Do you want to live a life of significance, yet something is blocking you?

Do you ever feel like you’re too young or too old?

Maybe you think you’re not creative enough or smart enough to do something great.

Have you ever thought that stepping into your God-given purpose will cause more stress, not less, or you might be a burden on your family?

Today is for you if

How do we get rid of the blocks holding us back?

First, blocks are really excuses. They’re reasons we give not to push ourselves past the fears and do what we’re called to do.

1. Shine a light on the excuses

When you shine a light on the excuses, you can see them for what they are.

Maybe they look like:

2. Rewrite the excuses

If you think I don’t have enough time, you could rewrite that excuse as “Where do I have pockets of time.” Then use that.

Too old could be “I have a lot of experience to pull from.”

Not enough money could be “what can I do that is free or inexpensive?”

Turn those excuses on their head. Flip them. Make them work for you.

3. Do the next right thing

You must push past the excuses and step toward your dreams.

You got this! You can do this!!

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Until Next Time, Live Fearlessly Free!

What’s your old story?

How’s that story working out for you?

Are you ready to rewrite your story?

Today is for you if:

Over the last few episodes, we figured out the old story holding us back. We’ve learned how to own it and take responsibility for our part in the story, and own our strengths that helped us survive in our story.

Today it’s time to rewrite your story.

1. Pray

Go to God first. He’s there to give you wisdom and clarity to rewrite your story.

2. Rename the story

First, name your old story. What movie title or book title would you give your old story?

For me, it was Invisible Girl.

Then name your new story.

My new story name is I’ve got a golden ticket.

Because I used to feel like Charlie Bucket staring in the candy store window, he got the golden ticket and got to go to the Wonka factory. But, my favorite part is Charlie won the grand prize by being himself.

3. Write your new story

What do you want? What legacy do you want to leave?

What would your life of significance look like?

Brainstorm your story.

You can write it down or record it as a voice memo. Whatever works for you.

You may need to go back to it and keep tweaking it. Over time you’ll create a beautiful story you want to step into.

4. Do the next right action

Live in your new story, one step at a time.

Do the next right thing.

If your old story says to hide, then take the step to shine.

If your old story says no one wants to hear your voice, speak up.

If your old story tries to keep you living in shame, then speak the truth that you are the righteousness of God in CHRIST JESUS and show up fully you.

Do that thing you’re afraid to do and do it every day. Do the next right action. As you do, you’re stepping into your new story creating a bigger, brighter future one step at a time.

If you need help or want someone to come alongside you to help you rewrite your story so you can fulfill your God-given purpose, head to https://www.heatherlbunch.com/lifecoaching and fill out the form to have a discovery session with me.

Let’s see if we’re a great fit to work together so you can discover your new story so you can, stop hiding, show up fully yourself and fulfill your God-given purpose.

Thanks a bunch for listening!

Until Next Time, Live Fearlessly Free!

When you look at your old story, can you only see the bad?

Is it possible there’s good in your old story?

Could there be any gifts your old story gave you?

Today is for you if you feel broken or unworthy because of your old story.

Maybe you can’t see any positive in your old story, and it’s keeping you from seeing what good can come in your future. I’m talking to you today.

Last episode, #72, We owned our old story. We took responsibility where we needed to and didn’t take responsibility that wasn’t ours to own. We also owned the cost of staying in our old story.

But it’s not all bad!

We need to own the GOOD. 

Here are three ways to own the good in your old story. 

1. What are your strengths?

You have strengths that you used in your old story. Where were you strong?

I am a moderator, a mediator. I can see all sides and bring people together.

2. How did those strengths show up in your old story? Where in your childhood and adulthood?

In my childhood, I always rescued my little brother from my older brother. I was also the mediator between my parents.

In my adulthood, being a mediator and seeing all the sides allowed me to see my part in my first marriage’s failure. I could see my former husband’s side of the story.

 I used my strength for good to help others.

How about you?

3. What are the gifts your old story gave you?

Acknowledge those gifts.

The gift of learning to be a mediator helps me be a peacemaker with others and bring people together that have different views and beliefs. That’s a gift my old story gave me.

That is a part of my old story I want to take into my new story.

How about you? What are the gifts in your old story, and what do you want to take into your new story?

You got this!

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What’s your old story? Is it serving you?

Does your old story keep you stuck?

What is it costing you?

Does your old story keep you the victim?

Today is for you if:

First, we need to discover our old story, that story we created in childhood, to keep ourselves safe.

If you want some help pulling out that old story, check out episode 70: Is your old story holding you back? 

Once we know our old story, we need to create a new one–rewrite our story.

The first thing we need to do to rewrite our old story is to OWN IT!

We must own our old story in three areas:

1. Own your responsibility

What’s your part in the story?

Own that.

2. Don’t own other people’s responsibility

Own your part, but don’t own someone else’s part in the story.

3. Own the cost

What is it costing you to hang on to this old story?

When you own your old story, you take your power back.

When you own your old story, it allows you to move on so you can rewrite your story.

