Magic for Realists

If you haven’t already heard; I make Magic Capes! In this week’s dose of Magic for Realists I explain what they are and how they work. In brief, Magic Capes work by playing to our human penchant for meaning making and materiality. I tell about the origins of this passion of mine and it’s evolution over more than a decade. I unpack my current process on how a Cape gets conjured and created. This is an exploration into meaning, art, mindful process, unconventional economics and wearable love. Magic Capes are playful, powerful, and for all ages. I hope after listening you have someone in mind (or yourself!) that I can make one for. Contact me: Instagram @magicforrealists or website magicforrealists.ca

It’s variable weather over here, inside and out. This episode is a simple one, an undefined one, and dispatch from the middle of undefined (private?) process. I wanted to touch base with you but I don’t have a tidy package to deliver. I do have a request though, and a hint of what’s to come. Listen up!

*This is not a case for or against polyamory, but a discussion of ways to approach understanding it as a concept.* Have you ever wondered how it was even ethical or possible to pull of simultaneous intimate relationships? I lived for years experimenting with versions of this. I’m now happily several years into trying monogamy.

However, I still believe that polyamory is an important addition to our cultural relational landscape and a beautiful (difficult!) venture. In this episode I give you (perhaps unexpected) examples of how you may have already encountered something close to polyamory. I discuss what purposes marriage has historically served, how these are changing, and how that is affecting how we approach partnership. I weave my own beliefs around the nature of love with anecdotes of my own experiences. I teach you a new word; compersion. If you’ve judged open relationships as wrong, or wondered how people cope with jealously, I hope you listen to this all the way through. @magicforrealists. Also website: magicforrealists.ca and you can support the show in Patreon.

This week’s dose of Magic for Realists is a continuation of this series talking about relationships. This week I talk about how the physical closeness and the speed and amount of time we spend with someone affects the dynamic of the relationship. And, good news, these two variables, of proximity and pacing are just that: variable! Realizing these are adjustable has been very helpful to me in navigating all sorts of connections. I explain what I mean by these terms and give examples of how adjusting them has improved my relationships. I hope you find this helpful.

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This week, continuing the “Love and Relationship” series, I expand on (some) of what I learned from years of being in open relationships. I explain how I define them and “polyamory”. This topic is dear to my heart, and some of my most beautiful, loving and challenging experiences of my life have come through this exploration.

I don’t profess to have a formula for the “best relationship structure”, but I do feel that some of the tenants I learned through open relating are invaluable to any healthy connection. I also believe that our current societal relationship norms are in desperate need of an overhaul, and that the discussion around open relationships is an important part of re-considering what a healthy relationship means.

I answer your questions of how I began being in an open relationship and my advice to those considering transitioning that direction. I hope you enjoy listening to my perspective as someone who’s explored all sorts of permutations of intimacy. I’d love to hear your reflections and further questions. @magicforrealists magicforrealists.ca

Ever heard the phrase "Opposites attract"? Have you felt this in your own connections? I think there's something true here, and also, equally in the notion that similarities attract people to each other. In this episode I explain more about how I've experienced these two phenomena, and also what I find most challenging about relationships (knowing who's sh!t is who's) and how I now handle it (ask someone wiser!) I also talk about how in our closest relationships we often experience a mirroring effect, where what one person says to the other could be true in reverse. I hope this episode supports you in understanding and navigating your attractions more.

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In this dose of Magic for Realists I give a brief overview of the landscape of my history of intimate relationships (including open and monogamous adventures) and lead up to sharing a poem with you about the ending of a significant relationship. This vulnerable poem is called "Bananas", and recounts how a symbolic moment helped me clarify that it was time to leave a partnership.

I talk about what is magical and dangerous about an intimate relationship, introduce some skills I believe are helpful, and remind you that YOU are the common factor in all your relationships. This is the first in a series about love and Intimate relationships; I hope you join in for the ride.

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Do you feel connected to your lineage? Have you ever felt the helpful spirit of someone already dead? This week’s dose of Magic for Realists is about my ancestors. I talk about my recent thoughts and experiences with remembering my ancestors, specifically my paternal Grandmother and my “back yard” Grandpa Paul. I tell you why raspberries are part of my philosophy of life and death. I share a voice recording of my Grandmother and I talking about “the other side” of death, and of me attempting to play the accordion like Paul. I hope this is fun to listen to and gets you thinking about the special people who have formed some of who you are and so on and so forth…. To be in touch: Instagram @magicforrealists or website: magicforrealists.ca

Have you ever felt a correlation between your emotional well-being and your physical body? In this week's dose of Magic for Realists podcast, inspired by a listener question, I talk about my experience with recurring tonsillitis and what I learned. In my last trip to the hospital with it, 10 years ago, I felt there was a strong correlation between me shoving down how I felt, and ending up with a physical lump in my throat. I talk about growing up being nice and good and careful. I recount journey over the last decade to exercise my throat chakra and express myself. I talk about the first iteration of this podcast (a radio show!) and a special healing circle between friends. I don't claim to know what your sickness is about, but hope that this episode will encourage you to listen to that little voice inside you who has some inklings of what other layers are involved in your wellbeing, and what could help you heal.

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Welcome back! We’re starting year two of the Magic for Realists podcast! This episode is a catch up/intro to “The situation”. Context is important for understanding, so I felt it was time to give an overview of my current life situation in hopes that it will give you more background of what “real world” I’m discovering and making magic in. I tell you about my studio, my office job, and my trailer living predicament. If you’re new to listening or have been tuning in for ages, I hope this overview answers some of your curiosity about the life behind my voice.

(I also tell you what I recently used the Patreon tip jar money for!)

Thanks for listening!

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