For decades, we’ve been told that men should be the primary providers, but in today’s world, that model is becoming increasingly unrealistic. In this episode, we explore the myth of the breadwinner, how financial power shapes relationships, and the tension between traditional gender roles and modern economic realities. We’ll dive into research on how couples manage income disparities, why men struggle with not being the primary earner, and how religious teachings have reinforced outdated financial expectations in marriage. Plus, we discuss rising costs, shifting gender dynamics, and what true partnership looks like in 2025.

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breadwinner expectations, gender roles in marriage, who should pay the bills, men as providers, financial power in relationships, Christian marriage roles, money and masculinity, when she earns more, financial stress in marriage, gender and money

Why is it so hard to say, I don’t believe? For many former Christians and nonreligious people, admitting their beliefs—or lack thereof—comes with fear, isolation, and even backlash. In this episode, we explore why so many ‘Nones’ stay silent, how societal and religious pressures keep people from speaking out, and the personal risks of being open about nonbelief. We also discuss how religious communities create an atmosphere where doubt is punished, what happens when family and friends don’t accept your views, and why nonreligious voices deserve to be heard.

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Topics: fear of leaving religion, speaking out as atheist, being a None, nonreligious stigma, religious deconstruction, ex-Christian struggles, leaving faith behind, social pressure to believe, silent atheists, losing faith and family

How do men talk about women when they think no one is listening? In this episode, we take a deep dive into how women are discussed both inside and outside of evangelical spaces. We look at studies on how men perceive and discuss women, break down the lasting impact of purity culture, and share personal experiences navigating male attention in both church and secular settings.

Content Warning: This episode contains discussions of sex/sexuality and misogyny. Take care out there!

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purity culture, evangelical misogyny, gender roles in church, Christian dating, objectification of women, male entitlement, church sexism, purity culture trauma

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Growing up in the church, many of us were taught to be kind, accommodating, and submissive—but we were never taught how to navigate unwanted attention from men in the real world. When your entire upbringing revolves around purity culture and modesty, no one prepares you for what happens when you step outside that bubble and encounter men who don’t play by those rules. In this episode, we explore how growing up sheltered in evangelical spaces leaves women unequipped to say a firm no when needed, why so many struggle with setting boundaries, and how religious teachings around gender roles contribute to this problem. Plus, personal stories, insights, and a conversation on how to reclaim your confidence and assertiveness.

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sheltered upbringing, purity culture, evangelical women, setting boundaries, unwanted male attention, church and gender roles, saying no with confidence, growing up sheltered, christian dating expectations

We dive into the often awkward and taboo subject of sex within Christian marriages. We explore how evangelical teachings have shaped our perceptions of intimacy, focusing on how restrictive ideas about sex can lead to guilt, confusion, and even dysfunction in the bedroom. From “missionary-only” advice to the pressure to uphold purity, we break down the misconceptions and invite listeners to reconsider what true intimacy can look like—free from the shame and constraints of religious doctrine. If you’ve ever felt confused or stifled by what you were taught about sex, this episode is for you.

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Topics: christian marriage, sex and religion, sex after faith, evangelical marriage, sexual autonomy, purity culture, marriage bed, biblical teachings on sex, deconstructing marriage, religious guilt, intimacy after faith

In this episode, we share an eye-opening experience from our recent trip to Norway that made us reflect on the intersection of faith, culture, and happiness. We dive deep into the contrasts between Norway’s largely secular society and the evangelical culture we’re familiar with in the U.S. How does a society with low religious involvement maintain one of the highest happiness scores in the world? And what can we learn about evangelism, faith, and public expression from this cultural clash?

Topics: cultural clash religion, evangelicalism in secular countries, life without religion, deconstruction and faith, religious freedom, secularism vs religion, religion in America vs Europe, public evangelism in secular countries, faith and culture

Why are young men across America rediscovering religion? In this episode, we dive into the growing trend of young men embracing faith, from Orthodoxy to Catholicism and beyond. We discuss the societal pressures, online communities like Jordan Peterson’s influence, and the appeal of traditional values in a modern, chaotic world. Learn how this movement reflects deeper cultural shifts and what it means for the future of spirituality.

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Topics: young men and religion, rise of orthodoxy, young men converting to faith, religion and masculinity, traditional values resurgence, Jordan Peterson and faith, Gen Z religion trends, modern faith movements, Catholic conversion stories, cultural shift towards religion

Christmas traditions often feel timeless, but many of them were borrowed—or outright stolen—from ancient pagan festivals. In this holiday episode, we explore the origins of beloved customs like gift-giving, trees, and even Santa Claus himself. Plus, we share ideas for creating your own meaningful traditions that celebrate connection and joy, no matter your beliefs. It’s a fresh take on the season that’ll have you rethinking what it means to celebrate!

Topics: Christmas traditions, Pagan holiday origins, Non-religious Christmas, Creating new holiday traditions, Secular Christmas ideas, Winter solstice celebrations, Christian holidays and paganism, Holiday traditions for atheists, Cultural evolution of Christmas

When one partner faces a health challenge, it affects both people in the relationship. In this episode, we explore how couples share physical, mental, and emotional burdens through the lens of living with PCOS. Drawing on personal experience and fascinating research, we discuss how long-term couples develop biological similarities, why optimism is a secret weapon, and how shared struggles can strengthen your bond. From gluten-free holiday adjustments to the grief of changing expectations, we uncover the ways couples can adapt, thrive, and celebrate small wins—together.

Topics: couples health journey, PCOS relationships, living with PCOS, couples facing illness, shared health challenges, optimism in relationships, chronic illness and marriage, grief in relationships, adapting to health issues

In part two of our deep dive into post-deconstruction, we tackle the challenges of rebuilding your identity after leaving faith. How do you confront lingering guilt, reclaim your values, and navigate relationships with those still in the church? Join us as we unpack the tools you need to heal, grow, and thrive beyond belief.

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post-deconstruction, leaving religion, rebuilding identity, healing from faith, ex-Christian journey, religious trauma recovery