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So, picture this: Purity's on cloud nine, vibing with a new submissive who ticks all her boxes. The chemistry? Off the charts. But then, out of the blue, bam! Ghosting or a major boundary breach? Purity's left scratching her head, wondering what went wrong and why her play partner disappeared into thin air.

Now, let's get real about ghosting. It stings, right? Especially in the BDSM scene where trust is everything. Purity's left in a whirlwind of emotions, wondering whether to hit up her ghoster for some closure. But how many texts is too many when they're not replying? And what's going on in the mind of someone who pulls the disappearing act anyway?

This episode spills the tea on all things ghosting, from why people bail on amazing connections to the potential fallout within the kink community. Plus, it's not just about the ghosted—there's some solid advice in there for the ghosters too. So grab a cuppa and tune in for some real talk on dealing with the ghosting phenomenon.

• Purity starts seeing a new submissive play partner who ticks all her boxes and has incredible chemistry with.
• The first sign something is off in this connection: ghosting or boundary violation?
• How Purity realised she was being ghosted.
• The emotional impact of your play partner breaking off the connection abruptly - and without an explanation.
• Should you contact the ghosting partner for an explanation - and what to say in that message?
• How many times is it ok to contact a ghosting partner that is not replying to your messages?
• Into the mind of a ghoster: why men (and women) give up on an amazing connection.
• Can you leave the door open to rekindling a connection in the future after ghosting someone?
• The potential dangers of ghosting someone - especially in a small kinky scene.
• Can you spot a ghoster before they ghost you?
• How to deal with ghosting: our advice to the ghosted and ghosters.

1. Honesty is always the best policy. Ghosting might seem like keeping options open, but to the person on the receiving end, it's like a door slammed shut, no going back.
2. If you've been ghosted, know it's not about you. It's about the other person feeling uncomfortable sharing their thoughts and feelings.
3. Unsure if you're being ghosted? Don't hesitate to reach out, share your concern, and let them know that if they're considering ending things, you'd appreciate knowing why, so you can both move on without drama.

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Picture this: you're engrossed in a conversation with someone you're considering as a potential polyamorous partner. The chemistry is palpable, and everything seems to be falling into place until you realize you're not looking for the same things in a relationship.

It's a frustrating scenario, but fear not – in this episode, we're tackling this common dating dilemma head-on. We'll delve into the intricacies of vetting potential poly partners, helping you figure out whether your relationship goals align with theirs.

From discussing relationship dynamics and communication styles to addressing concerns about emotional availability and commitment, we'll cover all the essential topics you need to consider when navigating the poly dating scene.

Whether you're new to polyamory or a seasoned veteran, this episode will provide valuable insights and strategies for finding the right match in the polyamorous community.

• The right questions to ask to find out if you want the same things from a polyamorous relationship.
• The #1 red flag message that lets you know the person you're talking to is not interested in a relationship.
• Warning signs a potential partner is trying to groom you into something you don't want.
• How to tell straight away when a potential partner is emotionally unavailable for a relationship.
• Is a recent breakup a sign a person isn't ready for a new relationship?
• The 5 types of people you should be wary of starting a new relationship with.
• Should you get involved with people who have "NSA" or "No drama" on their dating profiles?

1. Don't hold back from asking questions about their journey with polyamory and their other partners. If someone is authentically polyamorous and open-minded, they'll likely be happy to share their personal stories and reflections with you.
2. If you're chatting with someone who's new to polyamory, ask them what got them interested and how much they know about it. Whether they've been flipping through "The Ethical Slut" or chatting with poly friends, you want folks who really get it and aren't buying into the usual stereotypes.
3. Building a successful polyamorous relationship requires more than just shared interests and lifestyle preferences; it requires a strong emotional bond where both partners feel understood, respected, and cared for.

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Ever wondered what it truly means to be a sadist? Curious about the world of sadism and its often-misunderstood nature?

Well, you're in for a treat! In this episode, we'll take you on a fascinating journey through the experiences of Purity as she navigates the discovery of her own sadistic tendencies.

