Magic’s in the Mess

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  • How to Build an Audience & Business in Alignment with Keisha Leilani

    This is your blueprint to build a business on Instagram and make sure it's authentic to you!

    Welcome to The Hot Girl School! The podcast where we redefine confidence and go way beyond the reflection you see in the mirror.
    We're your hosts Lauren and Danielle, here to empower you to embrace your inner radiance because confidence is so much more than looks. Our goal is to help you become your best self.
    Whether you're strutting into an event or conquering the boardroom, join us as we explore topics like self love, inner strength and owning your unique journey to confidence.
    So, grab your favorite drinkie and turn up the volume because you're about to unleash your true potential.
    This episode features Keisha Leilani who felt burnt out and needed to change directions to have more time with her children. With that came that transformation of stepping into alignment with herself and the results are incredible.
    Keisha Leilani is a serial entrepreneur and online business coach. After building multiple businesses, including a paleo product company and a social media agency, she realized that real success comes from alignment, not just hustle. Now, she helps busy moms and ambitious entrepreneurs build aligned audiences and scale their businesses authentically. Through her programs, like the Aligned Audience Academy and Elevate Her Wealth, she empowers women to master social media, create irresistible offers and achieve financial freedom while staying true to their values.
    How to build a business that aligns with you:
    Step 1: At The Hot Girl School, we always say ask yourself first! and Keisha agrees wholeheartedly. You need to find out what fulfills you and makes you feel aligned. The goal is not to stay in the rat race, but instead to find your strengths and through understanding who you are you can form the business. This way working doesn't feel like work.
    Step 2: Put yourself out there. Social media is supplemental and being in person opens doors and opportunities.
    Social Media tips:
    Be authentic. Be consistent. There is a lot of trial and error!
    Use other people's posts as inspiration and put your twist on it so it truly reflects you and doesn't just copy someone else.
    Take your trial and tribulations and turn them into learning moments instead of being a victim. This allows people to learn about you and teaches them simultaneously.
    Gold Nugget: Instagram wants to see that you are using app. Use the stickers, polls, send direct messages and include the features Instagram offers to show the algorithm you are using the app.
    Engagement is a huge piece to elevate yourself on line.
    Collaborations will help boost your profile.
    To get in touch, hire or book a consultation with Keisha on Instagram, reach out to her  @keishaleilani  Don't forget to FOLLOW HER!
    If you enjoyed this video, remember to give it a thumbs up, subscribe for more inspiring content, and hit the bell icon for new episodes every Tuesday!
    Let's Connect:
    📸 Follow us on Instagram: @thehotgirlschool
    🔥 Follow us on TikTok: @thehotgirlschool
    🎶 Follow us on Spotify: @thehotgirlschool
    🟥 Follow us on YouTube: @thehotgirlschool
    TALK TO US! We want to hear from you! Send us direct messages or email us with topics on what you would like to hear about.
    Thank You for Watching!

    36 min
  • How toTreat Your Significant Other | How Actions, Attitudes & Awareness Play a Role

    FIRE EPISODE🔥 How you treat your husband or boyfriend plays a huge role in the quality of the relationship. Typically one person teaches the other person how to treat them and what the dynamic of the relationship will be like.

    Disclaimer: If you’re unhappy in your relationship, it’s most likely 1 of 2 things. Either you’re an unhappy individual who needs to work on yourself OR you’re with the wrong person.

    Why do we treat our significant others poorly? Unresolved personal issues, lack of communication, unrealistic expectations, power dynamic, stress or burnout, lack of empathy, emotional immaturity, cultural differences, neglect of the relationship, lack of self awareness, toxic dynamic

    What should you focus on to make your relationship better?

    1. Resolving personal issues aka working on yourself. No one can fix you. This allows you to show up whole. When you show up whole to a relationship, the person you choose to be with is now part of your world instead of your whole world. One person can’t be your everything. Not only is that a lot of pressure, but it will put stress cracks on the relationship. Depending on yourself, knowing who you are and trusting yourself lead to confidence. Because you have done the work, you are able to identify why things are bothering, you have the words to put your emotions into context and can then communicate the issue rather than use further damaging tools such as passive aggressive, screaming, gas lighting, avoiding the topic altogether.

