Mahogany Momology

As married moms, we strive to be the best wife/mother/educator. However, being pulled in all these directions can cause burnout and insanity. We can't perfect it all. And I'm of the philosophy that one of these facets will not do well. What do we do to make the situation better? Today, we'll be talking with Mira Rollins, author of Acing Motherhood, Failing Marriage.

Guest Momologist: Mira Rollins, author of Acing Motherhood, Failing Marriage. Mira Rollins is the author of, Acing Motherhood, Failing Marriage. She is Dallas native, and is passionate about being a wife, mother x3, Christian, writer, and speaker. She also loves to read, run and travel. She is inspired by people who seek to help other people. When she sees individuals doing good for others, it makes her want to go out and do the same.

Momologist of the Week: Congrats to Timiza Johnson who continue the conversation on Season 2, Episode 1 Rainbow Mom in our facebook group. She is our Momologist of the Week and will be receiving a signed copy of Tiffany's book: A fearless journey to motherhood.

Get the Book: Acing Motherhood, Failing Marriage

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Topic: Common Law Marriage

With the increase of cohabitation are we confusing common law marriage with real marriage? Is there a costly mistake. Mel and Tash will continue the conversation

Mahogany Momologist of the Week: Taraji P Henson. She is going to be honored with her own star on the Hollywood Walk of Fame this year.

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Resources:

Which States Recognize Common Law Marriage?https://www.nolo.com/legal-encyclopedia/free-books/living-together-book/chapter2-4.html

Common Law Marriage Fact Sheet

http://www.unmarried.org/common-law-marriage-fact-sheet/

Fact or Fiction: Five Myths about Common Law Marriage

https://www.legalzoom.com/articles/fact-or-fiction-five-myths-about-common-law-marriage

Cohabitation: Background and Legal Issues. Findlaw.com; Retrieved from: https://family.findlaw.com/living-together/cohabitation-background-and-trends.html

Yung, Grace (2017 May 4) The Pros and Cons of Common Law Marriage. OutSmart. Retrieved: http://www.outsmartmagazine.com/2017/05/the-pros-and-cons-of-common-law-marriage/

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The struggles with infertility are not new in the medical community. Technologies in science have allowed success in assisted reproduction. However, the process can be traumatic and isolating. Even Michelle Obama has revealed issues of infertility and miscarriage in her book, Becoming. Why this issue of conception so taboo in the Black community? Today, we're discussing the journey of having a "Rainbow baby" with our guest, Tiffany Finley.

Guest Momologist, Tiffany Finley

Tiffany Finley is Founder of My Predestined One, faith-based, non-profit in Dallas, Texas providing support, resources, education, and encouragement to women and couples affected by premature birth, and women and couples struggling to conceive due to an infertility diagnosis. She is also a writer and blogger at TiffanyFinley.com, where she openly shares about her journey to motherhood after being diagnosed with polycystic ovarian syndrome (PCOS) in her mid-20's.

Website: https://www.tiffanyfinley.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tiffany_finley/

Mahogany Momologist of the Week:

Gladys Mae West. She is an American mathematician known for her contributions to the mathematics underpinning Global Positioning Systems. In 1956 West began to work at Naval Surface Warfare Center Dahlgren Division, where she was the second black woman ever to be employed. West began to collect data from satellites, eventually leading to the development of Global Positioning System. West was inducted into the United States Air Force Hall of Fame in 2018 one of the Air Force Space Command's highest honors. She has 3 adult children and seven grandchildren.

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References:

Carter, Christian (2018) Michelle Obama Reveals Miscarriage. BlackDoctor.org; Retrieved: https://blackdoctor.org/524549/michelle-obama-reveals-miscarriage-i-felt-lost-and-alone/

Finley, Tiffany (2018) A Fearless Journey to Motherhood. London Lane Designs.

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In recent weeks Instagram star Blac Chyna caused an uproar with her endorsement of a skin lightening cream. Getting paid for promotional products and services can come at a cost to one's audience and followers. Frequent use of bleach whitening creams can be interpreted as self hate. Replace bleach whitening creams with weaves or having blonde hair, and one can argue the same premise. What long term outcomes do we see with our children (particularly black/brown girls) with the media diminishing our natural appearances? Are we seeing a trend in highlighting black girls/women natural beauty? Do we have a long way to go? Let's discuss the beauty of being a black girl.

