In todays episode of our “Let’s Talk Polyamory” series of the podcast, we close out this mini series by talking about all of the benefits that polyamory has brought to our lives. Polyamory can bring up a lot of challenging things to the surface, but the rewards are amazing.

So today, for our final episode of this polyamory series, we deep dive into the gifts that polyamory has given us, individually and as a couple. Feeling heaps of gratitude and I hope you all love this episode as much as I loved recording it and reflecting on the last two and a half years of my life.

In todays episode of our “Let’s Talk Polyamory” series of the podcast, we deep dive into all things fear of abandonment and replacement. Todays topic really hits close to home for both of us, in very different ways. And it seems to hit close to home to many of you as well — next to jealousy, this has been our most requested conversation!

Tune in to todays episode to hear all about:

how we’ve navigated these fears pre polyamory

specifics around how we’ve struggled with these fears in wildly unique ways

how attachment theory plays into this

where this fear really stems from

Amanda gets vulnerable AF about some of her experiences that have led to her feeling more of these feelings in the last year

why we attract people into our lives that amplify our fears

tools that have supported us while navigating fear of being replaced or abandoned and beyond

In todays episode of our “Let’s Talk Polyamory” series of the podcast, we deep dive into all things perception. I get asked about this all of the time and I get it — I was wildly concerned about how I would be perceived / the reactions my friends and family would have before coming out as polyamorous. Not to mention how it would impact my online presence and beyond.

So we deep dive into all of that.

Tune in to todays episode to hear all about:

how we both felt about how we would be perceived before we came out as poly

the reactions of our friends and family

the mis-perceptions around ethical non monogamy & polyamory

how our own perceptions and biases around the things we are pulled towards can produce massive feelings of fear and shame

the root of why fear of perception has impacted us individually and beyond

Ever since coming out as polyamorous, I’ve gotten SO many DMs and messages with really incredible questions from all of you. So I decided to do a special polyamory series of the podcast, and bring on my husband every week to talk about the biggest questions, fears & beyond that we receive to speak to these topics in a deeper way.

The number one question I get? How do you navigate jealousy?

So today, Kev and I break down our personal experiences around jealousy, what’s worked for us and the biggest tools that have supported us in navigating jealousy when moving from a monogamous framework to a polyamorous one.

This episode is a deep one (and one for you no matter how you choose to do relationships ‘cause we all experience jealousy to a certain degree, eh?)

So buckle up and let’s f*cking go!

So many of you have been sharing with me that you’ve been having a global case of the “meh”s. Feeling constantly exhausted and not sure how to be/do/behave and beyond.

I had another episode planned for today but after so many of you responded that you were also feeling this way, I decided to hop on the podcast and share a quickie episode about why it’s never been more normal for these feelings to exist — for us to not be okay.

And yeah — I get candid AF about my own experience with this shit and into it with my nerdery around neuroscience. You know I can’t help myself.

Want twenty minutes of feeling better about why you’re feeling the way you’re feeling (or not feeling much of anything these days) and it’s exhausting? This episode is for you.

I am so excited to share this conversation with one of my favorite humans who advocates for all things ethical non monogamy: the one and only Gabrielle Smith.

Gabrielle Smith (she/her) is a Brooklyn-based sex and relationship writer. She specializes in looking at ethical non-monogamy, LGBTQ+ topics, mental health and sex-positivity from an intersectional standpoint. Her work has appeared in publications like SELF, Cosmopolitan, Greatist, Insider, Bitch Media and various others. She provides resources about ethical non-monogamy on her Instagram @bygabriellesmith.

Things we talk about in todays episode:

Gabrielles journey to ethical non monogamy

The importance of non sexual life partners

Why capitalism and the nuclear family has created a problematic foundation

Solo polyamory

The joy of the “choose your own adventure” way of doing relationships

Dating anecdotes as a bisexual woman

Her experience of being a black woman in the polyamorous/ENM space

Kink, sexual liberation, emotional intelligence and beyond

…and the list goes ON on todays very special episode of the podcast when I celebrate turning 30 by sharing thirty things I would tell my twenty something year old self.

I’ve been doing an episode like this since I started the podcast and it’s always my favorite way to celebrate my birthday and take stock of the lessons I’ve learned so I can share them with all of you.

Writing these out, I got really in my feels — le duh, it’s me.

My twenties were a bumpy AF ride — and everything I’ve learned have come from so much:

The moments of celebration, alignment and fierce confidence….from coming out as bi & poly and owning my unique way of loving to publishing a book to getting my preventative double mastectomy to creating a life & businesses that I love and beyond.

And, of course, the moments of shame, overwhelm & not-enoughness…from my eating disorder cycle to navigating panic attacks to having my heart broken…and so many more things that I dive into and share on todays episode of the podcast.

Sending so much love to my younger self and to all of you — we’re all simply doing our best, eh? Let’s keep showing up through all the fears, the feels and, of course, the fucks.

I’ve been getting a lot of questions around what the ins and outs of me coming into my bisexuality, and I realized I’ve never dedicated an entire episode to this very important topic — and that changes today!

In todays episode, I dig deeper into:

the three big reasons why I didn’t own my sexuality until my late twenties

the timeline of me coming into my sexuality

why I didn’t have an intimate experience with a woman until I was 28 years old

why I believe we’re seeing such an upswing in people coming out as part of the LGBTQ+ community and as gender fluid the last few years

why I started owning my bisexuality and propensity for polyamory at the same time

… and so much more

We’re breaking the stigma around bisexuality once and for all — so let’s dive into this magic.

You ready? Here we go.

The “I Don’t Give A F*ck” mentality that everyone tells you you need to achieve in order to be a badass, confident goddess? It’s Bullsh*t.

For the longest time, I have self identified as a people pleaser. At first it was seen pretty exclusively through a negative lens — and in many ways, it was something I *really* struggled with. 

I gave so much of myself to everyone else that there was nothing left to give myself and I would walk around every day feeling so burnt out & irritated.

I unknowingly practiced co-dependency in many of my relationships and rarely got any of my needs or desires met — which led to heartache, resentment and beyond. 

And I was SO focused on what everyone else thought about me that it led me to years of eating disorder cycles, staying in toxic relationships, staying in the closet around my queerness and my polyamory and beyond.

...just to name a few.

In todays episode of the Live Your F*ck Yes Life podcast, I break down what people pleasing really is all about and how it CAN be a superpower of yours — you just have to know what tools to implement so you can fully step out of the darkness and into your unique magic.

Anyone else feel overwhelmed AF this time of year?

We’re already bombarded with messaging about “try this thing and you’ll magically be happy and healthy and madly in love with yourself” throughout the year, and this time of year, it comes out in MF intensity.

I know your heart is endlessly seeking growth. Self awareness. Self Love. Healing. I’m right there with you, love.

But I also know where the magic of that path lies…and it’s NOT in that new diet, workout program, business coach, new career path, meditation app and beyond.

In todays episode, I’m sharing with you my tried & true practices as I step into a new year/season with intention in the way that nobody wants to talk about because it’s not gonna sell the big bucks and isn’t easily marketable. The inner reflection work that ACTUALLY sets you up to step into your unique magic and embody YOUR f*ck yes self.

‘Cause you MF deserve to feel true self acceptance, health, joy, and wholeness.

Let’s f*cking go, shall we?