    2. Communication. Communication can mitigate just about every other problem in a relationship.So many bigger issues pop up due to people not speaking up. No one is a mind reader. AND there is always a nice way to say what you want to say. Learning simple techniques like walking away and speaking it about it later when each person has cooled down or staying solution focused instead of blaming are easy ways to improve communication. Consider practicing what you need to say. Work on a short script, practice it and then think through the conversation to where it could go. Knowing the conversation can go multiple directions will help you recognize how you feel.

    What does a healthy relationship look like? Open communication, mutual respect, trust and honesty, equality and partnership, healthy conflict resolution, support and encouragement, emotional and physical intimacy, individuality and independence, fun and joy, shared goals and values.

    Important: give yourself permission to be in a healthy, happy, loving, fun, kind, trusting relationships. After leaving a toxic relationship, you are driven by chaos. The tumultuous ups and downs become normal which isn’t normal at all. The healthy relationship will feel boring and you will poke the bear for a reaction.

    Unconditional love is SUCH a beautiful thing. Unconditional love IS NOT treating someone poorly and expecting them to always be there. It's doing things for someone when it's inconvenient for you. It's caring for them when you are sick. It's putting their needs equal to their own.

    Tangible action items to a healthier relationship:
    -Stop what you’re doing and greet him when he comes through the door. Give him your undivided attention
    -Make an effort to not be on your phones and have a conversation
    -Have date night once a week
    -Say I love you
    -speaking highly of him when he’s not around
    -The body will tell you how you feel about someone. In a healthy relationship you Hug, grab each other’s butt, cuddle, snuggle, hold hands. If you’re grossed out to do any of these, it’s time to go!
    -Simply choose to be all in, 100% and give yourself permission to have a happy relationship.
    -Hang out with friends who have quality relationships with their spouse, speak positively of them and are proud of them

    Let's Connect

    :📸 Follow us on Instagram: @thehotgirlschool

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    TALK TO US! We want to hear from you!


    41 min
  • How to Reinvent Yourself | Rebranding Era | Be MORE Confident Than Ever Before 🦄✨

    How do you know when you are ready to reinvent? You want to grow, you know you are meant for more, you feel stagnant and, to put it simply, change is needed. LIKE NOW! So, how do you go about this? Let us show you!

    Welcome to The Hot Girl School! The podcast where we redefine confidence and go way beyond the reflection you see in the mirror.
    We're your hosts Lauren and Danielle, here to empower you to embrace your inner radiance because confidence is so much more than looks. Our goal is to help you become your best self.
    Whether you're strutting into an event or conquering the boardroom, join us as we explore topics like self love, inner strength and owning your unique journey to confidence.
    So, grab your favorite drinkie and turn up the volume because you're about to unleash your true potential.
    For most people, you know you are getting antsy and it's time for a reinvention when they physically want a change. It can be walking into your closet and realizing none of the items work for you anymore or it can be wanting a new haircut or color.
    Another indicator is that you need to change friendship groups, careers, perhaps even your romantic relationship.
    Let's be real-you can simply change the style of your home, reorganize the closets in your house and if you're feeling like you need the full life overhaul. Pick up and move!
    Step 1: What focus area of life do you want to reinvent and level up?
    Now that you identified that you need to reinvent and change your life.
    Step 2: Take action!
    GOLD NUGGET to take with you:
    You're not starting over. You're starting from experience.
    Deconstruct to Rebuild.
    Action Item: make a list of what you no longer want in your life such as habits, people, jobs, mindset, etc. Then figure out what your future self wants to look like.
    Keep in mind, the small reinventions like reorganizing your house can be done in a day or weekend. The big inventions take time so also be aware of the timeline you are giving yourself and possibly even in expecting.
    Reminder: You can retrain your brain and your thoughts. Start to notice what you are saying, how you think and swap out the negative thoughts for the positive thoughts. There are so many free tools and resources to reinvent your character, your habits and your mindset.
    You are here to do more than simply work and wait for the weekend.
    Make it your bigger life happen because no on else is going to do it for you.
    If you enjoyed this video, remember to give it a thumbs up, subscribe for more inspiring content, and hit the bell icon for new episodes every Tuesday!
    Let's Connect:
    📸 Follow us on Instagram: @thehotgirlschool
    🔥 Follow us on TikTok: @thehotgirlschool
    🎶 Follow us on Spotify: @thehotgirlschool
    🟥 Follow us on YouTube: @thehotgirlschool
    Support Us:
    TALK TO US! We want to hear from you! Send us direct messages or email us with topics on what you would like to hear about.
    Thank You for Watching!