Momologist of the Week: LaTashia M. Perry. Ms. Perry is a wife, mother of five and Children's author, and Flint, MI native. LaTashia Perry is the Founder and CEO of Kids Like Mine and the author of the 'Like Mine' children's picture book series. LaTashia is committed to enriching and empowering the lives of children through positive affirmations and self-imagery. Kids Like Mine inspires children of color to embrace and love their true selves through the brand's products, which feature black and brown characters. You can find her on IG @4kidslikemine

Mom Group of the Week: Women of Color On The Move focus on long-term social implications and help women get involved take action to reduce statistics on the state of human rights for women and girls. They seek solutions to our nation's health and economic crisis' proactively and in real time. http://thewomenofcolor.org/ |

Resources:

Blac Chyna Responds To Skin Bleaching Outrage By Calling Her Cream "Philanthropic" https://www.hotnewhiphop.com/blac-chyna-responds-Lu. F dqwawto-skin-bleaching-outrage-by-calling-her-cream-philanthropic-news.65270.html

The Reality of Skin Bleaching and the History Behind It https://www.byrdie.com/skin-bleaching/slide5

9-year-old girl's suicide prompts parents to talk http://www.wbrc.com/2018/11/15/year-old-girls-suicide-prompts-parents-talk/

Another black child kills herself after being bullied at school

https://face2faceafrica.com/article/another-black-child-kills-herself-after-being-bullied-at-school

Dove Is Helping Black Women Feel Beautiful And Confident With Their Latest Initiative https://www.essence.com/beauty/dove-black-beauty-alliance-essence-fest-2018/

Sister Speaks https://www.nomoremartyrs.org/sister-speak-suicide-awareness/

16-year Old Balck Teen Tells Dr. Phil She's White and Hates Black People

https://www.essence.com/news/16-year-old-black-teen-tells-dr-phil-shes-white-and-hates-black-people/

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In today's topic, we will explore advocating for your child's education. Whether it is academic achievement, social/emotional growth, or even having the best resources for their respective sport, we are discussing what this looks like for the current African American family.

Marvelous Mahogany Mom: Phaedra Burton

Phaedra Burton is our Mahogany Momologist of the Week. This mother of two showed up and showed out in a video for the #cardibmoneychallenge. www.facebook.com/com/34404586/posts/10104399048234215 Nominate a mom today emailing us or going on to our website.

Mom Group of the Week:

Sol Mamas are folks from all tribes building friendship, extended family and community while enjoying the outdoors and a host of other activities. Enjoy toddler play dates, field trips, group fitness classes, and more. Based in the Bay Area of California you can check them out on MeetUp - www.meetup.com/sol-mamas

Resources

Griffin, D (2012) The need for advocacy with African American parents. Counseling Today; Retrieved from: https://ct.counseling.org/2012/05/the-need-for-advocacy-with-african-american-parents/

Pigford, A (1993) Advice to the Parent of the Black Child. Educational Leadership, 50 (8), 66-68

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"Impostor Syndrome" is all about not feeling confident about your accomplishments, skills, or capabilities, especially when you're setting off to do something new in your career or life. The term was first coined by clinical psychologists Pauline Clance and Suzanne Imes, in 1978, who described individuals who had a persistent fear of being exposed as a "fraud." This concept has always been a discussion among successful women, and it is gaining more traction as girls outperform boys in the classroom, more women graduate college and are obtaining executive positions typically held by men. Sheryl Sandberg's book, "Lean In" comes to mind with Impostor Syndrome. Let's discuss Impostor Syndrome and what it means as a mom and especially as a black woman.

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Mahogany Momomology of the Week: Courtney Slater is a mom of 4! This mom of a hs senior, twin toddler boys, and a kindergartner has fast redefined the clapback. With a love for health she has channeled her passion into Courtney Jay Fitness and looks to help others on their healthy living journey.

Mom Group of the Week: Mocha Moms, Inc. is the premier voice for mothers of color. Through chapters and online, Mocha Moms, Inc. provides support for women of color as they journey through all phases of motherhood while advocating for them nationally. October starts the membership open house so check a local chapter today! www.mochamom.org

Mahogany Momology was invited to join Tynee Talks to talk about Old School Vs. New School in Black Parenting.

