In this episode Mark and Cody discuss pedophilia. The two hosts share the definition of what a pedophile is and some warning signs to watch out for, also they discuss a few stories of teachers and more related to the topic all while bringing a sense of humor to break up such a dark topic.
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Definition:
Pedophilia, also spelled paedophilia, also called pedophilic disorder or pedophilia disorder, in conventional usage, a psychosexual disorder, generally affecting adults, characterized by sexual interest in prepubescent children or attempts to engage in sexual acts with prepubescent children. The term was used with that meaning in the psychiatric diagnostic literature prior to the publication of the fifth edition of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (2013; DSM-5), which replaced pedophilia with pedophilic disorder. As in earlier editions, the DSM-5 classifies the disorder as one of several paraphilic disorders, involving atypical sexual interests, practices, or behaviours (paraphilias). Unlike the earlier editions, however, the DSM-5 explicitly distinguishes between paraphilias and paraphilic disorders, recognizing for the first time that individuals may exhibit or engage in a range of atypical sexual interests, desires, practices, or behaviours that do not, in themselves, constitute mental illnesses
Urban dictionary:
The only good thing about them is they drive slowly through the school zone.
People who need to make airplane noises just to get his dick into his girlfriend's mouth.
A type of file you need to turn a 15mm hole into a 40mm hole.
People who think that the worst thing about bald vagina is to put the diaper back on.
People who run to the Walmart because they heard that the kids' pants were half off.
People who answered "I don't mind! Surprise me!" when the school teacher asked him "Which child is yours!?" in the pick-up time.
People who think that the hardest part in life is trying to fit in.
If they got into a fight with a Chinese, it will be called "Alien vs. Predator".
People whose favorite choir is A flat minor.
People whose favorite position is doggy style because the girls they are fucking are just learning to crawl.
My girlfriend told me last night, "I'm leaving you! I found out that you're a pedophile!"
I replied, "That's a big word for a 5 years old!"
Psychology
Pedophilia is an ongoing sexual attraction to pre-pubertal children. It is considered a paraphilia, a condition in which a person's sexual arousal and gratification depend on fantasizing about and engaging in sexual behavior that is atypical and extreme. Pedophilia is defined as recurrent and intense sexually arousing fantasies, sexual urges, or behaviors involving sexual activity with a prepubescent child or children—generally age 13 years or younger—over a period of at least six months. Pedophiles are more often men and can be attracted to either or both sexes. How well they relate to adults of the same or opposite sex varies.
Pedophilic disorder can be diagnosed in people who are willing to disclose this paraphilia, as well as in people who deny any sexual attraction to children but demonstrate objective evidence of pedophilia. For the condition to be diagnosed, an individual must either act on their sexual urges or experience significant distress or interpersonal difficulty as a result of their urges or fantasies. Without these two criteria, a person may have a pedophilic sexual orientation but not pedophilic disorder.
The prevalence of pedophilic disorder is unknown, but the highest possible prevalence in the male population is theorized to be approximately three to five percent. The prevalence in the female population is thought to be a small fraction of the prevalence in males.
An estimated 20 percent of American children have been sexually molested, making pedophilia a common paraphilia. Offenders are usually family friends or relatives. Types of activities vary and may include just looking at a child or undressing and touching a child. However, acts often involve oral sex or touching of genitals of the child or the offender. Studies suggest that children who feel uncared for or lonely may be at higher risk for sexual abuse.
Warning signa:
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The everyman
When looking out for a child sex offender, don't be fooled by a person's appearance, outward respectability or importance in the community.
Paedophiles are almost always men, more often married adult males and they work in a very wide range of occupations, from unskilled work up to corporate executives.
What to look out for is someone who relates better to children than to adults, and has either very few adult friends or whose friends might also be sex offenders.
Signs to watch for: paedophiles usually prefer children in one specific age group, such as infants and toddlers, children between six and ten years old, or "tweens" and young teenagers up to the age of 16.
Paedophiles can be bisexual but more commonly will prefer children or the one gender, males or females.
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Child-related workers
While paedophiles can work anywhere, they do find ways to be around children as often as possible.
It may not be their principal profession, such as a teacher or priest, but a voluntary or weekend position as a sports coach, camp counsellor, school bus driver, daycare worker, Boy Scout leader, church or secular youth worker can provide the contact with children they need.
Some well-known paedophiles have placed themselves as teachers or leaders of artistic bodies such as dance schools, where they have surrounded themselves with adoring and aspiring performers.
