The process is a journey. Though we want what we want, we must realize that is not always good with us. Let's begin our pursuit of being a better person and losing our toxic behaviors. Healing takes time and sometimes its difficult to implement or execute what you have learned. Keep trying, stay the course and be compassionate with yourself.

Sheila discusses her adventures of 2024. With 1/4 of the year gone, she analyzes her growth and self-discovery. Looking for inspiration, she watched " Black Love" on Prime. It follows 5 women as they explore dating with a dating coach and psychotherapist. It calls for women to evaluate what they need vs what they want. Sheila also discusses how her recent shorts are all related. They deal with loneliness, abandonment and rejection, changing the way you think of love, capacity for love and triggers and trauma. These topics describe her recent journey to happily ever after. A year of self-discovery that has sparked a new self awareness. She invites you to share the journey with her.

Sheila discusses living in survival mode and how once you begin to thrive, triggers and trauma are revealed. It is a process to heal and be delivered from, the defense mechanism that have become innate. To help along the journey, make sure you have a good support system in place.

A wise man once told me you cant change a Jackass into a Racehorse. The question is, Did I listen? I would say no. But, I learned something in the process. Some people have a limited capacity for growth and love. Hence, we must be mindful who we choose to yoke with. It matters. It can make for a stressful and strenuous relationship when you choose to ignore character issues upfront.

Let's get away from eros love or physical attraction and move to a complete love that fills in all the gaps in our lives. It's easy to connect physically, can you connect on a higher level? There are levels to this, let's explore our ability to love and be loved.

Evaluating behaviors that could be rooted in abandonment and rejection. Often times, we develop defense mechanisms to counteract our feelings of abandonment or rejection, lets do some soul searching to ensure we are enacting healthy behaviors. We want to adopt behaviors that support our growth and not keep us repeating the same patterns.

After years of being a strong black woman, Sheila is leaning in to her soft and vulnerable side. The new chapter will allow her to operate in her feminine energy. Accept yourself and the decisions you've made to lean into the next chapter. Remember real self-care is not beautification but taking care of your mental, physical, spiritual and emotional health. Remember, escapism is not self-care. Have the difficult conversations with yourself, it will allow you to deal with your reality and increase self-awareness. Lean in to the next chapter.