    21 min
  • What are the rules for SPLITTING THE BILL with friends at dinner? Avoid that AWKWARD moment

    This is a contentious topic! When you receive the invite to go to a group dinner, do you roll your eyes because you know how it's going to go down? Between the research and our experience, we are going to tell you how it SHOULD be so you can educate yourself and the host!

    Welcome to The Hot Girl School! The podcast where we redefine confidence and go way beyond the reflection you see in the mirror.
    We're your hosts Lauren and Danielle, here to empower you to embrace your inner radiance because confidence is so much more than looks. Our goal is to help you become your best self.
    Whether you're strutting into an event or conquering the boardroom, join us as we explore topics like self love, inner strength and owning your unique journey to confidence.
    So, grab your favorite drinkie and turn up the volume because you're about to unleash your true potential.
    Every single person has their own opinion on this and there actually is a correct way to go about it.
    The reason people don't like group dinner is because they pay for everyone else to indulge. Even you don't eat and you simply go for the company, you are still expected to chip in.
    You know if you say yes to the invite, you are going to be splitting the bill regardless of what your ate, drank or if you can afford it.
    The three ways the bill is paid:
    1. Everyone puts in their card
    2. Itemize the final bill and multiple cards with different amounts
    3. Separate bills
    Rarely to almost never does the host have a conversation around the bill prior to hosting the event.
    According to research, the host is supposed to pay the final bill is she organized the event. If that is NOT her intention then it should be stated at the time of the invite.
    Speaking up and asking for your own bill is awkward. It takes confidence in your decision to say take this route. Sometimes you will get verbal pushback for doing this.
    In order to avoid this whole situation with the bill after, the host needs to find out from the restaurant if they allow split checks. Let your guests know as the host that the restaurant doesn't split checks and ask the group if they are ok with using cash app. The solution is to choose a different restaurant if the majority of people aren't ok with this.
    It's also the responsibility of the host to find out how the group wants to pay. Having this conversation up front is much easier and eliminates the tension at the end of a fun night. It's a simple question to get a pulse on the group, "how do we want to take care of the bill? Do you want to split the bill or do you want individual checks?".
    If speaking up about how you want to pay whether it's splitting evenly or individual checks, you need to realize that's a you problem.
    Get comfortable saying you can't make it or how you'd like to pay.
    If you enjoyed this video, remember to give it a thumbs up, subscribe for more inspiring content, and hit the bell icon for new episodes every Tuesday!
    Let's Connect:
    📸 Follow us on Instagram: @thehotgirlschool
    🔥 Follow us on TikTok: @thehotgirlschool
    🎶 Follow us on Spotify: @thehotgirlschool
    🟥 Follow us on YouTube: @thehotgirlschool
    Support Us:
    TALK TO US! We want to hear from you! Send us direct messages or email us with topics on what you would like to hear about.
    Thank You for Watching!

    13 min
  • STOP OVERSHARING! How to be real WITHOUT oversharing | Find your worth within

    Why do we overshare? We want validation, we have something to prove because we don't feel good enough. In other situations, we overshare because we are seeking advice and hoping that someone else can provide the answer for us when the answer is your choice. How do you stop?

