Make Your Damn Bed

bringing back the parlor game*, starting with my favorite: FISH BOWL.

*free stuff to do with my friends.

RESOURCES: https://greatgroupgames.com/fishbowl and https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mafia_(party_game) and en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Parlour_game

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a lil good news about music therapy, working memory, and neuroplasticity

RESOURCES:

https://www.goodnewsnetwork.org/practicing-and-listening-to-music-can-slow-cognitive-decline-in-healthy-seniors-by-producing-more-gray-matter/ and

https://www.goodnewsnetwork.org/music-therapy-helps-paralyzed-man-walk-and-talk-again-w-the-carpenters/

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Today I'm going rogue from my standard style and sharing some direct quotes from the iconic Janelle Monae.

RESOURCES: https://hbr.org/2020/09/lifes-work-an-interview-with-janelle-monae

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and I quote: "Isn’t this what we are all longing for, on some level? To be real with each other? To be a real person, consequences be damned? To be loved, and to love? To know what a vitally alive love-filled life feels like, and be living it, each blessed moment?"

RESOURCES: https://psiloveyou.xyz/if-you-want-fulfilling-intimacy-try-subtext-free-relating-ccfc23baaf7b

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Unfortunately, we can't outrun ourselves (I tried, Confucius tried, it's hopeless) so we better get to work on the internal work before we get started on the external.

RESOURCES: https://briefer.com/books/go

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Experiencing hyper vigilance can make it feel impossible to relax. It's exhausting. Today, we discuss some ways to cope.

RESOURCE: https://www.healthline.com/health/hypervigilance and https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/fixing-families/202105/are-you-hypervigilant

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I talk (often) about how important it is to learn how to read the room, but today I'm sharing "how" to practice the skill. This timely message brought to you by the realization I'm hypervigilant because of trauma not because I'm sooooo nice.

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How do you fight the feeling of internal/emotional isolation? My strategy is taking any type of action - but ooof it can hurt!

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Personal grooming is just that: Personal. Do what you want, when you want, for YOU. If you let society decide, you may end up with a long face and cat poop on your head (please listen to the episode for context.)

RESOURCES: https://www.mic.com/impact/women-removing-their-body-hair-is-a-deeply-sexist-tradition-that-wont-end-16470015 AND https://rosie.org.au/blog/razors-lasers-internalised-misogyny-reflections-on-body-hair/

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If you tend to get defensive or want to negate arguments, these tools can come in handy:

• Ask questions – Get things moving with questions. They show you’re interested and help others contribute.
• Mirror feelings – Let others know you recognize what they’re feeling e.g. “I can hear that you’re upset about that” or “It sounds like you want to make a change.”
• Paraphrase to show understanding – Show you understand by putting what they’ve said in your own words e.g. “To make sure I’ve got this right; you want to…”
• Prime when you’re unsure – Make an educated guess when they give you nothing e.g.”I would feel sad about that. What about you?”

Or there is the ABC method. This is one I am personally familiar with - 

• Agree – Tell them what you do agree with.
• Build – Build on what they’ve said.
• Compare – Compare and contrast when you completely disagree. I always thought of this as a counterargument to my own and theirs so we can work to find middle ground - but compare is even more concise. 

RESOURCES: https://www.mheducation.com/highered/product/crucial-conversations-tools-talking-when-stakes-high-patterson-grenny-mcmillan-switzler/9780071771320.html and https://theartofliving.com/crucial-conversations-summary/ and https://www.shortform.com/blog/how-to-have-crucial-conversations/

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