This is a 4 minute micro episode from a planning conversation Dr Yvonne Farrell and I recently had regarding our upcoming Heart of the Eight Extraordinary Vessels Training at Breitenbush Hotspring March 28th - April 1st. We talking logistical, when Yvonne started dropping clinical pearls. I had to hit record. She talks about the difference between intent and agenda in various healing practices. Then we discuss how acupuncturists are often trained to fix people, crather than letting go of the agenda and embracing the role of witness. By providing information and empowering patients, practitioners can help individuals take back their sovereignty and heal themselves. The focus shifts from fixing brokenness to developing a deeper relationship with oneself and cultivating compassion. Yvonne closes the 3 minute talk with how being human entails both pain and bliss, and through self-awareness and embracing the journey, individuals can create a more therapeutic environment for themselves and others.

In this podcast episode, I speak with Dr. Robin Hertz Ph.D, Clinical Psychologist. We delve into the concept of holding space and its profound impact on healing and group dynamics. We emphasize the importance of holding space for oneself first, recognizing one's own emotions and presence. We cover the pitfalls of minimizing emotions and offer insights on embracing intensity and allowing emotions to unfold naturally. The conversation highlights the power of group dynamics in facilitating deep healing, as well as the role of modeling vulnerability and authentic expression. The podcast also explores the challenges of rank and sovereignty within a group setting, and the need for discernment when offering advice or guidance. Overall, it offers a rich exploration of holding space as a catalyst for transformation and connection.

Jason Lange and I delve into the transformative power of fighting for love and connection in relationships. We highlight the importance of bringing shadow work into the realm of relationships to prevent the dulling of vital energy and the projection of unresolved pain and wounds onto our partners. We share our personal experiences as men in long-term relationships, discussing how ourwork in the Heart of Shadow program and with each other has positively impacted ourmarriages.

We emphasize the need for men to take responsibility for their own wounding and engage in healthy confrontation and conflict resolution to maintain the polarity and vitality of their relationships. Jason and I highlight the significance of men seeking support and guidance from other men, as traditional cultural conditioning often lacks emotional intelligence and sensitivity. The episode concludes by highlighting the rapid healing and growth that can occur through consistent engagement in shadow work within a supportive group setting.

This podcast episode explores the journey of love and connection between Luke and his wife Emily, as they navigate the challenges of marriage and parenthood. They share their experiences of disconnect and the impact it had on their relationship. They open up about their vulnerabilities, frustrations, and the growing resentment they felt.

 However, through a breakthrough, they discovered the power of reconnection and the importance of nurturing their bond. By prioritizing their relationship and creating space for intimacy, they found a deeper sense of love and support. Emily and Luke discuss the transformation they experienced, from feeling dried out and overwhelmed to feeling nourished and grounded.

They offer insights into the societal expectations and roles that can hinder connection in relationships and encourage listeners to challenge these norms. Ultimately, they embrace the idea of empowered coupling and share their journey of revitalizing their relationship and building a more connected family.

In this episode, Jason and Luke delve into the tendency among men to be excessively hard on themselves. They explore the roots and consequences of this self-critical mindset and discuss strategies for transforming it. Luke shares a personal example of working with a man who constantly berated himself despite his numerous accomplishments. They highlight how the inner critic hampers vitality and well-being, and emphasize the importance of creating a culture of support and celebration. The episode showcases the value of men's groups in providing a safe space for vulnerability and growth, where reflecting one another's greatness becomes the norm.

My Teaching partner Jason Lange and I delve into the experience of stagnation, feeling stuck, and waking up with a sense of dullness. We highlight the link between emotional stagnation and the hopelessness, depression, and numbness experienced by many men. Stagnation is explored from the perspective of Chinese medicine, where it is connected to physical processes such as inflammation and fibrosis. Luke and Jason emphasize the importance of addressing emotional stagnation to promote physical and emotional well-being.

They touch on the role of medication, such as SSRIs, and the need for deeper healing beyond stabilization. The conversation expands to discuss the evolving role of men in society and the need for a new, healthier manifestation of masculinity.

Luke and Jason introduce the phenonmenon of the masculine vortex, a life engine that fosters growth and emotional fluidity as a key element in breaking free from stagnation.

The show concludes by highlighting the Heart of Shadow program as a powerful container for transformation and the cultivation of love and connection among men.

Author, educator and clinician, Dr Yvonne Farrell and I discuss our upcoming continuing education training, the Heart of the Eight Extraordinary Vessels.

In this podcast we outline a few of our intentions for the course. 

We emphasize the need to embody these vessels in order to have a deep impact clinically and personally.

We also get into the role of community in healing and the importance of vulnerability and transparency in building meaningful connections.

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Once again my teaching partner Jason Lange and I dive into a nuanced and sometimes confused distinction, Enlightenment and Intimacy. For decades I chased the Big E - enlightenment. At some point, I realized there was an entire swath of the path I had given little credence to, the path of Intimacy. 

I never gave emotion the credit it deserved. I poo pooed it as a distraction below the transcendental. I did not realize it was the gateway to an embodied, here and now intimate way of relating to life.

Enlightenment without the ability to relate to others is like being stranded in paradise with no one to share it with. Intimacy invites us to cohere our humanity with our luminosity. It's an arduos, deeply fufilling path that calls all of us to task. No matter how we try, we cannot out run our life lessons, which always fall along the lines of our relationships. 

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Love... Luke

Jason Lange and I dive in to the phenomenon of cracking open. 

What are the mechanics of a deep opening?

Why is it useful on the healing journey?

The body/mind is one. A deep opening includes both aspects of our being. For our perpective to change once and for all. Our deepest longing for a freer life must emerge. Our physiology becomes more vital as we align with our heart of hearts.

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I'm back with my brother and leader in the men's work world Mike Terborg, putting the finishing touches on our conversation of what's required to lead an effective shdow work group for men or women. This conversation is useful if you're thinking about leading a group for the first time or if your a seasoned facilitator.

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