    Welcome to The Hot Girl School! The podcast where we redefine confidence and go way beyond the reflection you see in the mirror.
    We're your hosts Lauren and Danielle, here to empower you to embrace your inner radiance because confidence is so much more than looks. Our goal is to help you become your best self.
    Whether you're strutting into an event or conquering the boardroom, join us as we explore topics like self love, inner strength and owning your unique journey to confidence.
    So, grab your favorite drinkie and turn up the volume because you're about to unleash your true potential.
    As easy as it is to say "stop oversharing" the action and the reason is something that you can't just shut off. Perhaps you weren't listened to as a child so you constantly talk. Perhaps you don't feel good enough to be in that work situation so you overshare with colleagues. Perhaps you just want advice because you don't trust yourself to make a decision which leads to the friends/family using it against you down the road.
    Tangible tools to stop oversharing:
    1. Create your top 3. These are the friends you go to with anything and everything because it's a judgement free zone. even if you mess up they will still love and support you.
    2. Talk it out. Voice record yourself talking and talking and talking. Friends get tired of listening to you talk in circles. Your voice recorder won't. This will also allow you the ability to go back and listen it. Perhaps you pick up some extra clues! And now it's out of your system
    3. Journal. If you don't want to voice record, a good ol pen and paper will do the trick. If youre a visual person this is the best way to get things out of your systems. create a pros and cons list, rank things, etc.
    4. Decide what points you are going to talk about prior to arriving in the situation. If you think through what details to share and what details to hold back, you're prepared and won't slip up.
    Be Self Aware. Get to know yourself. Do the work. Trust yourself.
    We can't stress this enough. Being self aware of what you're saying, how you're saying it and the frequency is important. People can see through know it alls. People can see through smoke and mirrors. You can't trick someone and if you can, it's for a short time.
    Places to NOT overshare:
    Social Media
    Family
    Friends
    Strangers
    Work
    Consider your boundaries. If you have loose boundaries with yourself, this may contribute to oversharing as well. Respect yourself enough to know that things are to be kept private. Not everything needs to be news.
    Less is more. Something this motto can apply to discussions. If it's a great story that deserves every little detail then yes, go for it. If it's not then remember most people don't care. As much as your friends and family want to help you, there is also a limit that they can handle. So if you want to have a productive conversation, use their time wisely.
    Build your muscle to feel confident with your decisions. This way NO ONE can shake you. If you come to a decision and you are genuinely excited, other's people's opinions won't bug you if they don't align with your decision. If feedback does shake you then maybe you aren't as confident about that decision as you thought (:
    New episodes every Tuesday!
    Let's Connect:
    📸 Follow us on Instagram: @thehotgirlschool
    🔥 Follow us on TikTok: @thehotgirlschool
    🎶 Follow us on Spotify: @thehotgirlschool
    🟥 Follow us on YouTube: @thehotgirlschool
    Support Us:
    TALK TO US! We want to hear from you! Send us direct messages or email us with topics on what you would like to hear about.
    Thank You for Watching!

    17 min
  • 🦄✨ HOW TO MANIFEST🔮 The Truth & The Secret to Getting What You Want 🪄🦩

    Are you tired of living in your reality? We hate to say it, but you created it. How do you change it? What you focus on grows. You also HAVE TO THINK YOU ARE WORTHY of what it is you want.

