I didn't really know how to cry.”

Links Mentioned: 

• Download 5 Free Meditations
• Walk Through This
• Join My Retreats
• Sara’s Facebook
• Live Boldly
• Noa’s Website
• Noa’s Instagram
• Noa’s Twitter
• stop thinking thoughts that scare you: a selfless help guide of practical tools to eliminate fear and anxiety and live a life of abundance

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Lisa Pachence is an Executive Life and Leadership Coach to big-hearted, high-achievers who crave extraordinary lives, incredible impact, and badass well-being. As an Elite Coach for coaches, entrepreneurs, and executives, Lisa brings deep insights, practical tactics, and masterful partnership to enact transformative life and business changes. She is a Professional Certified Coach (PCC), ICF Mentor Coach, Speaker, Author in “Success in Any Season”, and founder of LP Coaching and Consulting, which offers designer coaching to clients such as Google execs, start-up founders, and entrepreneurs.

She’s been featured on “This is It TV” and “The College Success Professor”, and has contributed to internationally acclaimed podcasts and websites such as The Dreammason Podcast, The HumanCare Podcast, Opulent Events, Noomii, and more. When she isn’t leading a coach-training program, deep-diving with clients, or teaching a workshop, she’s traveling the world with her husband (pre-2020), chasing her two cats, or hosting community connection & vino hours.

In this episode, we are talking about masculine versus feminine energy. Lisa explains the differences between the two and describes the importance of combining both energies throughout your life. Plus, we chat about why we all need to find more empathy, compassion, and connection on our journeys, especially after the last two challenging years. Later, Lisa talks about how she found pleasure and joy in the world and why our brains are not actually designed to make us happy.

In This Episode:

• All about Lisa Pachence [ 2:30 ]
• The importance of combining both your masculine and feminine energies [ 10:25 ]
• Why you need to empathy, compassion, and connection [ 22:00 ]
• The differences between masculine and feminine energies [ 30:40 ]
• Learn how to find pleasure and joy in the world [ 42:00 ]
• The importance of self-care and patience during quarantine [ 50:50 ]

Quotes:

• “We create our own glass ceiling.”
• “So many of us like what we're selling.”
• “I had to learn how to find pleasure and joy in the world.”
• “Our brains are not designed to make us happy; they're designed to prevent us from dying.”
• “Be compassionate.”
• “We feed ourselves our own bullshit all the time.”

Links Mentioned: 

• Download 5 Free Meditations
• Walk Through This
• Join My Retreats
• Sara’s Facebook
• Live Boldly
• LP Coaching
• Email Lisa
• Lisa’s Instagram
• Lisa’s LinkedIn

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How can you regain your sanity after being gaslighted?

Sarah Morales is a certified life and relationship coach who has been coaching professionally for nine years.  During that time, she has contracted with numerous helping professionals and spoken at national conferences, all from the lens of her gaslighting expertise.

In 2021, her gaslighting specialty is culminating in her soon to be released Deconstructing Gaslighting™ offerings: an app, mini-course, and podcast – all aimed at empowering others to better understand and identify gaslighting in their lives and relationships. 

Sarah’s passion to empower others to transform their lives fuels her work with her clients and pushes her to continue developing new programs on the cutting edge of helping others grow to know, trust, and love themselves more than they knew was possible.

 Sarah lives in Austin, Texas, with her family. In her spare time, you’ll most often find her running on her favorite trail down by Lady Bird Lake. Sarah loves spending time with her favorite people—talking, laughing, cooking and enjoying the richness of healthy relationships.  

In this episode, we are talking about gaslighting. Has there ever been a time in your life where you have felt like perhaps someone was out to make you feel crazy? Maybe they were manipulating a situation where you sat there questioning yourself. Gaslighting is something that needs to be talked about within relationships across the board. Sarah opens up the show by explaining how she got into the world of gaslighting and what exactly gaslighting can look like. Tune in as we chat about understanding your values better and the importance of knowing your limits.

In This Episode:

• All about Sarah Morales and how she got into gaslighting [ 5:20 ]
• What gaslighting looks like [ 9:00 ]
• The importance of looking at your own vulnerabilities [ 15:40 ]
• How gaslighting can impact our lives [ 21:15 ]
• Why people do gaslighting behaviors [ 24:40 ]
• The difference between manipulation and gaslighting  [ 34:20 ]
• How to truly understand who you are [ 38:30 ]
• Understanding your values better [ 48:10 ]
• What to know about gaslighting while living a healthy lifestyle [ 54:15 ]

Quotes:

• “Manipulation is something that people do in order to get another person to do something.”
• “Boundaries are really misused and misconstrued.”
• “I define me.”
• “I define my limits.”
• “Gaslighting is everywhere.”
• “Check within yourself.”

