Do you quit when it gets hard?

Do you quit when you can’t win?

Do you quit when it’s not perfect?

Do you quit when it stops being fun?

I’m not just a professional hider; I’m also a professional quitter since my childhood. I’ve missed out on all kinds of things for decades.

Quitting gets us nowhere fast, and we can never fulfill God’s call on our life if we keep giving up.

“When confronted with a challenge, the committed heart will search for a solution. The undecided heart searches for an escape.” - Andy Andrews in the Seven Decisions.

Here are three simple steps to go from professional quitter to professional committer:

1. Never Give Up–Never Surrender

Keep moving forward even if you don’t feel like it, even if you’re afraid, and even if it gets hard.

2. Go for No

Commit to doing the journey no matter whether you win or not. Keep moving forward, no matter the results. Do that thing anyway, even if it’s not perfect.

3. Debunk the Excuses

Fear is really a pretty package wrapped in an excuse.

Unwrap the fear, expose it for what it is and how it’s stopping you.

Then do steps one and two:

Never Give Up–Never Surrender

Go for No

Commit to fulfilling your dreams, and you'll discover the solutions to move you forward no matter what.

You’ll never regret trying and failing, but you’ll always regret not trying and escaping.

If you need help overcoming the fear that’s been wrapped in those excuses, pick up my free resource, Three Habits to Live Fearlessly Free, at https://www.heatherlbunch.com/.

This worksheet will help you overcome the fear holding you back from fulfilling your dreams.

You got this!

Thanks a bunch for listening!

Until Next Time, Live Fearlessly Free!

Do you ever feel like you never do enough, or I’ll celebrate when I get that big one done?

Have you ever struggled to feel ashamed to share a win? Will they think I’m bragging?

Do you hear others share wins and feel left out?

Do you feel a twinge of jealousy when others win?

Today is for you if:

I shared with my friends when I hit 500 plays in this podcast and celebrated that small win! It felt awesome!!

Celebrate the small wins

When we celebrate our wins, it helps us enjoy life. It helps us appreciate ourselves more.

Celebrate any forward movement

Celebrating forward movement also keeps us moving toward our goals.

Celebrate other’s wins

When we can celebrate others, it makes their day and ours.

Wins are forward movement toward your calling.

So what can you celebrate?

Celebrating your wins and others’ wins brings everyone up and keeps us moving toward our God-given purpose.

If you’re a businesswoman or entrepreneur looking for other businesswomen who love God and are like-minded, I want to invite you to check out Woman of Audacious Faith. This group of ladies is where I learned to celebrate myself and celebrate others’ wins. They’ll help you too if you need that!

We have a free Facebook group where we can ask questions, help others and celebrate with each other. We also meet on Zoom on the first Friday of the month for encouragement, connection and growth in our faith and business.

Click here to find the group on Facebook and https://www.facebook.com/groups/wafcommunity, then click JOIN  to sign-up.

Thanks a bunch for listening!

Until Next Time, Live Fearlessly Free.

How do you handle conflict?

Do you shy away? Hit it head-on? Mediate? Give in?

Do you say, “what conflict”?

We all deal with conflict in different ways.

Here are six tips for creating healthy conflict:

1. Put yourself in the other person’s shoes

How do they see it? They may not see it how you do.

This changes your perspective.

2. Talk respectfully

Treat each other how you want to be treated.

Remember that Golden Rule? It still applies.

3. Be honest with others

Don’t hide what you’re feeling or thinking. Be honest. Be open and vulnerable.

Don’t forget that part about talking respectfully to each other.

4. Be honest with yourself

If you’re the issue, be honest and admit that.

If you’re bothered by something because it’s a trigger, admit that story.

Own your part and ask forgiveness.

5. Stick it out

Finished the conversation, forgive and let it go.

Keep your slate clean, so the conflicts don’t keep building and building and cause more issues.

6. Take a break if you need it, and come back and finish the conversation

Sometimes you do need to walk away or process before finishing the conversation.

But here’s the key: Admit what you need and ask for the space.

Then come back and resolve the conversation.

As you work through conflict in healthy ways, your relationship goes deeper.

If you need help overcoming the fear of conflict, pick up my free resource, Three Habits to Live Fearlessly Free, at https://www.heatherlbunch.com/.

This worksheet will help you overcome the fear of conflict so you can create deeper relationships.

Thanks a bunch for listening!!

Until Next Time, Live Fearlessly Free!