Andrew Manners was a convicted paedophile who had committed offences against minors in Queensland in 1998. He was on parole and prohibited from working with children when he surfaced in 2002.
Manners turned up as a fill-in teacher at his mother's Scottish dance school, where he was spotted by an observant parole officer.
Former performing arts schoolteacher, Peter Gerard Boys, was also a band leader of the musical troupe the Marching Koalas in the NSW Hunter Valley region when, aged in his 40s, he began having a sexual relationship with four of his students.
He was convicted and sentenced to eight child sex offences against girls aged 10-16 years, and on his release from prison is believed to have subsequently married one of the girls who had come of age during his incarceration.
Watch out for teacher adoration beyond the bounds of a normal crush, accompanied by "secret" phone calls and special individual attention.
Happy snappers
Paedophiles are enthusiastic collectors of photographs or videos of children, even children who are fully dressed, but preferably, and behind a parent's back, of children half or fully nude or engaged in sexually suggestive or explicit acts. They will have vast image collections, and hidden away a collection of child erotica and child-adult pornography.
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Close relatives and partners
The incestuous or family molester is usually an adult male such as the father, stepfather, uncle, grandfather or live-in boyfriend of the mother, who then molests the child or children.
Single mothers are easy prey for sexual predators whose real intention is to hit on the child, while continuing a sexual relationship with the mother.
The sexual relationship with the child is a secret, and don't expect a usually open child to reveal it.
Children are silent for a number of reasons - they may feel "special" with all the attention being paid them, and they may love the abusive adult.
Or their silence may be achieved by the abuser threatening the child with splitting up or somehow damaging the family if he or she reveals the relationship, or by making the victim feel they are dirty, naughty and to blame for what has occurred.
A person concerned about child molestation going on in a relative's home may be surprised to know that the mother of the child is aware, and complicit, for similar reasons of feeling intimidated by the molester and not wanting the "family" to split up should the situation be revealed.
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The gift giver
Beware of toys or gifts from an unknown source turning up in your child's possession. Paedophiles often like to "buy" your child with presents and often can, in a twisted manner, portray the child as the sexual aggressor after the victim realises he or she can bargain for toys, clothes, outings or games by withholding sexual "favours".
The always available babysitter
Often a single male with no friends, this sort of paedophile will place himself in a situation where he becomes the trusted babysitter, often for the children of several, usually single parent families.
The mothers regard him as a godsend, who will safely mind their children while they go to work, or go out with their friends.
In many cases the single parent is unable to provide the support the children need, leaving the scene wide open for the child molester to play "uncle" and provide care, attention and "fun".
Many paedophiles seek out mothers of single-parent families for the purpose of victimising their children, which may have been the case with loner Michael Guider, who regularly babysat a group of children and while their mothers were absent, drugged the girls and photographed them naked.
He was most fond of Samantha Knight, the pretty Bondi nine-year-old who went missing in 1986.
Guider eventually pleaded guilty to her manslaughter, claiming he had accidentally overdosed her. Samantha's body has never been found.
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The internet groomer
While children can be critical of a person's appearance and likely to suspect an ugly misfit, the internet has paved the way for weirdos to connect.
Paedophiles can still be outcasts and loners, but the internet is their ideal social tool.
They exchange information with other like-minded people via chatrooms and message boards about which children to target, how to groom a child and how to set up a meeting to seduce the child with the least risk of getting caught.
The damaged
Paedophiles are often the victims of child molestation themselves.
Paedophiles who were child molestation victims frequently seek out children at the age or stage of physical development at which they were molested, and are able to more easily justify their repetition of history.
They may network with others like them whose beliefs and practices are that sex with children is acceptable.
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How do you spot a paedophile? Here's a guide Source: Supplied
The good-looking charmer
People tend to judges others by their superficial appearances, and paedophiles can be charming, attractive men with social graces and an easy manner.
They may be respected community members.
They know how to play upon a child's need for attention and affection and come across as being helpful and trustworthy.
What they are doing is grooming the child or children - they often target groups of young people, particularly neighbourhood kids.
They will invite the children over to watch movies, eat and offers to take them out on trips to "fun" locations, such as the zoo, the park, the amusement arcade.
They spend as much time as possible making the children like them and even craving their attention as an after school treat.
They will touch the children in playful ways, playing special "games" eventually meant to culminate in sexual contact.
This is particularly easy if there is no father figure in the children's lives.
Make sure your kids tell you exactly what the neighbour has been doing with them.
Particularly watch for adults who "love talk" children, speaking to them in a manner they would a lover or spouse
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