Links Mentioned: 

• Download 5 Free Meditations
• Walk Through This
• Join My Retreats
• Sara’s Facebook
• Live Boldly
• Follow Sarah on Instagram

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What is your desire?

Cailin McDuff, the “Working Woman’s Pleasure Guide,” helps overworked, stressed women who spend too much time in their heads slow down and connect with their bodies so that they can enjoy a life based in pleasure.

Having never had an orgasm until the age of 33 to now fully connecting with her body and all the sensations it provides, Cailin created a safe community-- Cocoon: The Fully Embodied Feminine Experience, where she uses her experience to mentor women in creating this shift for themselves so that they can let go, live joyfully, and be bright again.

She’s also the host of top-rated sexuality podcast, Any Way You Want It, where loyal fans tune in regularly for her authentic, fresh and edgy conversations about sex, relationships, and life. She has spoken on numerous stages, including LinkedIn’s Talent Connect and Inner Nerds, a community of curious people in New York. Her most popular talk is, “Permission for Pleasure,” and she is being featured in VoyageLA this month for her work with women and pleasure.

In this episode, we have an incredible conversation. We dive into everything from intimacy, sex, who we are as women, and the feminine side of our life. If you are someone who is looking at your intimacy, your femininity, your sexuality, and you’re coming out of profound traumas, this is a really beautiful episode for you to enjoy.  Cailin brings forth everything from our femininity and who we are as women. Tune in as we chat about the importance of community, how to trust your feminine, and ways to create intimacy with yourself.

In This Episode:

• About Cailin and how she became the Working Woman’s Pleasure Guide [ 6:35 ]
• Why you need to address your sexuality [ 16:30 ]
• Start simple and create intimacy with yourself [ 20:15 ]
• How to start trusting your feminine [ 33:00 ]
• The importance of getting into a community with women [ 45:20 ]

Quotes:

• “You can’t have a conversation about stepping into your power in the world without addressing your sexuality.”
• “I did not know how numb my body was until I started thawing out.”
• “Your achievement is not bad; it’s amazing.”
• “My truth is my body.”
• “Get into a community with women.”
• “Stretch your capacity to have space for yourself.”

Links Mentioned: 

• Download 5 Free Meditations
• Walk Through This
• Join My Retreats
• Sara’s Facebook
• Live Boldly
• Cailin McDuff’s Website
• Any Way You Want It

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Are you ever too old to chase your dreams?

Jean Ketcham is Aging but Dangerous. Years ago, she made the conscious decision to live a life of fun, spirit and style, and she’s never looked back.

Jean is a former small business owner, top performing regional sales rep, and talk show host. She’s also a proud parent, an avid skydiver, and a cancer survivor. To put it mildly, Jean is up to any challenge.

After retiring, Jean discovered that 55+ women were not living up to their true potential. Their social circles were shrinking and their lifestyles were becoming less stimulating, less adventurous. That’s when Jean became committed to making a difference.

Jean began organizing meetings where women could connect and share experiences, insights and strategies to help them enrich their lives. She brought in speakers on a wide variety of subjects to empower women to take control of the aging process; she also produced special events like 55+ fashion shows, skydiving outings, and an infamous “colonoscopy party.”

Before long, Aging but Dangerous was attracting National attention. Jean was asked to appear on talk shows and in major publications like Time Magazine.

In this episode, Jean tells us why getting older isn't scary after all. In fact, the older we get, the more we can live our dreams and reach our most significant potential. Jean drops so much inspiration in this episode. She reveals all the ways that she stays motivated and positive on her journey. Plus, we chat about the secret to successful relationships, and Jean reveals her biggest regret in life. Later, Jean explains why you're never too old to follow your dreams and the reason you need to get out into the world and prove something to yourself!

In This Episode:

• About Jean Ketcham [ 2:00 ]
• How Jean has stayed positive on her journey [ 12:20 ]
• Ways to inspire yourself despite Covid [ 19:15 ]
• In relationships, you have to let each other be their own person [ 28:00 ]
• The reason you need to stop spending time and energy on your weight [ 37:50 ]
• Jean’s message for the world [ 43:30 ]

Quotes:

• “I love the whole aging thing.”
• “It's never too late to do whatever you want to do.”
• “You have to just keep searching for your soul and what you like and what you want.”
• “Nobody else is going to do the hard work that you have to do inside yourself.”
• “Get out there and do something!”
• “Prove something to yourself.”

Links Mentioned: 

• Download 5 Free Meditations
• Walk Through This
• Join My Retreats
• Sara’s Facebook
• Live Boldly
• My Saint My Hero
• My Saint My Hero on Instagram
• Aging But Dangerous
• Aging But Dangerous on Facebook

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How does your mindset change when life throws you a massive curveball?

Two weeks ago, I introduced Gregg Garfield on this podcast. He is known as patient zero, the gentleman who almost passed away from COVID-19. It was an incredible story of just inspiration, believing, and truly understanding that we can survive anything in this world. So today, I have on his fiancée, Anneliese "AJ" Johnson; she is a brilliant, beautiful woman, the partner of Gregg Garfield, and the woman who stood by his side throughout all of his recovery.

I decided to bring her on because it's just as important to hear a partner's story as the actual person going through the experience. I would love you to grab your journal and listen to her words; it is so inspiring. It's time to really curl up and ground yourself outside during this conversation. So, tune in as AJ dives deep into the story behind Gregg's recovery and what she learned about herself while facing adversity. Plus, AJ chats about the importance of mindset on a life-changing and challenging journey.

In This Episode:

• All about Anneliese “AJ” Johnson [ 5:10 ]
• How AJ heard the news of Gregg’s diagnosis [ 9:45 ]
• Why animals are the most incredible source of love [ 22:30 ]
• The importance of living to learn more about yourself [ 26:20 ]
• What AJ had to understand when Gregg was in the hospital [ 29:30 ]
• Through adversity, it’s up to you how it will change your life [ 43:40 ]
• The importance of a strong foundation for a healthy relationship [ 50:40 ]
• AJ gives her advice for handling these challenging times [ 55:10 ]

Quotes:

• “Animals are the most incredible source of love outside of our own children and our parents.”
• “I thrive, and I live to grow.”
• “I thrive, and I live to learn more about myself.”
• “Look at the universe and say: show me what you can do.”
• “We're not perfect; this is not an easy road that we're on.”
• “We definitely find the time to be totally annoying to each other.”

Links Mentioned: 

• Download 5 Free Meditations
• Walk Through This
• Join My Retreats
• Sara’s Facebook
• Live Boldly
• Follow AJ on Instagram

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How are you staying humble + sincere during these challenging times? 

Today I chat with a total inspiration, Gregg Garfield. He is a testament to the power of positive thinking. Gregg is otherwise known as patient zero; his story will fascinate you. It's going to leave you believing in your goals. Gregg lived the adventurous life. He imagined skiing around the world, mountain biking, playing golf, staying fit, and enjoying the company of friends and loved ones. When he joined his ski buddies in Italy's mountains in late February of 2020 - he had no way to perceive that his life would forever change.

Gregg contracted Covid in Italy, and he returned to Southern California, struggling to breathe. His doctors gave him a 1% chance to survive. Well, not the odds anyone would want to count on. Gregg fought from the brink of death to recover after spending 31 days on a ventilator and 64 days in the hospital. Gregg achieved his goal of walking out of the hospital and is even now back to skiing. This interview was one of the most fascinating in-depth, and beautiful conversations that I have recorded. Tune in as we chat about what Gregg learned on his journey, the importance of staying humble, and the power of positive thinking. 

In This Episode:

• About Gregg Garfield [ 1:35 ]
• Gregg dives into his experience in 2020 with Covid [ 4:10 ]
• What it’s like to have ICU psychosis [ 32:00 ]
• About the growth that Gregg went through during his experience [ 45:50 ]
• Getting back to the slopes after Covid [ 55:50 ]
• The most significant lesson that Gregg has learned [ 58:50 ]
• Advice for people who are struggling [ 62:15 ]

Quotes:

• “I had what you call a cytokine storm, which is an inflammatory issue that turned my immune system against me.”
• “The doctors told me I was a miracle.”
• “I ended up going through what you call ICU psychosis.”
• “Nurses are literally the most selfless human beings on the planet.”
• “The amount of people that stood up for me and stood by my side really confirmed the person that I am.”
• “It's just such an empowering thing to be humbled.”

Links Mentioned: 

• Sara’s Facebook
• Live Boldly
• Walk Through This
• Join My Retreats
• Gregg’s Website
• Gregg’s Instagram

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Are you ready to finally find freedom in your choices after betrayal?

Dr. Barbara Steffens has specialized in the area of sexual addiction and providing help for the partners of sexual addicts since 1999. Her book, Your Sexually Addicted Spouse: How Partners Can Cope and Heal (Steffens & Means, 2009), co-authored with Marsha Means, MA, is dramatically affecting change in the lives of those who are victims and the professionals who are trained to serve them. 

Dr. Steffens has been instrumental in shaping an alternative model for helping partners - one which views the partner as someone who has experienced a life-altering traumatic event and not as a co-addict or “part of the problem.” Speaking at international and national conferences on sexual addiction, and educating her peers on the traumatic effects disclosure of this addiction has on the partner, she is a recognized expert in this field.

Dr. Barbara's experiences and what she brings to this field have literally changed my life. In this episode, we dive into relational and betrayal trauma. Relational and betrayal trauma occurs within the context of a relationship where there's an expectation of safety. Both parties agree, and promises are there; however, those expectations become broken. It's like walking around life believing one thing to be true and then finding out someone has been hiding something and deceiving you. Tune in as we talk about sex addiction, recovery, and the freedom of choice after betrayal + trauma.