Have you ever thought after some incident you’re not proud of, “WHAT WAS I THINKING?!”

Do you want to fulfill your purpose and know there’s something blocking you but aren’t sure what?

Do you find yourself missing out on moments because your mind is somewhere else?

In this episode, I’m going to show you how to use mindfulness to become your best self.

Here’s the thing; we can’t fix what we know is an issue. Mindfulness puts us in a state so we can see what is and allows us to see what needs to change and what needs to go.

What is mindfulness exactly?

Here’s the ABCs of mindfulness

A - Awareness

See what is

B - Be Present

Be in the moment instead of in your head, in the past or in the future.

C - Compassionate Self-Awareness

You’re not judgmental and you don’t let yourself off the hook. You just admit your issue without the inner critic.

Now, here’s the thing. Once we’re become aware what needs to change in us, then we can do something about it.

How?

1. Capture

Capture in the moment and see the patterns and blindspots so you can look at them. Why do you do what you do?

2. Challenge

Challenge your behavior or feelings.

Challenge your thoughts that led to this behavior.

Ask yourself:

Is it true? Is it kind? Is it helpful?

3. Choose

Choose a new thought, feeling and action.

We have the power to change because we think, we feel and we choose.

It’s in our control.

When you change your thoughts, you change your future. But first you need to become aware through mindfulness what’s really going on.

If you’re enjoying this podcast, please take a moment and rate and review it if you haven’t already! Thank you to those of you who have reviewed the podcast already!!

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Thanks a bunch for listening!!

Until Next Time, Live Fearlessly Free!

Have you ever had bad things that happen to you? Yea, me too.

Do these things prevent you from moving forward?

Is it possible to view issues in life another way?

Life happens. We all have terrible, crappy things that happen in our lives.

Do we let those things be a period in our lives or a comma?

You get to decide how you view what happens to you.

Are you going to pause and learn from that problem and then move forward?

Or will you let that thing stop you from doing what God’s called you to do?

You can decide if that circumstance is a comma in your life or a period.

I want you to look at the periods in your life and the events that have held you back. Then ask God to show you how you can turn this issue into a comma, how you can pause, learn and move forward.

If you’re enjoying this podcast, please take a moment and rate and review it if you haven’t already! Thank you to those of you who have reviewed the podcast already!!

Thanks a bunch for listening!!

Until Next Time, Live Fearlessly Free!

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Have you ever had one of those days?

You know, the kind where you just feel off.

How can you pull out of that quickly and not let it drag on?

Is there a way to change your mood even when you’re unsure what’s wrong?

Today I’m talking about two simple words that can instantly change your mood.

Today is for you if:

I remember when I got in an off mood, it would sometimes take me hours or even days to get back to normal.

But I discovered two words that changed everything; two words that instantly changed my mood.

Happy Triggers.

What are Happy Triggers, you ask?

A trigger is something that sets off an action or response.

So, Happy Triggers create a happy response.

How do you create Happy Triggers?

Just think of some things in your life that make you smile when you think of them.

So, what triggers a happy response when you think of it?

My happy triggers are:

So, what are your Happy Triggers?

Come up with 3 - 5 triggers.

Then pull them out when you’re feeling down for a quick pick me up.

Here are some ideas to get you started:

You might be thinking, “This is too simple! How could Happy Triggers possibly work?”

Happy Triggers work because we can’t think a negative thought and a positive thought at the same time. Your dominant thought will push the other thought out of your head.

Our mind is so powerful. God designed us to feel what we’re thinking. So when we choose thoughts that make us smile and bring joy to our lives, we will also begin to feel happier.

We’re not victims of our thoughts–we’re the designers of it.

So, let’s choose to use that power and bring more joy into our lives.

“First we make choices and then our choices make us.” - Andy Andrews in the 7 Decisions.

So, come up with 3 - 5 happy triggers and watch your mood lift.

You got this!

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Do you want to do something significant, but fear holds you back?

Are you waiting to feel brave so you can step out?

How’s that working for you? Yea, it didn’t work for me either.

Today is for you if you need some help being brave.

If you’re unsure or doubt yourself, I’m talking to you too.

If you’re tired of waiting for your life of significance to come to you, today is your day!

Courage isn’t the absence of fear–it’s doing it afraid anyway.

So how do you do it afraid anyway?

Courage is like a power plant. 

Power plants don’t have energy; they generate energy.

We don’t have courage–we generate it!

Here are four steps to generate courage:

1. Name it

What do you want to do that you need courage for? Name it.

You must feel strongly about what you want, or you won’t bother to do what’s necessary to push past the fear.

2. Take it to God

Ask for wisdom, clarity and favor.

Proverbs 21:31 NIV

The horse is made ready for battle, but victory rests with the Lord.

3. Make a Plan

Think steps, not leaps. What are the small steps you can take toward your dream?

4. Go for it

Take the steps.

You generate courage as you go for it. 

Each time you step out, you generate more courage for the next step.

As you take more steps, your courage builds and builds. 

Each step moves you closer to your life of significance.

If you need more help generating courage, pick up my free resource, Three Habits to Live Fearlessly Free, at https://www.heatherlbunch.com/.

This worksheet will help you overcome the fear holding you back so you can live your life of significance.

Thanks a bunch for listening!

Until Next Time, Live Fearlessly Free!

Do you get triggered at the drop of a hat?

Do you overreact to situations or people?

How do you respond when life doesn’t go like you thought it would?

In this episode, I will show you how to turn your triggers upside down so you can go from overreacting to responding in a healthy way.

We all have expectations of how we think life should happen or people should be.

When our reality and expectations don’t match, we get triggered.

The bigger the gap, the more we’re triggered.

First, you need to know you can’t control others or your circumstances, but you can control yourself and how you respond.

Here are four questions to turn those triggers upside down and learn to respond instead of reacting.

1. What’s the trigger?

Is it when the kids fight?

The car breaks down?

There is more month than money left?

You probably have more than one trigger. What are they? Write those down.

2. What’s the pattern?

How do you respond?

Yell? Stress? Fear? Overbearing?

3. What’s the real problem?

What is the root?

My root is I think life should be 100% peaceful. So when peace or harmony is broken, like when the kids fight, I yell and stress out on them.

But, life won’t be 100% harmonious, so my expectation is unrealistic.

4. How can I respond differently?

When I turned my expectation that life has to be 100% harmonious to, life will not always be peaceful; I can respond calmly and actually get to keep my peace in the end.

Pre-determine your new responses will help you respond instead of reacting on autopilot.

When you change your triggers, you change your life.

You got this!

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I’m wondering, have you been rewriting your story, but you got stuck?

What is my new story supposed to look like?

Maybe you’re struggling to dream or dream at all.

Today is for you if: 

I struggled to discover my dream. It took me years to uncover it and move into my dream.

I want to give you some of the steps I took to uncover my purpose so you can find yours too.

1. Build awareness

Become aware of what you don’t like, what you only find is okay and what lights you up.

2. Explore without commitment

Try on dreams like new clothes. See if it fits. If it doesn’t, put it in the discard pile. If you love it, keep it.

3. Do more of what lights you up and drop what you don’t prefer

God says He’ll give you the desires of your heart, but you have to discover them, try them on, and see if they fit. Then you’ll get to do more of what lights you up.

Keep exploring and trying things on. Then do more of what lights you up. These are like puzzle pieces that, when put together, will make up your life of purpose.

If you need some help exploring your purpose, head to https://www.heatherlbunch.com/lifecoaching and fill out the form to have a discovery session with me. 

Let’s see if we’re a great fit to work together so you can discover your path to transformation so you can stop hiding, show up fully yourself and fulfill your God-given purpose.

Thanks a bunch for listening!

Until Next Time, Live Fearlessly Free!

Have you ever walked into a room full of people and still felt alone?

Does your marriage feel more like roommates or a transaction?

Is your relationship with God a to-do list, but you rarely feel close to Him?

Today is for you if you’re tired of feeling lonely or disconnected from friends, your spouse or God.

“Intimacy is our capacity for closeness and tenderness towards others.” – Richard Rohr.

Intimacy is what opens the door to closeness. It dissipates the loneliness.

Intimacy changes everything, including the way you live, love and communicate.

How do we achieve intimacy?

1. Let yourself out

Start with your relationship with God. It’s the safest place to start.

Intimacy is risky self-disclosure.

Sit with Father like you’re having a cup of coffee and a piece of pie with a friend.

As you do, you’ll get more comfortable.

2. Let others in

You have to let the wall down to let others in too.

Again, start with letting Father in. When you know how loved you are by your Heavenly Father; you can receive His love and give it to others.

You got this! You can do this!! And, you’re not doing it alone; your Father is with you every step of the way!

If this podcast is helping you, can you share it with a friend that needs it, please?

Thanks a bunch for listening!

Until Next Time, Live Fearlessly Free!