If you want help overcoming the old story holding you back because fear is gripping you, please get my free resource, Three Habits to Live Fearlessly Free, at https://www.heatherlbunch.com/. Sign up, and I’ll get you those habits that will change your life!

This worksheet will help you overcome the fear holding you back and help you rewrite a new story that opens the door to a bigger, brighter future.

You’ve got this!

Thanks a bunch for listening!

Until Next Time, Live Fearlessly Free!

Do you have a case of the NEVERs?

Today is for you if:

I’ve experienced all of the above! Fear held me back for decades.

I will share with you three steps to fulfill your God-given purpose. I’ve personally walked through these steps and continue to use them to keep dreaming and living my life of significance.

1. Want it

You have to want it bad enough so you can move out of your comfort zone.

You’ll stay in your comfy comfort zone if you don’t want it enough.

Ask yourself, “why do I want to fulfill my dreams?”

2. Do it afraid

Get comfortable being uncomfortable. You don’t have to wait to do it until you’re not afraid anymore. Do it afraid anyway. That’s the definition of courage.

Every time stretch out of your comfort zone, it gets a little bit easier, and you gain confidence.

Keep doing it, afraid!!

3. Keep moving towards it

Keep moving forward. Give yourself grace and self-compassion when you fail, fall or never step out. 

Pick yourself back up and keep moving towards your dreams. 

Don’t give up.

Every day you keep moving forward, you’re living your life of significance!

If you need help kicking fear to the curb, get up my free resource, Three Habits to Live Fearlessly Free, at https://www.heatherlbunch.com/. Sign up, and I’ll get you those habits that will change your life!

This worksheet will help you overcome the fear holding you back and keep you walking toward your dreams and living your life of significance.

You’ve got this!

Thanks a bunch for listening!

Until Next Time, Live Fearlessly Free!

Is there a story holding you back from being your best self?

Are there any you've experienced when you were younger that still affect you today?

Do you have any fears?

Rejection? I’m not good enough. It’s not okay to be angry. I have to keep the peace.

Today is for you if:

The story in our mind becomes the story in our lives.

When I saw the patterns in my old story, I could see what was holding me back from being fully me and stepping into all God’s called me to.

What’s your story?

1. Write your old story down.

Set a timer for 20 - 30 minutes and start writing the major (or minor) events in your life that affected you–good and bad.

Try to come up with at least five good and five negative events.

Who are the people who helped you, and who are the people who hindered or hurt you?

2. Look for patterns.

Look for the themes or patterns in your story.

For me, my issues came down to imagination (fear of getting hurt), intimacy (fear of rejection), and identity (fear of never measuring up).

3. Interrogate your story.

Have these patterns affected you through the years?

How have they kept you safe or helped you?

How have they hurt you or held you back?

You can't fix what you don't know is an issue. So uncover that story.

Next episode, we’ll learn how to rewrite our stories so we can overcome what’s holding us back and change our future.

You got this!

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Thanks a bunch for listening!!

Until Next Time, Live Fearlessly Free

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Have you ever had a bad moment that stole your joy and turned your good day into a bad day?

Does it ever feel like your bad day had babies? Like the bad day turned into a bad week, month and year.

Do other people's moods, drama or issues affect you and how your day goes?

Today is for you if:

Three ways to turn your bad day into a good day:

1. Good days are a choice.

It's your choice.

We get to choose if that bad moment will mean we have a bad day.

2. Good days aren't dictated by others' choices.

Bad days are not bad days. They're bad moments.

We don't let others people's moods, issues or drama affect if we're going to have a good day.

People can't steal your joy unless you give them that right. Don't give them that right.

3. Good days start on the inside.

My friend, coach, author and spiritual director, Jackie Trottmann, says this: Joy is an inside job.

It starts with our thoughts and what we choose to think about the day.

We think > We feel > We choose

It's not a bad day; it's a bad moment. Keep it a moment.

You get to choose to have a good day. Don't have to care what anyone else says.

If you need help getting your imagination working for you instead of against you, pick up my free resource, Three Habits to Live Fearlessly Free, at https://www.heatherlbunch.com/.

This worksheet will help strengthen your thoughts so you can choose a good day over that bad moment. It will help you overcome the fear that may be keeping you stuck.

Thanks a bunch for listening!

Until Next Time, Live Fearlessly Free

What do you do when you don’t get what you want?

How do you react when something doesn’t go as planned?

How do you cope when things don’t go your way?

Today is for you if:

What do you handle when you don’t get what you want?

There are three conflict styles–three ways we act when we don’t get what we want.

1. Competency Style

Put their emotions aside to focus on addressing the issue in efficient ways.

These are the calm, cool and collected people.

2. Reactive Style

All about emotional realness, and they value authentic emotional expression.

Their reactions can be so strong that others feel they’re blaming or targeting them.

It shows up with drama, defensiveness or being confrontational.

3. Positive Outlook Style

Doesn’t that sound fabulous?

No, it’s really escaping, avoiding, denying or distracting yourself from the situation.