In This Episode:

• About Dr. Barbara Steffens [ 1:30 ]
• The definition of relational and betrayal trauma [ 7:55 ]
• All about sex addiction [ 14:30 ]
• What sex addiction recovery can look like [ 17:15 ]
• We talk about choice + consent [ 24:30 ]
• What creates a healthy relationship [ 29:30 ]
• The benefits of growing resilience [ 38:10 ]
• About discovery + disclosure [ 40:25 ]

Quotes:

• “We have to feel safe; we have to feel heard, and we have to feel validated.”
• “You can change your mind. If you choose one thing today, you can choose something different tomorrow.”
• “A healthy relationship is where there's a oneness.”
• “The choice of resilience and growth is the choice for life.”
• “If your life decision is not to grow, then you're really going to miss out on an awful lot.”
• “I think it's really hard to build a relationship after betrayal without a foundation of honesty.”

Links Mentioned: 

• Sara’s Facebook
• Live Boldly
• Walk Through This
• Join My Retreats
• Visit Dr. Barbara’s Website
• Read the book Your Sexually Addicted Spouse

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Are you ready to explore the magic in finding your balance between courage and fear?

Cara Elizabeth Yar Khan is an entrepreneurial humanitarian and disability advocate who has had an invigorating career, spanning ten countries, so far. In 2001, Cara embarked on her international travels to work in Ecuador for two years with the United Nations World Food Programme before another two years with corporate giant Dell Panama where she managed Corporate Communications.

For 10 years with the United Nations Children's Fund (UNICEF) in Private Sector Partnerships Cara had assignments in 7 different countries. In Haiti, Cara also took on the additional role of disability focal point during the Earthquake Emergency Recovery Operation. This role led to a successful public speaking career and agent representation with Seth Dechtman. To accompany her Master's degree from Johns Hopkins University, School of Advanced International Studies, Cara is gifted in languages, fluent in Spanish, conversational in basic Mandarin Chinese and has a working knowledge of French and Portuguese.

Born in India and raised in Canada by a multi-ethnic family of Indian Muslim, British Anglican and Chinese Buddhist immigrants, in 2006, Cara was diagnosed with a rare muscle-wasting disease, called HIBM, that leads to quadriplegia. Since then, Cara has used her platform to advocate for the rights and inclusion of people with disabilities. As part of her advocacy work, Cara is producing a documentary film, directed by Celia Aniskovich with the legendary award-winning filmmaker Sam Pollard as Executive Producer.

Cara is also writing her first memoir with the Carol Mann Agency in NYC. The highlight of her career, to date, was speaking at the 2019 TED Women conference. Her TED talk, "The beautiful balance between courage and fear" has been viewed more than 2.2 million times since its release. Today Cara lives in Atlanta, GA with her husband, U.S. Army SSG. (Ret.) John Masters and Southern cats, Bubba and Moon.

In this episode, we open the show and talk about how ableism still affects people with disabilities. Also, we discuss why it's so uncomfortable to talk about past traumas and the reason we need to destigmatize these deep and necessary conversations. There's so much shame associated with them. When in reality, there shouldn't be any shame, and there shouldn't be any discomfort. As a collective, we need to work on giving each other grace for our imperfections.

Later, we dig in and speak about the healing power of nature, especially in the Grand Canyon. When we get out into nature, there is a transformation that can happen on our healing journey. Nature will give us the space to find more clarity within our lives. Plus, we talk about the importance of mindfulness and staying in the present moment, especially when soaking in our lands' majestic scenery. Tune in as we dive into relationships and what it feels like to find a soulmate.

In This Episode:

• About Cara Elizabeth Yar Khan [ 1:40 ]
• How our courage lives within us [ 11:30 ]
• Why it’s uncomfortable to talk about past trauma [ 19:00 ]
• How the power of forgiveness can guide us on our journey [ 21:50 ]
• All about working in the Grand Canyon [ 30:05 ]
• About the healing power of nature in the Grand Canyon [ 45:45 ]
• Why we need to stop questioning each other [ 50:40 ]

Quotes:

• “I've been privileged enough to somehow find courage, to live just as a productive, happy, fulfilled life now and proudly as a woman with a disability.”
• “I hope that together as a collective, our war of imperfection will be a great sense of pride.”
• “In the Grand Canyon, you realize that it’s a place holding so much spirit.”
• “The Grand Canyon is a wonderful place to kick your ego’s ass.”
• “My life isn't all about me; when it's about others, that's where I shine.”

Links Mentioned: 

• Sara’s Facebook
• Live Boldly
• Walk Through This
• Join My Retreats
• Cara’s LinkedIn
• Cara’s Website
• Like Cara on Instagram
• Follow Cara on Twitter

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