Living Inside Out with Toks

Living Inside Out with Toks

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  • Ep #45 Evolving Through Pain
    How do you usually respond to bad experiences?
    Do you explode in anger? Do you shrink into yourself emotionally? Do you detach yourself from the experience as much as possible? Do you ignore it?
     
    John McDonnell once said, “Every problem introduces a person to himself."
    This is a quote from John Maxwell's bestselling book, 15 Invaluable Laws of Growth
     
    The well known adage says no pain, no gain. But do you know that all pain does not lead to gain? Difficult circumstances will only lead to growth if you have an intentional response to pain.
    In this episode I share a recent difficult experience I have had and how my default response of ignoring the pain affected me negatively.
     
    Pain is synonymous with growth. If there is one thing challenges help you do, it is to evolve. But you have to be willing. In this episode I share a recent experience. I had an opportunity I had to grow through pain but chose to ignore the pain. Ignoring or denying challenges will have a stagnating effect on one.
     
    I also talk about our tendency to measure the intensity of a challenge against a man-made standard, such as some one else's pain. In reality, the only standard you have to live up to is the one God created you to be.
     
    Resources:
     
    Upcoming Workshops:
    Journalling for Growth- 21st August
    Write your Rock Star Story- 18th September
    PR on a Budget- TBC
     
    References
    15 Invaluable Laws of Growth by John Maxwell
    Like a Roaring Lion
    Join my Friends List
    30 min
  • Ep #44 Entrepreneurship: Practices that Hold You Back
    How do you make business decisions? Many of us rely on external factors, others on instinct. I believe our mindset plays a part in deciding what direction to head in. Our habits and tendencies will take us one way or the other.
     
    In this episode, we explore three damaging practices to avoid when growing your business.
     
    Striking too Late
    There is a time and a season for everything. Learning to recognise the seasons is vital when it comes to manifesting your dreams. Learn to read the signs that life offers you and watch out for those obstacles that slow us down, leading us to strike late.
     
    Lack of Experts
    Many budding entrepreneurs start out doing it all themselves. But a time comes when the engine needs to run on its own, and you need expert help to ensure it runs well. Avoid falling into the temptation of doing it all to save money when the business is crying out for expertise.
     
    Short Sightedness.
    Don't make decisions to alleviate your present discomfort at the expense of your future comfort. Seeing things from the point of view of the finished picture is a secret successful business owners practice.  Invest in learning, invest in growth because what got you here isn't enough to take you there.
     
     
    Resources:
    Shark Tank
    The Profit
    Isaac Planted & Reaped a Hundredfold
    7 Little Steps
     
    Events and Workshops
    Journalling for Success Workshop 21st August 2021
     Learn how to journal for growth; you will be able to go from recurring dreams to creating a practical roadmap for your life.
    30 min
  • Ep #43 Entrepreneurship: How Small thinking can Stifle Your Expansion
    Most entrepreneurs have experienced the frustration of moving three steps forwards and three or even four steps back. There are some commonly found limiting mindsets that stop us from excelling, in a way we know we can. In this episode we address four of them:
     
    Vanity Marketing
    This can be mistaken for PR, the difference is the only increase you'll see will be the size of your ego. Or on the other hand, is what others say about you. Any form of marketing that focuses on improving your view of yourself will not attract customers. You may have an audience but they're there to admire, gawk and wonder how you got there. They are not there to buy from you.
     
    Embellishing yourself
    Many of us are guilty of this. We believe our potential clients have an expectation of who we are., so we carve out an image and force-fit ourselves into it. This is the opposite of authenticity and is rooted in the lack of awareness of the amazing gift you carry.
     
    Revelling in your wins
    This is when you stay too long at a place of success, and you miss the opportunities that pass by. Celebrate your successes but don't build an altar and worship them.
     
    Emotional attachment
    When I lost my business, every thought and idea grew from the ashes of the old. I could not divorce myself from the past because I was emotionally invested in it. You may have infused blood, sweat and tears into a venture but if it is no longer serving its purpose you have to let it go. Some businesses exist to train and prepare us for the next, but if your emotions lead you, you will not recognise this.
     
    Listen to the full episode and let's connect on social to discuss further. @toksaruoture on IG and FB
     
    Resources:
    Register for the online Write your Rock Star Story Workshop. 
    Learn how to tell the compelling, inspiring story of your journey. Your Rock Star Story will encourage you greatly, give you confidence and open opportunities. Tell the world how to relate to you so that those meant to align with you will recognise you. Spaces are limited.
     
    Journalling for Success Workshop 21st August 2021
     Learn how to journal for growth; you will be able to go from recurring dreams to you creating a practical roadmap for your life.
     
