Love Starts Here with Love and Life Coach Melissa Snow

Vaguebooking. Thirst trap photos. My Facebook post. 

They all have one thing in common - wanting to borrow other people's thoughts. 

We all do it sometimes. When we're feeling insecure, unsafe, confused or upset we get stuck on a thought loop that continues to create those crappy feelings. When we're stuck on the thought loop we forget there are OTHER thoughts we could think instead. 

When we rely on other people to get us out of the thought loop, we throw out bait (like vaguebooking or a thirst trap photo) hoping to catch other people's thoughts so we can borrow them for awhile. 

Thoughts like:

• You're so hot!
• Don't listen to other people!
• You got this! 
• Everything will be okay!
• You're strong! 
• He doesn't deserve you!

It's totally normal and we ALL do it but you don't have to rely on other people to get you out of the thought loop. That middle step isn't necessary if you continue to ask yourself, "What thoughts am I forgetting to think right now?" 

It's the quickest way out of a thought loop and it works every time.

P.S.  Don't forget to join the Love Starts Here Facebook group, where we dive way deeper into topics like this and support each other every step of the way.  

On today's episode of the Love Starts Here podcast, I'm joined by my fellow Life Coach and client Laura Kelley!

We're discussing the power of Life Coaching and how it can transform ALL your relationships, including the one you have with yourself! 

If you've ever felt like a "pick me" girl, struggled with feeling not good enough, wondered why you keep attracting emotionally unavailable men or felt conflicted about what to do in your current relationship, THIS EPISODE IS FOR YOU!

P.S.  Laura is NOT a unicorn!  If you want the same amazing results she's had from coaching with me, CLICK HERE to schedule your free consult! 

P.P.S.  If your an attorney struggling with burnout  you can get more information about Laura and her podcast, The Joyful Attorney, at www.thejoyfulattorney.com

This week I was reading a thread in a FB group where women were setting each other up with their single, male friends.  Someone commented in the thread "You all need to stop looking for love everywhere and learn to love yourself."  

I was bothered by this idea what wanting someone to share your life with might automatically mean that you don't love yourself.  The truth is...

YOU CAN LOVE YOURSELF AND STILL WANT A RELATIONSHIP.

YOU CAN LOVE YOURSELF AND STILL WANT SEX.

YOU CAN LOVE YOUSELF AND STILL WANT A MAN IN YOUR LIFE.

But you do want to be honest with yourself about WHY you want a relationship or you could be setting yourself up for heartbreak.

For more, be sure to join the Love Starts Here Facebook group or CLICK HERE to schedule a free consult!

Have you ever had a great  first date and then spent days obsessing over whether or not he's going to call you again?

Do you agonize over what you're going to say next, try to decode what his texts actually mean and then stress out when it seems like he's pulling away or acting flaky?

If so, this is the podcast for you! 

In today's episode, I interview Dating and Confidence Coach Amber Grubenmann about all things dating anxiety - what it is, where it comes from and most importantly, how to stop it from getting in the way of having the love you truly want and deserve!

For more information about Amber and the Women's Dating and Confidence Podcast, CLICK HERE.  You can also connect with Amber on Instagram!  

Life is full of triggers.  In order to have the healthy and happy relationship you want and deserve, you have to learn how to recognize them, process them and act on them (or not) in a way that works for YOU. 

In this episode, I'll share:
-  What a trigger is and what it isn't
-  My top 3 strategies for dealing with triggers
-  How to tell the difference between a trigger and a red flag

For more, be sure to join the Love Starts Here Facebook group or CLICK HERE to schedule a free consult!

Today's episode is a little bonus for you - some inspiration to get you through the day and remind you that it's never too late to change how your story ends. 

P.S.  Be sure to join the Love Starts Here Facebook group for more exclusive content like this!

P.P.S.  If you want help and support changing the way your story ends, CLICK HERE to book a free consult with me!

These are some of the question I hear most from women:

• How do I know if my relationship is toxic?
• What is a healthy relationship anyway?
• How can I make my partner change his toxic behavior?

In today's episode I'm answering all three of those question.  Plus, I'll explain WHY toxic people act the way they do and how they use their toxic behaviors to control you.  And, most importantly, I'll tell you how to make it stop!

For more on toxic relationships, join the Love Starts Here Facebook group and search for "Toxic Relationships."

If you'd like help with your own toxic relationship (or just making sure you never get in another one again), CLICK HERE to book a chat with me!

Last night, we kicked off the Know Yourself Show Yourself Challenge!

Don't worry if you're not registered - there's still time!  Just click the link.

What I realized during our kickoff party is that the women in the challenge all have one thing in common - they all have THE SECRET INGREDIENT.

This is the one thing I've seen over and over again that determines who keeps going until they have the love and life they want and deserve and who gives up and settles for less. 

In this episode I'll tell you what the secret ingredient is, I'll show you why it's so important and I'll give you a few really simple steps you can take if you want more of it! 

Don't forget to CLICK HERE to register for the FREE Know Yourself Show Yourself Challenge!

When a relationship ends, it's natural to feel sad, confused and lost.  Many women struggle with their identity and their self-worth in the aftermath of a divorce or breakup.

On this episode, Divorce Coach Holly McClain will help you feel "normal" - no matter what you're going through.  We cover how to let yourself grieve, why it can be so hard to love yourself after a breakup and Holly shares some super powerful tools you can use to help move beyond where you are now, closer to the love and life you want and deserve.

To connect with Holly, go to www.HollyMcClainCoaching.com

You can also download my free "Beyond Breakup Workbook" for more tools to help you feel better right now.   

For more info on the FREE 5-day Know Yourself Show Yourself challenge (beginning Monday 8/16/21 click here:  https://lovestartsherecoach.com/the-know-yourself-show-yourself-challenge/

If you're struggling to find or keep the kind of relationship you really want, it may be because you are emotionally unavailable in some way.  

In this episode, I'll help you figure out:

• If you're emotionally unavailable or not
• If you're over your ex or not
• How your past relationships have created your current beliefs
• How to move forward without beating yourself up

For more info on today's topics, check out:

• Episode #4 - Emotionally Unavailable Men 
• Episode #10 - Five Tips for Moving on From Your Ex
• The Love Starts Here Facebook Group

You can also check out www.lovestartsherecoach.com for more info about me, my services, and how to schedule a free consult!