Make Your Damn Bed

Social media + persuasive technologies exploit our brain's vulnerabilities to ensure we stay engaged with their apps.

1. Creating a sense of urgency,
2. Encouraging constant seeking,
3. Comparing ourselves to others,
4. Engaging with negative content,
5. Isolating us in bubbles.

To combat this, slow the fuck down.

The Khan Academy offers free courses and today I sped through their lesson on "persuasive technology" and how we can push back against it, to reclaim what is ours.

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Weird how I can spend two hours on Instagram reels or tiktok and not feel bad about not cleaning my house, but when I sit to watch a movie? I am riddled with guilt and shame.

Slow content leaves room for thinking and autonomy. Fast-pased content led by algorithms, leave no room for independent thought or action.

The Khan Academy offers free courses and today I sped through their lesson on "persuasive technology" and how we can push back against it, to reclaim what is ours.

Read episode scripts on Julie's Medium Blog.

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The data brokers found out we can't look away from a car crash, so they made all of our available content a series of car crashes. This has convinced a lot of us that the world is simply, ALL car crashes. It's not. They're prioritizing profits + growth at the expense of the whole.

"We are on a path to a technology environment where we are surrounded by powerful technology that’s competing to track, influence, and monetize us."

The Khan Academy offers free courses and today I sped through their lesson on "persuasive technology" and how we can push back against it, to reclaim what is ours.

Read episode scripts on Julie's Medium Blog.

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The Khan Academy offers free courses and today I sped through their lesson on "persuasive technology" and how we can push back against it, to reclaim what is ours.

Read episode scripts on Julie's Medium Blog.

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The opinions expressed by Julie Merica and Make Your Damn Bed Podcast are intended for entertainment purposes only. Make Your Damn Bed podcast is not intended or implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.

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The Khan Academy offers free courses, today I speed through their lesson on "the attention economy" and how we can push back against it, to reclaim what is ours.

Read episode scripts on Julie's Medium Blog.

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I've been using the term "machiavellian" for years. Recently, I looked it up. Today, I'm sharing what I found.

Machiavelli was a teacher of "evil". He believed virtues were a waste of time. He said successful founders and supporters of government must be violent murderers to sustain control. Fear is a more powerful motivator than fear, so he encouraged brute force and violence as a means to an end.

We can combat this type of thinking by encouraging empathy, connection, and morality.

Wikipedia's Page on Machiavelli.

The Forbes Article on Workplace Machiavellians

Quora's Responses to someone feeling more Machiavellian.

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This isn't about disagreeing about policies or politics, anymore. We currently live in a world with a sizable minority of people are disagreeing about reality itself.

We cannot allow those who disagree with reality to create a new one.

What do we do when we're forced to tolerate people who support authoritarianism?

How does a pluralistic democracy deal with people who threaten the existence of such a thing?

We must set firm and clear boundaries against actions + movements that threaten the pluralistic democracy that keeps them safe, provide a viable off-ramp from authoritarianism and intolerance, and teach explicitly a "tolerance for ambiguity and difference".

Watch Cybel Canterel's Original Video on TikTok.

Read episode scripts on Julie's Medium Blog.

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There's an Arabic saying, "لايدرك كله لا يترك كله" or "What cannot be achieved in its entirety should not be abandoned completely."

Until death, failure is psychological. 

Little Miss Sunshine the grandpa reminds her she’s not a loser for failing, he explains that losers are the people who are too afraid to win, so they never try. 

Very Well Mind's "What happens after I die?"

Maya Angelou's Poem "When I think of Death"

Read the Poem "If you're not planning on going to heaven, go to Norway."

Read the Poem "Your older self is begging you to enjoy right now"

Read the Medium Post "What's worse than dying"

Read Ebonee Davis' Tweet on "Trees Becoming Stronger"

Read episode scripts on Julie's Medium Blog.

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My family has never been one to talk about death, we pretend it doesn't exist until it blindsides us and ruins our lives. But building this wall around the inevitable has created a feeling of deep fear around the entire subject.

So, as I get older, and I am forced to face this reality more and more, I am beginning to realize that it's never been about my fear of "mortality" in and of itself, but my fears are in feeling like I never truly lived.

To face my fear of death, I have to be willing to face my fear of living fully.

Very Well Mind's "What happens after I die?"

Maya Angelou's Poem "When I think of Death"

Read the Poem "If you're not planning on going to heaven, go to Norway."

Read the Poem "Your older self is begging you to enjoy right now"

Read the Medium Post "What's worse than dying"

Read Ebonee Davis' Tweet on "Trees Becoming Stronger"

Read episode scripts on Julie's Medium Blog.

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“I imagine one of the reasons people cling to their hates so stubbornly is because they sense, once hate is gone, they will be forced to deal with pain.” James Baldwin

"Whatever goes up must come down." And here we are, at the center of the arc, trapped in the gaudiest, most valuable, and most improbable water wheel the world has ever seen. Everything now, we must assume, is in our hands; we have no right to assume otherwise.” James Baldwin

“Life is tragic simply because the earth turns and the sun inexorably rises and sets, and one day, for each of us, the sun will go down for the last, last time. Perhaps the whole root of our trouble, the human trouble, is that we will sacrifice all the beauty of our lives, will imprison ourselves in totems, taboos, crosses, blood sacrifices, steeples, mosques, races, armies, flags, nations, in order to deny the fact of death, the only fact we have. It seems to me that one ought to rejoice in the fact of death — ought to decide, indeed, to earn one’s death by confronting with passion the conundrum of life. One is responsible for life: It is the small beacon in that terrifying darkness from which we come and to which we shall return. One must negotiate this as nobly as possible, for the sake of those who are coming after us. But white Americans do not believe in death, and this is why the darkness of my skin so intimidates them.” James Baldwin

Baldwin's Book: The Fire Next Time

Wikipedia for The Fire Next Time

Alok V. Menon Video "Death is the room"

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