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    31 min
  • Ep #42 Entrepreneurship: Big Vision, Low Budget
    What do you do when you have a sizeable vision, but your resources do not stretch far enough for you to manifest it?
     

    No one starts a business with the intention of it not growing- at least no one I know. For the most part, we start off with the hope that this new venture will grow into what we have imagined, but the resources don't always match the size of our dream.

    When I started my company 13 years ago, that was the situation. I had a big vision and zero budget for it to materialise so I had to discover other forms of capital.

    In this episode, I share some non-traditional tips on how to manifest your big business vision on a low budget. I warn you that my suggestions may appear counterproductive initially, but trust me on this.

    A mindset change is needed to enable you to see the benefits of making decisions that will yield results later, as opposed to ones that will fulfil your immediate requirements.

    Of all the tips I share, Right Pricing and Telling a Compelling Story are my faves.

     

    Resources / Upcoming Events:

    My Partnership with Sage

    Write Your Rock Star Story Workshop 31st July 2021

    Journaling for Personal Growth 21st August 2021

    To subscribe to this podcast, hit the subscribe button where you are listening. You can also join my friends' list on my website toksaruoture.com so you can be informed of events, courses and the things that inspire Living Inside Out.
     
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    31 min
  • Ep #41 Entrepreneurship: Tackling the Confidence Gap

    If there is one trait that entrepreneurs require, it is confidence. Amongst many, of course. Without confidence, you will struggle to cultivate and exercise other strengths.

    As a business owner, you need the confidence to make decisions, take risks, be creative. 

    So what does one do when that belief in yourself is lacking?

    In this episode we look at the importance of using your intuition which is your internal GPS to guide you in business. We also look at an external GPS, using a mentor to help you on your journey.

     

    Resources / Upcoming Events:

    The Resilient Woman Breakfast Meeting hosted by Women's world

    Write Your Rock Star Story Workshop 31st July 2021

    Journaling for Personal Growth 21st August 2021

     

    To subscribe to this podcast, hit the subscribe button where you are listening. You can also join my friends' list on my website toksaruoture.com so you can be informed of events, courses and the things that inspire Living Inside Out.
     
    Find me on Instagram and Facebook and YouTube
    26 min
  • Ep #40 The Truth About Entrepreneurship is...

    Entrepreneurship is one of the sexiest words out there- but the truth? The reality is different from its appearance.

    We see posts of men and women living the 'laptop lifestyle', working from some of the finest places in the world and then wonder how we will arrive there. Let's not forget those who post their seven-figure sales numbers that were achieved in a month or two.

    It becomes easy to see why as a business owner, discouragement quickly becomes your companion.

     

    In this episode, I share a typical journey of starting a business. I also speak on two obstacles I came across in my early years as a business owner, and how I overcame them. Growing a business with nothing but determination and grit is different from growing one when you have options and a safety net.

     

    Write your Rock Star Story:
    Last call for this transformative event holding on Saturday the 12th of June.
    I will be running a workshop on How to Write your Rock Star Story.  The aim of this workshop is to guide you to write the story of your life, first for yourself, because it will encourage you greatly, and even give you confidence, open opportunities and build your resilience muscle. Your story tells the world how to relate to you. If you don't want to be pitied or look down on- even if you feel that way, then you must rewrite your story.
     
    Also if you know someone who has lost their confidence, or has had a string of challenges over the years, do send it to them.
     
    Reserve a place for the event or head to toksaruoture.com/workshop to learn more.
     
    References:
    Write Your Rock Star Story

     

    30 min
  • Ep #39 Got Impostor Syndrome? Rewrite Your Story for Success
    No two people were born with identical seeds in them. And by seeds, I am referring to the fulness of who you really are. Your purpose, personality, gifts and proclivities all squeezed into a seed, no two people were born with identical seeds.
     
    And yet we find ourselves comparing ourselves with others- because we don't 'feel' like the success others see in us. Or we deliberately dumb down our achievements as we shrink under the admiration or recognition of others.
     
    Impostor syndrome is a real state of being that occurs in men and women, but more in women. It is when you feel like a fraud and refuse to accept ownership of your achievements- despite the evidence that you are responsible.
     
    There are circumstances and mindsets that create an ideal space for Impostor Syndrome to thrive and in this episode, we look at three of them.
     
    And just in case you don't believe it's that serious, I share three dangers of not managing it.
     
    In a few weeks, the Write your Rock Star Story Workshop will be running. 
    This has been one of the most powerful, life-changing events of my life. In the workshop, I will teach you how to re-write your story from the standpoint of a winner, and not a victim. Head to toksaruoture.com/workshops and save the date for the 12th of June.
     