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Veterans Day is around the corner. We thank our servicemen and women for their sacrifice and dedication to our country. We can imagine being a military spouse can be a life of constant change and isolation. Having a partner on deployment can be saddening and disruptive to a natural routine. We have a military mom and spouse in our studio to discuss her daily routine. Welcome Yvonne Gentry Cottrell.

Guest Momologist: Yvonne Gentry Cottrell. Originally from San Diego, California but currently live in Texas, Yvonne has a degree in Liberal Studies (education), a multi-subject teaching credential, a masters in Reading and Language Arts and credentialed as a Reading Specialist. She is married to a Navy man named Eric and they have a 6-year-old son. Yvonne was a teacher and trained teachers for a total of 17 years. She have been a military spouse for 8 years and is currently teaching preschool here in Texas. Yvonne has a strong interest in supporting military spouses who are in search for a professional career while facing the challenges that military families must go through.

Mahogany Momologist of the Week: Stacey Blake. This Mom of Two is a very proud military wife. She discovered the world of blogging and found her a talent and passion in; Design Addict Mom. Stacey shares interior design news and trends, projects, and all the beauty that goes along with being addicted to design!

http://www.designaddictmom.com/

Mom Group of the Week: Black Military Wives, LLC (B.M.W.) was created for the unique, cultural needs of Black women who are/were connected to the military by marriage OR their own service in the military. The purpose of B.M.W. is to provide emotional support and information to women who are/were officially affiliated with the DoD branches of the United States Armed Forces (Air Force, Army, Navy or Marine Corps). Women affiliated with the Coast Guard are also welcome to join, even though it isn't a DoD branch.

http://www.blackmilitarywives.com/about/

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Topic: The Effects of Unresolved Trauma on Parenting

Parental emotion regulation and coping skills in dealing with stressful events in life have a significant impact on the child's emotional and social development, especially during infancy and early school years. Children typically learn to regulate their emotions better if their parents manage their own stress well. In contrast, unsupportive, distressed parenting can induce less effort in children to regulate their emotions and use effective coping skills in response to stress. We will discuss the unresolved effects of trauma when it comes to parenting with guest momologist and Behavior Specialist, Marcella Tarpley

Guest Momologist: Marcella Tarpley

A native Californian and educator for over 20 years, Marcella Ann Tarpley is currently a Behavior Support Specialist for the Moreno Valley Unified School District. She holds two Master's Degrees, one in Special Education and the other in Teaching. She has taught students with disabilities in grades 3-12 and has also had various positions outside the field of education as a restaurant manager, nanny, secretary, and mail handler. She currently is working on her doctorate degree and a license in clinical psychology. To continue her efforts on behalf of foster youth, she currently serves as a board member for Kamalii Foster Family Agency where she donates her time and resources teaching foster youth how to sew. She was the recipient of the 2015 Riverside County Office of Education Site Support Staff of the Year Award. In the community she is well known for her advocacy efforts in training parents, social service professionals, and educators on how to maximize student success. In her spare time when not advocating for students, Marcella enjoys quilting, road trips, and listening to books on tape.

Marvelous Mahogany Momologist of the Week: Tynee Sims

Tynee Sims is a single mom, podcaster of Tynee Talks, and lover all of things Flint, MI! We want to congratulate Tynee on her recent job announcement to Northlake community College in Las Colinas as the Assistant Director of TRIO & First Year Experience! Congrats Tynee!

Moms Group of the Week:

Moms In Color is a collective created to celebrate diversity, complexity and intersectional motherhood. Our primary mission is to inspire, motivate and spread awareness around the topics that affect Black mothers most. They are based out of Los Angeles, CA.

Website: https://www.momsincolor.com/

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Mel and Tash decided to not "just scratch the surface" in episode 21...so here is the continuation of episode 21, The Incarcerated Mom, the Bonus Episode with Guest Momologist, LaHeather Wilson.

Moms Group To Check Out: National Bail Out.

The week before Mother's day organizations in dozens of cities across the country will bail out as many mothers as possible who otherwise would spend Mother's Day in a cell simply because they cannot afford bail.

National Black Mama's Bail Out Day will give incarcerated mothers an opportunity to spend Mother's Day with their families and build community through gatherings that highlight the impact of inhumane and destructive bail practices on our communities!

https://nomoremoneybail.org/

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