    Welcome to The Hot Girl School! The podcast where we redefine confidence and go way beyond the reflection you see in the mirror.
    We're your hosts Lauren and Danielle, here to empower you to embrace your inner radiance because confidence is so much more than looks. Our goal is to help you become your best self.
    Whether you're strutting into an event or conquering the boardroom, join us as we explore topics like self love, inner strength and owning your unique journey to confidence.
    Get what you want.
    Visualize.
    Manifest.
    They all mean the same thing!
    Easy example to implement TODAY:
    Princess Parking
    Before you leave your house, say aloud that you want Princess Parking.
    Be sure that you are clear what Princess Parking is to you. Is that a close spot? Is that an end spot? Is that a big spot? Is that a shaded spot? Does it mean you find your parking spot quickly? Once Princess Parking is given a meaning then when you ask for it, it happens!
    Things to Remember when Manifesting:
    You have to believe you are worthy of it.
    You have to believe it your core
    If you say one thing but truly want something else, then it also won't come true.
    Say what you want confidently. Saying it like you feel dumb, it also won't happen.
    YOU ARE WHAT YOU THINK!
    You are powerful!
    It's a chain reaction. When one thing shows up, you want to do it again with something bigger. It will show up and possibly even faster.
    EXERCISE: create an audio visual video of the life you want and narrate it. Save it to your phone and watch it every morning and every evening. Make sure you narrate it. Just because you don't like the sound of your voice doesn't mean you should shy away.
    Manifestation must be backed up with action. Stay open to receive and notice the opportunities brought to you. Staying in a flow state helps more show up for you.
    HOW TO MANIFEST:
    1. See it
    2. Touch it
    3. Feel it
    4. Taste it
    5. Hear it
    YUP! Include all 5 senses to manifest effectively.
    How do you manifest? What do you want to manifest? SHARE WITH US!
    If you enjoyed this video, remember to give it a thumbs up, subscribe for more inspiring content, and hit the bell icon for new episodes every Tuesday!
    Let's Connect:
    📸 Follow us on Instagram: @thehotgirlschool
    🔥 Follow us on TikTok: @thehotgirlschool
    🎶 Follow us on Spotify: @thehotgirlschool
    🟥 Follow us on YouTube: @thehotgirlschool
    Support Us:
    TALK TO US! We want to hear from you! Send us direct messages or email us with topics on what you would like to hear about.
    Thank You for Watching!

    20 min
  • Triggered and Transformed: Turn Pain Points into Power Moves

    This is where sh!t gets real! This is how you work on yourself, heal yourself, become self aware and how you grow. It's hard, it's real, it's raw. BUT IT'S WORTH IT!

    Welcome to The Hot Girl School! The podcast where we redefine confidence and go way beyond the reflection you see in the mirror.
    We're your hosts Lauren and Danielle, here to empower you to embrace your inner radiance because confidence is so much more than looks. Our goal is to help you become your best self.
    Whether you're strutting into an event or conquering the boardroom, join us as we explore topics like self love, inner strength and owning your unique journey to confidence.
    So, grab your favorite drinkie and turn up the volume because you're about to unleash your true potential.
    What are triggers?
    Emotional responses that come up when something stirs up from the past and keep in mind, these can be deep in the subconscious. It's an unwanted emotional reaction.
    Once the trigger is identified and you will know because it's the same cause and effect, you should ask yourself, "did this person do anything wrong?" and "am I projecting a past experience onto the situation?"
    Triggers can cause self sabotage.
    DON'T BE ASHAMED that you are triggered! This is how to heal yourself and how to help yourself when you are triggered.
    How to recognize if you are triggered to understand how it feels in your body:
    1. Anxiety
    2. Rapid thoughts
    3. Looping thoughts
    4. Anger
    5. Agitated and Annoyed
    6. Shame
    7. Guilt
    8. Breathing rapidly
    9. Fight or Flight
    10. Shutdown
    How to Heal:
    Notice the patterns. When something triggers you, dissect what happened to cause the trigger, how it feels in your body, ask yourself "what is the lesson to be learned?" THEN figure out a new way to deal with it.
    This is the challenging part. The body doesn't forget what happened in the past but your mind can overcome it. With enough practice and being around healthy people, when you are triggered, it becomes very obvious what the old behavior is.
    The healing piece of being triggered requires a lot of thought, conversations with yourself and being proactive instead of reactive.
    MAKE THE DECISION to be in control and to not repeat destructive behavior.
    If you enjoyed this video, remember to give it a thumbs up, subscribe for more inspiring content, and hit the bell icon for new episodes every Tuesday!
    Let's Connect:
    📸 Follow us on Instagram: @thehotgirlschool
    🔥 Follow us on TikTok: @thehotgirlschool
    🎶 Follow us on Spotify: @thehotgirlschool
    🟥 Follow us on YouTube: @thehotgirlschool
    Support Us:
    TALK TO US! We want to hear from you! Send us direct messages or email us with topics on what you would like to hear about.
    Thank You for Watching!

