Living Inside Out with Toks

Raising our teens today in this digital age can be quite challenging, but Celia shows the world that it can be beautiful and fun. Chances are that you have had someone say something negative about raising teenagers.

Every generation is different and has to navigate the world in a way the previous one didn't. In this episode, I chat with Celia Toks and her adorable teenage daughters about how there are navigating their world. Lizzie and Rachel's maturity, authenticity and innocence are admirable, and their relationship with their mother is beautiful.

I took away many gems from our conversations like we don't have to parent in a cookie-cutter fashion; you can be authentically you and still win. The best way to raise our children is to raise them as we want to, not as a society, culture, or family history dictates.

You can watch the episode on YouTube to see their beautiful faces :D

One thing we know is that trials have a clarifying effect on us. Things start to make sense, solutions to long-ago problems emerge, and we create new resolutions. But this only happens if you have a mindset of expectancy, one that is looking for precious gems. And we can only get into that mental space if we are resilient. In this episode, I share some tips on building your resilience. If it has ever made logical sense for you to quit- but you didn't, that was your muscle of strength being strengthened.

1. Agree with yourself not to quit. If you do, it will be easier to make sense of the season, and stopping will be logical. You don't just become resilient during failure; you decide ahead of time to get up and thrive if and when you fail.

We seek comfort, not pain. It is the desire of most people to be comfortable. We rank convenience over purpose, and when given the option, most of us will choose comfort if chasing the ideal is difficult. The more willing we are, the more opportunity we will get to practice resilience.

Resources:

Who moved my Cheese

Living Inside Out Courses

Living Inside Out Newsletter

Meet Kiki! She is on a mission to see the male child raised into world-class leaders, while encouraging a healthy relationship between fathers and their sons.

As a mum to four boys, I subscribe wholeheartedly to this mission. I believe girls should be empowered, but Kiki says this has translated to the empowerment of our sons being ignored. Listen and let's chat about this on social- @toksaruoture

Connect with Kiki: 

Registration link for the Naomi's Tribe event -

https://www.instagram.com/kikiboysmama/

I sit down for a tete-a-tete with the beautiful Beverly Adaeze, content creator, lifestyle, beauty and travel influencer.

We chat about growing up, African parenting (of course!), life as a content creator, and our shared affection for fried plantains! Oh, and why did she move to Columbia? Plus, our Christian Faith.

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Have you been wondering if your new year resolutions will last?

It's the start of 2023, and we are surrounded by more inspiration and motivation than ever. It would appear, actually, that we are in an incubator, and you may be feeling unbelievably optimistic. Or perhaps you feel overwhelmed and uncomfortable as you struggle and fail to get into the new year, new me vibe. If that's you, you're not alone.

There are some obvious reasons why new year resolutions fail. New Year resolutions often fail because of a lack of motivation, planning, and accountability. Setting big goals at the beginning of the year can be easy, but it can be challenging to stay on track without a plan for achieving them and someone to hold you accountable. Additionally, it can be easy to forget or get distracted if you don't have a solid motivation to make the resolution happen. To increase your chances of success, create a specific plan with achievable, measurable goals and find an accountability partner who can help you stay on track.

But some mindsets can set you up to fail, even with meticulous planning and intrinsic motivation.

In this episode, I highlight why new year's resolutions don't stick. Past failures may be responsible for your reluctance to set new goals if you are wondering, and I share reasons you might want to step back from all the goodness of motivational gurus, at least for now.

1. You want to avoid motivation overwhelm. Too much food, even when healthy and delicious, will leave you feeling uncomfortable and unable to enjoy the benefits.

As usual, I share stories from my life; I hope you will leave this episode feeling less burdened, less overwhelmed and with no judgment on how you have chosen to navigate this season and set your new year resolutions.

Resources:

Resources

The Temptation of Eve

Get Unstuck in 2023

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Has your dream taken a detour? Dreams and visions are invisible, a preview of what is to come, but how can you ensure they manifest as a physical reality?

In this episode, I share a powerful concept that God taught me to believe in and manifest my dreams. Too many of us embark on a path with joy and certainty only to give up halfway because the journey does not resemble what we imagined. We often translate rejection to mean it isn't possible; we call it the end of the road when it is a pause. My goal with this episode is to help you understand that you straddle across three realms, the spiritual, the emotional and the physical. And the causal space is spiritual. I want you to know that the bulk of your dreams lies in that realm, which is why it is invisible. I want you to leave knowing that being able to imagine, desire and plan towards it is all the evidence you need that it is already a done deal. As usual, I use examples from my life where I have put this life principle to practice- and got the exact results I was hoping for. This happened even after I got rejected more than once.   Your inside is superior to your outside. We will achieve much more when we pay more attention to the invisible causal realm instead of toying around with the physical and temporal environment. Be a creator of unseen realities, not a rearranger of the seen and expired.

Resources:

Get Unstuck: A Mindset Mentoring programme

Your Rockstar Story Workshop

Watch on YouTube Toks's Journal Entries

You know what it's like to discover somebody whose life inspires you greatly? And you are so moved by them that their life becomes your classroom.

In addition, these are not necessarily motivational speakers who speak and share their knowledge; these are people whose existence in themselves is a lesson for all. In this episode, I share some people who have impacted my life simply by living theirs. 

I believe our lives should be a classroom to others; that role isn't reserved only for celebrated people. The people in your life today should be blessed because they crossed your path. And you must leave a legacy behind for generations to learn from. I believe we all have that responsibility.

I also tell you why I am motivated to propel forward by this Patrick Overton quote: