Lovin' Sheila: The Podcast

Sheila talks about her vacation and the "freedom" and "confidence" she is finding by learning to love herself. It stars with us. Also, we have to take control of designing the life we want. We have to establish boundaries to help establish what you want in your life and who you give access to. Without boundaries, you are more susceptible to triggers. This also happens when we are not assertive with our lives. We can-not be passive in designing our lives. We must be purposeful and intentional. Instead of triggers popping up like a minefield, practice self= awareness so we are able to detect where they lie. Furthermore, instead of being triggered, let's be proactive about pulling the trigger. We control our lives, and we don't have to be on the receiving end, we can initiate!

Taking a moment to appreciate ME. Take a moment and appreciate yourself. Think of all that makes you, you. Think of how beautiful you are in your natural grace!

Relationships require boundaries. Intimacy is furthered by boundaries. We need to understand that love is constant. When you love someone (unconditionally) it remains regardless of the circumstances. Love should be exercised in freedom, when it is not, resentment can develop. In love, Eros, we give love. Without freedom and eros love, it may come from compulsion, we do not want to be giving in due to compulsion. Make sure that you are exercising what you want, your autonomy and releasing your ability to love freely. This will help to ensure your happiness.

it is important to feel what you are experiencing. Spend some time with yourself and don't rush into another relationship. Allow yourself time to heal and apply grace, peace, and restoration as the cornerstone to your healing.

The primary emotion of anger is sometimes difficult to feel and express, we get caught up in secondary emotions like empathy, shame and guilt. It is ok to be angry. The Bible says be angry and sin not. What is important is what we do with our anger. How about repurposing it? Repurpose it to make you better! Resist the urge to become bitter. The experience, heartbreak, betrayal has come to assay you and take you to the next level.

In dealing with different situations in life, the outcome is often determined by our approach. Behave circumspectly and apply the knowledge you've learned to make wise decisions. Stay mindful of your words and actions to ensure it impacts your life positively.

Shame- It's what makes us want to cover our perceived vulnerabilities. How do you overcome it? Repurpose your pain. love yourself and create a safe place for you. Recognize that the perpetrator is responsible for their behavior, it is not your bad. You can only control you. Start by loving yourself, showing up as your authentic self and embrace your vulnerabilities.

Learning to show up for yourself is important. While showing up for others, be sure you show up for you. A constant state of mindfulness is necessary. In building connections in relationships, make sure there is a foundation. The foundation of your connection will be what carries you through and what allows you to stay connected. Don't let the operation of all the things you are working on together become bigger than the connection. The connection is the why we do it.