    20 min
  • How to Set Boundaries | EXACTLY What to Say

    Do you say YES to plans knowing you don't want to go then you have make up an excuse not to go? This is extremely common and we are going to tell you exactly what to say initially so you can decline invitations without guilt!

    Welcome to The Hot Girl School! The podcast where we redefine confidence and go way beyond the reflection you see in the mirror.
    We're your hosts Lauren and Danielle, here to empower you to embrace your inner radiance because confidence is so much more than looks. Our goal is to help you become your best self.
    Whether you're strutting into an event or conquering the boardroom, join us as we explore topics like self love, inner strength and owning your unique journey to confidence.
    What is a boundary? Limits we set for ourselves to protect our emotional, mental and physical well-being.
    Why do we need boundaries? It's about self respect. It's so that you can show up authentically and whole heartedly for yourself and the people you are there to support. It's honoring YOU. How YOU want to spend your time, WHO you want to spend your time with and making sure that you are part of the equation.
    Doing everything for everyone else all the time leads to burn out and resentment.
    Setting the boundary teaches people how to treat you. Saying what you need or don't need from someone is challenging, BUT it shows the level of respect you have for yourself and tells the other person where you stand.
    Step 1: Get comfortable with SAYING NO! You can't do everything.
    Step 2: Understand how you feel. Is it the person you don't want to give your time to? Is it because you have more important things to do? Is it because you are feeling behind with work and/or your family? When you can pinpoint why you don't want to hang out with someone that makes it easier to set the boundary.
    Step 3: Identify your own needs. Do you feel energized or drained? Do you need more alone time or social time? How can you build your schedule out to reflect what you need.
    Step 4: Get comfortable saying them out loud. Remember, it may take a few tried to find the exact words you want to use to get your point across!
    Step 5: Have consistency with the boundaries you set. You are trying to start a new habit. This new pattern takes time to instill which means you need to give yourself grace. Stumble, fumble and fall and then get back up and the next time the opportunity arises to set the boundary, embrace the moment.
    Step 6: Being honest with how people respond to the boundary you have set. If they keep taking and pushing, it shows they don't fully respect you or your decision which can make you see the relationship through a different light.
    WARNING: YOU WILL FUMBLE and it could even be a lifelong struggle in certain situations!
    HERE IS WHAT TO SAY.
    When declining an invitation: "Thank you for the invite, Saturday doesn't work for me." There is no need to give a reason why. Thanks Mom for teaching me that!
    If you'd like to reschedule then you say: "Thank you for the invite, Saturday doesn't work for me, but I really want to make this happen. Does ______ work for you?"
    When you would like to go out and not drink: "I'm not drinking right now because I want to have a healthier lifestyle" or "I'm not drinking right now because I'm just as fun without alcohol!"
    NOTE TO SELF: No Days Off is not going to work forever! The hustle, the grind really only works when you are a total loner (in a good way) OR with your team that has the same mindset. Once you have a social life, a family, hobbies, etc., your ability to grind it out disappears.
    Last but not least, if the relationship fizzles out, don't feel the need to keep the relationship going. Behind the scenes, you were actually on the same page all along!
    Let's Connect:
    📸 Follow us on Instagram: @thehotgirlschool
    🔥 Follow us on TikTok: @thehotgirlschool
    Support Us:
    If you want to support us, send us direct messages or email us with topics.
    Thank You for Watching!

    23 min
  • Why We Started The Hot Girl School

    Welcome to The Hot Girl School, the podcast where we redefine confidence and go way beyond the reflection you see in the mirror.

