After receiving an email from a listener asking if I thought my relationship with my wife was a trauma Bond relationship but I had never heard of that before so I had done some reading and figured I would bring to you what I learned about a drama relationship.

This is the worst episode of recorded to date... My wife just went through extremely tragic event and because we were fighting she refused to allow me to be involved in this incident and pushed me away and I haven't spoken to her and afraid of going to be a long time they're so sweet to me and that's even if she ever will again.

**(To date part 2 has still not been recorded...) This is very special episode I never ever thought that I could get my wife Michelle to have an interview with me, considering I kept this podcast hidden from her for over a year!!! Unfortunately there was supposed to be a part 2 to her interview but there was an argument after part one, but at least I want to put up what I could get out of her for now...

I hope you find this episode interesting I figured three different ways of approaching the same kind of situation and it actually made my wife open up and tell me the one approach not to take because it actually hurt worse than me denying an accusation I think you'll find it very interesting and helpful.

This episode is about her being a hypochondriac but got so much worse once she was diagnosed with BPD and when stresses come on it triggers more of her hypochondriac behavior.

This episode is a follow-up from a couple of episodes back where I said I have not had contact with my wife and almost 2 months and the next time I did have contact with her that I would do a follow-up episode to let my listeners know what transpired and what came about during the visit and how it ended I think you'll enjoy this one obviously by the name of the title 9 hours in heaven it was an excellent excellent visit and ending.

So in this episode I talk about an embarrassing thing I've been doing and how i created a second personality which I call my digital personality it's the only way that I can find out the true feelings of how my wife thinks about me I think you'll enjoy this episode but it was very hard for me to admit this kind of deceptive but useful tool I've been doing with all good intentions.

In this episode this is a part one of a part 2 episode of taking advice of family members and staying away for at least a month with no communication and see if she can appreciate all the things I was doing for her including love and attention and financial support....

This was an email sent in from a listener...."Hey listen I sent you an email on how he had made the conscious decision to make her see how it felt to get hurt with words as soon backfired on him I think you'll find this episode very intriguing and insightful as I did."

I'm passing on my advice on the outline that I use that's been mostly effective when we're not together it's not so much an apology letter but it's a general letter outlining that I don't like arguing not putting anybody at flame but saying how much I love her and how I'm willing to discuss things proactively before they turn into an argument hopefully this could work for you.