From childhood influences to the liberating effects of acceptance, we'll uncover the nuances of sadistic desires. Alongside exploring Purity's journey, we'll discuss the impact of repressed desires on relationships and the unexpected benefits of embracing one's true nature.

So, whether you're curious about your own inclinations or seeking to understand a loved one, this episode offers a candid exploration of the misunderstood world of sadism. Get ready for some candid conversations, valuable insights, and tips on safely exploring your inner sadist.

• Purity's story and how she found out she was a sadist.
• What sadism really is (it's not what you think!).
• Does sadism develop early in childhood or later on in life?
• The unassuming sides that give away you are a sadist - and how to tell.
• How being a repressed sadist negatively impacted Purity's life and relationships.
• How Purity started exploring her sadist side in a safe and consensual ways.
• What happened the first time Purity engaged in sadistic play at a party.
• The benefits of coming out as a sadist (that you wouldn't ever think of!).
• Parting words and how you can start exploring your inner sadist too.

1. Sadism isn't about being a bad person. It's about enjoying inflicting pain and humiliation in a consensual way.
2. When you try and repress it, your inner sadist will inevitably come out in other areas of your life, subtly influencing your interactions with friends, family, and coworkers, and creating all kinds of havoc.
3. Always engage in sadistic play safely. sing safe words isn't a sign of weakness; it's a sign of strength. Setting boundaries means everyone gets to enjoy the fun to the max.

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Wondering where to meet polyamorous people?

Now you've had the conversation, opened your relationship, or simply decided solo poly is your ideal relationship style, how do you go about finding potential partners?

Since coming out as poly, our host Desire has tried all the dating apps from the kinky ones like Feeld to the more vanilla ones like Hinge. She's even hit up social meets for poly people. So, which one actually helped Desire find her partners? You'll have to tune in to find out!

From the perks of online dating (Desire's a big fan!) to the best apps for finding both romantic connections and kinky hookups, we've got you covered. And hey, ever wondered if you can stumble upon poly people on regular apps like Bumble and Hinge? We're tackling that too!

• The advantages of online dating for polyamorous people and why Desire prefers it to meeting people in person.
• The best online dating app for meeting polyamorous people who want a romantic relationship - this is where Desire met her two partners.
• The best online dating apps for meeting polyamorous people for kinky relationships - and what to be wary about.
• Can you meet polyamorous people on vanilla dating apps, like Bumble and Hinge?
• Where to meet polyamorous people in person - best events and practices.

1. Figure out what kind of polyamorous relationship you're looking for. Some apps and hangouts are all about finding partners for serious, romantic connections, while others are more about exploring kinks and having fun hookups.
2. When you're chatting with people on dating apps, asking the right questions helps you figure out if they're a good match. It's like a filter that boosts your chances of meeting awesome people and having really great dates.
3. Meeting folks in real life is awesome for seeing if there's a spark, but online dating has its own advantages. It gives you a comfy space to talk about stuff that might be awkward in public. That way, when you meet up, you're already on the same page about your lifestyle and what you're looking for in a relationship.

OK Cupid: https://www.okcupid.com/

We Are X: https://wearexapp.com/

Feeld: https://feeld.co/

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How would you like to attend a kinky event where you can shop for new BDSM gear with your partner, put on a performance on a stage with your new toys, and meet potential play partners too?

Welcome to the London Alternative Market, or LAM for short. Hosted the first Sunday of every month in East London, LAM is a fetish market that turns into a kinky afterparty as the evening dawns.

Desire and Purity are regulars at the market. It's their top recommendation for beginners who want to dip their toes in the kinky scene. In this episode, we reveal everything you need to know to have the best experience at the market. Listen on for our thoughts on the venue, the best stalls to buy from, the fun to be had at the after party, and so much more!