    We're your hosts Lauren and Danielle, here to empower you to embrace your inner radiance because confidence is so much more than looks. Our goal is to help you become your best self.
    Whether you're strutting into an event or conquering the boardroom, join us as we explore topics like self love, inner strength and owning your unique journey to confidence.
    So, grab your favorite drinkie and turn up the volume because you're about unleash your true potential!
    This episode of The Hot Girl School explains why we started, a little bit about who we are and our mission.
    Our main goal is to emphasize that this podcast is NOT about looks. Confidence is a vibe! Understanding that someone who is a 10 with looks but a 3 in a vibe is ultimately a 3. Someone who is a 7 in looks but has a 12 vibe is a 12.
    Being confident ebbs and flows. You may feel extremely confident in one type of situation but once you are put into a different environment, you shrink into your shell. That's ok! and totally normal by the way.
    Confidence in every area of life is a mindful effort. Understanding the origin of why you don't feel so confident also helps so you can then take the steps to become more comfortable in your skin or in a particular environment.
    We will break down all of the little pieces that confidence seeps into. With each little stepping stone spanning across personal, romance, friendships and business you will slowly start to find new ways to integrate the tangible tools you learn to become stronger and more defiant in the areas you may not feel 100% in.
    WE WANT TO HEAR FROM YOU! What topics would you like us to cover? What areas do you struggle in? Are you needing to have a conversation with someone and don't have the right words? While we aren't therapists, doctors or psychologists, both Lauren and Danielle have done a lot of self development work on themselves so between the two of them, a real life example could most likely be given.
    *Feel free to send us direct messages, submit a topic on our website, email us or leave a comment*
    You can find us at:
    Apple Podcast
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     @TheHotGirlSchool 
    Website: www.thehotgirlschool.com
    8 min
  • How to Connect & Network with Intention | Walk Away with Meaningful Contacts

    Do you dread going to networking events? Do you feel uneasy attending events alone? Is your energy zapped after social gatherings? Learn how to make meaningful connections and leave those events energized!

    Welcome to The Hot Girl School! The podcast where we redefine confidence and go way beyond the reflection you see in the mirror.
    We're your hosts Lauren and Danielle, here to empower you to embrace your inner radiance because confidence is so much more than looks. Our goal is to help you become your best self.
    Whether you're strutting into an event or conquering the boardroom, join us as we explore topics like self love, inner strength and owning your unique journey to confidence.
    So, grab your favorite drinkie and turn up the volume because you're about to unleash your true potential.
    Connection is important because we all need to be loved, feel seen and have support. Connection is rooted in everything we do and healthy connections can help you build a happy, fulfilled life.
    What connection is not:
    *only talking about yourself
    *being loud
    *seeking attention
    THE SECRET: Be genuinely interested in the other person!
    Here are some examples of conversation starting connections:
    1. Give a Compliment! This will make the other person feel really AND is the key to disarm them. They now trust you and see you as a friend instead of a competitor. This is NOT Regina George style complimenting
    2. Open ended questions are the key to unlocking the other person. Actively listen and ask follow up questions that pertain to what they are saying.
    3. How can I help you? People who ask this want to keep you on their radar and the other person will feel obligated to ask the same thing.
    4. "Hi, I'm _________ and I don't know anyone here. How do you know _________?"
    The Game Plan:
    How many people do you want to connect with?
    How many people do you want to have a deep conversation with?
    Identify what your goal is and include that you want it to be a genuine excitement.
    Pro Tip: One or two strong connections is much better than 12 empty connections.
    Now keep in mind how you come across. You want to give someone your undivided attention to create the connection. Eye contact is a very powerful way to ensure that they know you are paying attention. Looking at every person who walks by shows you aren't actively engaged. If someone is doing this to you, feel free to kindly end the conversation and move on to the next.
    Remember, it is important that you are willing to take the first step. It's easy to sit back because nerves get in the way, BUT this isn't being in control; therefore there is a good chance, you will not love the outcome that comes with it.
    Being thoughtful goes a long way. Show that you are dependable, interested in them and a kind person. Schedule the next meeting or coffee, talk to them in between and make the effort!
    The anticipation of going somewhere alone is far more scary than actually being at the event solo. Prep yourself, do some research on the people who will be there, work on your openers, smile, make eye contact and ask questions!
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About Magic’s in the Mess

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Welcome to Magic in the Mess—where we ditch the highlight reel and get real about what it actually takes to build a business and a life that feels as good as it looks.