    References:
    Pawpaw & Mango Blog
    Where your feet shall tread scripture
    32 min
  • Ep #38 Faith and your Future

    Does faith play a role in future living? 

    Hindsight they say is 20/20. Another quote says Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards. 

    In this episode I talk about how my Christian faith helps me to trust the unseen and live as though I have 20/20 foresight.

    You can shape your future through prayer and expectation- not the stoic, monk-like type of prayers, but through open communication with an unseen God. 

    I share three ways in which you can use prayer to create your tomorrow.; one of which is understanding worthiness. This one came right out of my being scammed by an electrician two years ago.

    I also talk about why we should not pray for healing.

    Buzz Phrases/Questions for the week
    Each week I share an affirmation or a powerful question that will guide our steps to move us from simply being inspired, to making a change.
    I am worthy to become and to do everything God created me to do.
  • My past does not define or have power over my future.
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    Coming Soon
    The Rock Star Story Workshop
    By popular demand (drum roll..) I will be running a workshop on How to Write your Rock Star Story. This has been one of the most powerful, life-changing events of my life. In the workshop, I will teach you how to re-write your story from the standpoint of a winner, and not a victim. Head to toksaruoture.com/workshops and save the date for the 12th of June.
     
    References:
    Eisenhower Matrix
    Your Past does not Equal your Future- Lisa Nichols
    The Lord's Prayer- Luke 11:2
     
    To subscribe to this podcast, hit the subscribe button where you are listening. You can also join my friends' list on my website toksaruoture.com so you can be informed of events, courses and the things that inspire Living Inside Out.
     
    Find me on Instagram and Facebook and YouTube
     

     

    29 min
  • Ep#37 Future is an Attitude
    In this episode, we draw life lessons from the car manufacturer, Audi.
     
    Audi's current marketing slogan is Future is an Attitude. Once you choose to draw strength and inspiration from things that are yet to happen, you must have the right outlook to be able to do so. Future-mindedness is not an occasional event that we dip into as needed, but it is a perspective from which we will now view all of life from.
     
    There are threats to this way of living and we explore four of the most common ones, like living for recognition. The way society is set up and the point at which many cultures are at present happens to be fertile ground for this threat to thrive. You will be forgiven if you have chased recognition thinking it was success. I also share practical ways to recalibrate our thinking.
     
    Buzz Phrases/Questions for the week
    Each week I share an affirmation or a powerful question that will guide our steps to move us from simply being inspired, to making a change.
    What does this obstacle inspire me to do?
  • What if things never improve?
     
    Coming Soon
    The Rock Star Story Workshop
    By popular demand (drum roll..) I will be running a workshop on How to Write your Rock Star Story. This has been one of the most powerful, life-changing events of my life. In the workshop, I will teach you how to re-write your story from the standpoint of a winner, and not a victim. Full details will be out soon but save the date for the 12th of June.
     
    References:
    Audi Marketing Message
    Becoming by Michelle Obama
     
    To subscribe to this podcast, hit the subscribe button where you are listening. You can also join my friends' list on my website toksaruoture.com so you can be informed of events, courses and the things that inspire Living Inside Out.
     
    Find me on Instagram and Facebook and YouTube
    30 min
  • Ep #36 The Future is Superior to the Present
    The Future is Superior to the Present.
    What do you do when you are working towards a beautiful future, but the present gives you no indication that you will arrive there? We are constantly searching for evidence that our hopes or fears are legitimate.
     
    Great if you find proof that you can achieve what you hope for although that's never enough to keep you going till the end. If, however, your fears are confirmed, the discovery can paralyse you and keep you from pressing forward.
     
    Learning to draw inspiration and strength from the future takes effort and it begins with adopting the mindset that the future is superior to the present. This then frees you to think in terms of a better future, and not a limiting present situation.
     
    In this episode I share three affirmations that helped me press forward when fear and discouragement paralysed me last week:
     
    My future is superior to and even more beautiful than my past. Because when your present situation looks hopeless, you need something to pull you forward into a better place.
     
    I have everything In need inside me, to become all God created me to be. Because when we can't see the resources to build our future are we need to look inside us.
     
    I do not make emotional decisions Because our emotions are transient and unreliable; an emotional decision might offer immediate relief but cause long term problems.
     
    References:
    God's promise to Abraham
    The Alchemist
    Episode #6 Joy or Pain Emotional Decision Making
     
    To subscribe to this podcast, hit the subscribe button where you are listening. You can also join my friends' list on my website toksaruoture.com 
     
    Find me on Instagram and Facebook and YouTube
    24 min

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