They’re always looking for the good in others even if they’ve been hurt, looking for the silver lining or trying to keep the harmony by being a door mat.

Which conflict style do you think you are?

What do you do now that you know? We should balance the conflict styles, pulling on the strengths of what you’re missing.

1. If you’re a Competency Conflict Style:

Connecting to the other styles will allow you to connect with others and what they’re feeling about this issue, problem or crisis. This keeps you more thoughtful instead of saying things like, “just calm down!” Which never helps…LOL.

You can access the reactive and positive styles’ energy and optimism while efficiently taking care of the problem.

2. If you’re a Reactive Conflict Style:

The competency style helps you focus on the resolution instead of moving into “WHY” reaction mode.

The Positive Outlook style gives you a perspective of what’s possible and positive.

3. If you’re a Positive Outlook Conflict Style:

Pulling on the Competency Style helps you stop avoiding the problem and deal with it productively.

Try facing the challenge without reframing or distracting yourself.

Use the power of the Reactive Style by acknowledging what you’re really feeling or thinking.

When you use the positive power of each conflict style, you can resolve issues in effective ways that help you be present at the moment and look towards a positive outcome.

In this episode, I used the Enneagram to break down the Conflict Styles allowing us to deal with conflict in the healthiest way possible.

If you want to discover how the Enneagram can help you be your best self, create deeper connections and live life the way God meant us to, head to https://www.heatherlbunch.com/lifecoaching and fill out the form to have a discovery session with me.

Let’s see if we’re a great fit to work together so you can discover your path to transformation so you can stop hiding, show up fully yourself and fulfill your God-given purpose.

Thanks a bunch for listening!

Until Next Time, Live Fearlessly Free

How do you deal with a problem?

Do you jump into action?

Do you go straight to your head - stuck in the analysis of paralyze?

Or, maybe you go straight to your heart - How will this affect other people?

Today is for you if you:

We all have three brains, three centers of intelligence or expression.

Are you think, feel or act first?

Our goal is to balance all three.

Try one of these options to help you stretch to the opposite:

When we balance our centers of intelligence, we get unstuck. We can solve problems more effectively, connect better with people and do what we need to even when we don’t want to.

In this episode, I used the Enneagram to break down the centers of intelligence/centers of expression to solve problems and get unstuck.

If you want to discover how the Enneagram can help you grow your relationship with God, yourself and others, get unstuck and fulfill your God-given purpose, head to https://www.heatherlbunch.com/lifecoaching and fill out the form to have a discovery session with me.

Let’s see if we’re a great fit to work together so you can discover your path to transformation so you can stop hiding, show up fully yourself and fulfill your God-given purpose.

Thanks a bunch for listening!

Until Next Time, Live Fearlessly Free

What do you think of when you think of God?

Do you think of someone sitting high in the sky with His majestic fly swatter ready to come down on you when you make a mistake?

Or, do you see Him as a loving Father ready to scoop His beloved in His strong arms when you fall?

How about names? What do you call God?

God? Lord? Exalted One? Supreme Being? Alpha and Omega?

Today is for you is:

Have an image of God as a punisher, judge or authoritarian upon His great white throne.

Struggle with feeling close to God or are afraid to come to Him with anything and everything.

Want a deep intimate relationship with God but feel like something is blocking you.

The name you associate with someone reveals a lot about your relationship with that person.

We tend to relate to God the Father how we relate to our earthly fathers. That can be good or bad, depending on your dad.

I want you to know that our Heavenly Father is NOT your earthly father.

Whether you had an incredible father, a mediocre one or a horrendous one, we must realize that our Heavenly Father is infinitely greater, unbelievably more loving and well–perfect.

His love for us surpasses our current understanding of love. His love was so great that He gave up His son, Jesus, so we could have a relationship with Him.

John 3:16 For God so loved the world…

But, there's a name that's even more intimate than Father–it's Daddy.

Romans 8:15b NKJV…you received the Spirit of adoption by whom we cry out, "Abba, Father."

Abba in Greek means "Father," it's the term of tender endearment used by a beloved child in an affectionate, dependent relationship with their father as "daddy" ("Papa").

Cry out in the original language means to cry out loudly with an urgent scream or shriek, using "inarticulate shouts that express deep emotion."

Even Jesus in Mark 14:36, He sweated blood as he CRIED out Abba as He was in the Garden of Gethsemane when He knew the cross was near.

"Everyone has experienced pain or disappointments. Everyone has known loneliness. Knowing that God is your Abba Father breathes life into your soul, life which pours out onto the people around you like a river." - Kong Hee

When you're in the middle of pain, disappointment, or hurt. Cry out to your Daddy. 

Express to Him how deeply you're feeling. 

Then, what's amazing is His love spills out of you onto others like a refreshing river filling their souls too.

I love calling God–Father because he's my loving dad. How do you like to (or want to) imagine your Heavenly Father, your Daddy?

Resources:

Sit, Walk, Stand by Watchman Nee *

Is God The Ultimate Scrooge? blog post by Heather L Bunch