Lo Que Ale No Dijo

Lo que Ale no dijo is back.

Episode 4: Boundaries

It has been almost seven months since the last episode. In this return, I open up about what happened in that space of silence, the changes I went through, and the ways life kept moving while I was figuring myself out.

This episode is not a lesson. It is not a conclusion. It is a journal entry. A real time moment of coming back to my voice, my thoughts, and my truth.

I talk about boundaries, motherhood, healing, identity, and what it means to step away and return without needing to have everything figured out.

If you are still here, thank you for holding this space with me.

In this episode, I open up about what it really means to face your own mind. Not as a counselor, not as a mother, not as a dancer but as a human being learning to listen to her body and her limits.

I talk about starting Sertraline, the fears that came with it, and the decision to finally take ownership of my healing. This isn’t a conversation about labels or diagnosis. It’s about reclaiming your power, understanding the chemistry of your emotions, and giving yourself permission to rest without guilt.

If you’ve ever felt like you have to stay strong while everything inside you feels empty — this one’s for you.

Take what you need.
— Ale

Este episodio lleva una parte de mi historia una carta a la tierra que me vio crecer y a la memoria que todavía vive en mi cuerpo. Hablo de lo que significa amar un país desde lejos, de sostener el dolor y el orgullo en el mismo respiro, y de encontrar sanación al recordar de dónde vengo.

Esta temporada es personal. Habla de memoria, identidad y de las raíces que nunca se van. De cómo la distancia también puede ser una forma de amor, y de cómo incluso el silencio guarda el sonido de la resistencia.

Si alguna vez has extrañado tu país de una manera que duele y a la vez te inspira, este episodio es para ti.

Cuida tu corazón, honra tus raíces y recuerda: el hogar también vive dentro de ti.

Alex <3

Lo Que Ale No Dijo : Season 2

Episode 1: Mental Health

This episode opens a new chapter. Season 2 begins with honesty and softness: a reminder that even those who help others sometimes struggle to help themselves. I speak about burnout and the moments when being alive feels heavy.

This season is different. It is not just about breaking silence it’s about tending to what happens after we speak. About care, nervous system awareness, rest, and building safety.

If you’ve ever felt like you had to hold it all together for everyone else, this one’s for you.

Take care of yourself, be kind to others, and remember :you are not alone ;

Alex <3

Reaching ten episodes is more than a number. It’s a milestone of consistency, of showing up week after week for truth, for survivors, and for the community that grows with every story told.

In this episode, I reflect on what it means to carry the child I once was, to stand as the adult I needed back then, and to continue the work of breaking silence. This week also brought a reminder of why advocacy cannot wait the resilience of someone who escaped violence and is beginning again.

Episode 10 is about memory, safety, and healing as collective acts. It’s about turning pain into presence, silence into seeds, and remembering that advocacy is never just personal it is for all of us.

This episode was born out of exhaustion, anger, and love. My name has now been added to Not Just Chisme, placed alongside stories that reveal what the Latin dance community doesn’t want to face. I speak as a survivor and as a mother, as someone who has carried silence long enough.

Advocacy, for me, is no longer an idea :it is a practice. It lives in the choices we make every day, in the voices we choose to believe, and in the truths we refuse to bury. There is so much to do, and as César Vallejo (Peruvian Poet) reminds us, we cannot do it alone.

This week I open up about the kind of pain that stays with survivors for years: the silence carried since childhood, the systems that protect abusers, and the hurt of watching communities act like nothing happened.

I reflect on the Epstein survivors, my own journey of protecting my peace, and the ways I’m choosing healing through boundaries, all-female dance teams, and the men I do trust: including my partner and my two boys who I'm raising to grow into men who can be trusted.

This episode is a reminder: survivors are not alone. Even when the world tries to bury us, we rise like seeds breaking through the ground toward the light

In this episode of Lo Que Ale No Dijo, I reflect on what it means to be left unheard as a survivor, as a mother, and as a member of a community living through fear and grief.

From being ignored by organizers in the dance world, to the trauma of immigration raids in sanctuary cities, to the heartbreaking loss of children in yet another school shooting, I ask: how much silence will we allow before change truly happens?

This episode is also my living diary a legacy for my children, my students, and for anyone who needs to hear that your voice matters, even when the world chooses not to listen.

This week I reflect on how respect is not just a word we repeat in dance spaces it’s the foundation that shapes safety, boundaries, and dignity. Drawing from the voices of Fernando Salas and Gabriela Equiz, I talk about how objectification and power dynamics are normalized, and why we must build healthier structures for our community.

I also share a personal moment when I had to listen to my own body’s reaction to a promotion in our scene, and how documenting that discomfort became a way of reclaiming agency.

Respect begins in the choices we make in what we normalize, in who we give a platform to, and in how we respond when someone says, this doesn’t feel safe for me.

En este episodio de Lo Que Ale No Dijo reflexiono sobre lo que he aprendido como bailarina y consejera escolar: el problema nunca ha sido el baile, sino las estructuras que lo sostienen.

Hablamos de cómo la salsa y la bachata han normalizado la cosificación, la hipersexualización y dinámicas de poder que dañan a nuestra comunidad. Comparto por qué la prevención empieza en casa, cómo acelerar el proceso de aprendizaje puede dejar heridas físicas y emocionales, y por qué el respeto siempre debe ser el primer paso.

El respeto no es un detalle más: es la base de cualquier arte, comunidad y proceso humano.