• Why LAM is the best event for newcomers in the kinky scene.
• The venue - no one will know you're visiting a fetish market.
• Food and drink: what's worth getting at the market.
• Our favourite stalls to satisfy all your fetishist needs.
• Workshops: learn the ropes (literally!) and explore new fetishes in a safe space.
• The afterparty - the real fun begins (what is and isn't allowed).
• The crowd: who you can expect to meet at LAM.
• Dress code - how to feel comfortable without looking out of place.
• How to stay safe during play.
• Do you need a membership to attend LAM?

1. LAM is one of the best events for newcomers in the Kinky Scene. You can do a bit of sexy shopping, try your new gear on stage in front of an excited crowd, and meet new play partners and friends - without the obligation of having sex (it's actually forbidden).
2. The crowd is incredibly welcome and inclusive, fostering an atmosphere where everyone is empowered to freely express themselves.
3. The majority of sellers craft their own products. If you come across something you fancy, don't hesitate to ask them to have the items customized to your liking and preferences.

London Alternative Market website: https://londonalternativemarket.com/

Bear Bites Bondage Etsy Shop: https://www.etsy.com/uk/shop/BearBiteProducts

Godemiche Sex Toys Shop: https://g-silicone.com/

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Foot fetish is one of the most common and known fetishes - as Desire happily discovered when her last monogamous partner showed a tremendous interest in her feet. So what makes foot so arousing? And how do you develop a foot fetish?

Desire and Purity bring on their friend Mr X, a real life psychologist and foot fetishist (who, for the time being wishes to remain anonymous) to talk about all things foot fetish. Listen on and get all your questions answered!

• Mr X's story and his interest in foot fetishes.
• The full spectrum of foot fetishes: different ways to play with feet.
• How foot fetishes develop - or are you just born with it?
• What is arousing about feet.
• At what age do you think people realise they have a foot fetish?
• What stigmas do people with foot fetish face?
• How to talk to your partner about your foot fetish.
• ⁠When does a foot fetish become an obsession or mental health issue?

1. Foot fetishes develop early on in life. If you realise in your 40s you have a foot fetish, you have probably repressed it.
2. When talking about foot fetishes with your partner, wait until you establish a genuine connection and associate the fetish with pleasure.
3. A foot fetish becomes a problem only when it starts to negatively affect other areas of your life.

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Curious about polyamory? Are you starting to feel like monogamy isn't for you but you don't know what other options are out there? Ever wondered what swinging, solo poly, hierarchical non-monogamy?

In this episode, we break it all down, from friends with benefits to genuine connections that go way beyond a simple hookup. It all started when Desire realised she was polyamorous... and quickly realised that every man she went on a date with had a different idea of what being poly really is!

Desire and her friend and co-host Purity share how to navigate the often confusing world of polyamory so you can get the love and sex you desire - without wasting time on connections that aren't a match.

We share personal dating stories, highlight red flags you need to pay attention to, and bust myths about what polyamory really is. Hint: it's NOT all about hookups.

So, whether you're curious about polyamory, already practicing, or just seeking to broaden your perspective, this episode is your guide to understanding and embracing the beauty of consensual non-monogamy.

• Welcome to Love Beyond Limits. Who the podcast is for.
• Desire's story: how she realised she's polyamorous.
• What I thought dating as poly was VS what it really is.
• What polyamory really is (hint: it's NOT what you think!) and different ways of practicing it.
• Solo poly.
• Hierarchical non-monogamy.
• Relationship anarchy.
• Monogamish.
• Swinging.
• Friends with benefits.
• Serial monogamy.
• Polyamory VS cheating.
• The red flags to pay attention to when communicating your relationship style to a new partner.
• What to expect from this podcast.
• Parting words and how you can support us.

1. Polyamory is about creating emotional AND physical connections with multiple partner. It's not just about hooking up.
2. Ethical non-monogamy requires every partner to be aware of one another and give their consent to the dynamic. If someone isn't aware or consenting, it's cheating.
3. Having the courage to open up to your partner about your relationship and sexual needs is painful in the moment, but on the other side, there's a life and relationship better than you ever thought possible.

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