What's your love language? Acts of service, words of affirmation, physical touch, gifts, or quality time?

The concept has been around since the early 1990s. Gary Chapman, a Baptist pastor, published a book in 1992 called, "The Five Love Languages: Secrets to Love That Lasts." 

But new research is debunking the popular love languages theory. And there's little evidence linking it to happier partnerships. 

For Valentine's Day, we speak with a researcher and relationship experts about what really makes for healthy relationships.

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President Joe Biden and former President Donald Trump agreed on terms this week to face off in two televised debates before the general election this November. 

Transportation Secretary Pete Buttigieg was left "speechless" this week after a coalition of airlines banded together to sue his department over new rules concerning junk fees and making it easier for customers to receive refunds.

As Russia continues to make gains in its full-scale invasion of Ukraine, Ukrainian President Volodymyr Zelenskyy has canceled all his trips abroad. 

As paramilitary forces surrounded the Sudanese town of El Fasher, civil groups are warning that millions of people trapped in the city could be in danger. Dozens have been killed in fighting last weekend.

Qatar's prime minister expressed concern over the state of peace talks between Israel and Hamas, saying that they were almost at a standstill.

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What do you remember about being in your twenties? Maybe it was the best time of your life. Maybe it brought challenges that you had to learn to overcome as you entered adulthood.

And if you're in your twenties now, life probably looks a lot different for you than it did for your parents. 

Meg Jay is a psychologist and author. In her new book, "The Twentysomething Treatment: A Revolutionary Remedy for an Uncertain Age," she explores the way our twenties set up the rest of our lives, and how the uncertainties that come with entering adulthood affect our brain.

We sit down with her to talk about growing up, becoming an adult, and how our twenties stay with us all our lives.

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Over half of adults in America live with a chronic illness.

Nearly 1 in 5 people who have heart disease or have had a cardiac arrest also have depression. And for people who have been diagnosed with cancer around 42 percent have experienced depression. 

Today, as part of our series "In Good Health," we talk about the intersection between chronic conditions like heart disease and our mental wellbeing. 

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What has red eyes, lives underground for years, and screeches all summer long? That would be cicadas. And they're here. 

And more are coming.For the first time in over two hundred years, billions of cicadas are digging their way up from underground in a rare biological occurrence.  

Scientists are calling it a double brood emergence because two cicada broods will be above ground at the same time. Depending on where you live, you might have already seen them flying around or their infamous exoskeletons skins.

For this installment of Scientific Method, our series where we speak to experts about the latest in the science world, we're talking about cicadas. 

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Maryland is one of three states holding primaries tomorrow. It's also attracting outsized national attention because of the outsized amount of money being spent.

Maryland's Senate race is the third most expensive nationwide behind California and Texas. That's thanks largely to the self-financed campaign of wealthy Democrat David Trone. He currently serves in the House.

He's part of a wave of self-funded candidates nationwide. That rise coincides with the ever-surging cost of funding a campaign. Political ad spending in the 2024 election cycle is expected to exceed $16 billion.

We discuss the cost of campaigns and how they're funded. 

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