LX2 Codependency Coaching

Today, we are talking about love addiction which is really oxytocin addiction. We can become addicted to the connection created by oxytocin at the beginning of relationships and miss red flags of unhelpful relationship dynamics. We can also move from healthy relationships seeking out the shiny parts of the beginning of new relationships. #loveaddiction #oxytocin #boundaries #missingredgflags

Today, we are talking make decisions from a place of fear. Often, fear can keep us stuck or make us feel like we don't have a lot of options. We can make a choices even by not make any choice at all. If we can control things in moment when we are uncertain of the outcome, we gain resilience. We build new tool and skills so the next time we are faced with something new or different we can trust ourselves to get through it. The fear might still be there and we can choose something different. #fear #change #feelingstuck #doinghardthings 

Today, we are talking about those unhelpful coping skills or behaviors we want to change. There is a payoff or "good" feeling that comes from using them. If we want to change we need to increase the awareness of how it feels before, during, and after we use the "wrong" skill or make the choice to use that behavior. It is helpful to be aware of how and why we use those skills. #copingskills #mentalhealth #makingchanges #unhelpful

Today, we are talking about losing ourselves in all the different ways we do. We get caught up in work, parenting, or in relationships and often we don't recognize it. It is important to be aware that we can come back to the relationship with ourselves, reconnecting with parts we may have neglected. We can come back to the home within ourself doing things we used to enjoy. Things that feel safe and consistent with our values and goals. Yes, we lose ourselves, and yes we can come home again to people we are and want to be. #losingyourself #cominghome #relationships #balance #rediscoveryou

Today, we are talking about the importance of friendships. Over our lifetime we meet people who come into our life, sometimes for a season and sometimes for longer. They help us get through things or are going through the same things. Having connections help make the hard times a little easier. There is a grief that comes from losing those connections but there is also gratitude for having someone with you at the time. It takes effort to maintain those connections but the reward is worth it. 

Today, we are talking about who we change, evolve, grow, and heal. We know life changes and people change. Often change happens because life happens. We can choose to change for the better and sometimes for the worse. With consistency and consciously we can become a different version of ourselves. It will take effort, it will mean failing, and it can lead to some amazing opportunities. It is up to you. #change #evolution #growth #skillsandtools 

Today, we are talking about the alignment between your head, your heart, and your intuition. We often will try to logic our way into or out of things, even when our heart wants something different. It is helpful to allow space for your feelings so we can process our way to a fuller picture of what are dealing with. It might also be helpful to clean up our head, shifting our internal voice to something a little kinder. Doing so will create a path to trusting ourselves. This piler of alignment creates a safer way move throughout the world. #trustyourself #feelyourfeelings #manageanxiety #bekind #mentalhealth

Today, we are talking about positivity versus reality. There are times we work hard to "stay positive" in the face of challenges. It might be a better use of energy to be realistic about our capacity for engagement, choosing consciously who we can be real with. #realist #authenticity #ominouspositivity #toxicpositivity 

Today, we are talking about feeling accepted in our relationships. Are we being seen and understood, all of our parts at the same time? Are we seeing and accepting ourselves. It can ben challenging to be aware of how we show up in relationship when we are too busy criticizing ourselves. Take an opportunity to see who shows in your life if we appreciate all of who we are. #acceptance #relationships #beinghuman #selflove

Today, we are talking about the concept of proving love or earning love. Often, we start in one place in relationship and can get off course as life happens. When we feel like love is transactional, it makes the whole point of connection and acceptance more challenging. #proveyourlove #connection #relationships #receivinglove