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"The paradox of tolerance is a philosophical concept suggesting that if a society extends tolerance to those who are intolerant, it risks enabling the eventual dominance of intolerance, thereby undermining the very principle of tolerance." - Wikipedia

"The Paradox of Tolerance disappears if you look at tolerance, not as a moral standard, but as a social contract. If someone does not abide by the terms of the contract, then they are not covered by it. In other words: The intolerant are not following the rules of the social contract of mutual tolerance. Since they have broken the terms of the contract, they are no longer covered by the contract, and their intolerance should NOT be tolerated." - Tolerance is Not a Moral Precept by Yonatan Zunger

SOURCE: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Paradox_of_tolerance#:~:text=The%20paradox%20of%20tolerance%20is,the%20very%20principle%20of%20tolerance.

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Here are some things that helped me survive lately:

Thinking of rest and joy as resistance. 

Intentional rest and joy are essential to the whole thing. When I start to have a little shame spiral about feeling a little bit of joy or hope or when I start to feel guilty about needing a break or rest — I remind myself that some weirdo want’s me to feel that way so that I get tired and give up — and I try to let myself move (or not move) with a little more grace. 

I have never not been in a rush. I sometimes notice I’m rushing for nothing only to realize my heart is racing and I’m breathing like I ran a marathon. 

Plus, lately I’ve been cooking and baking more and that shit is dangerous (and devastating) if you mess up. So, slowing down is a good idea in general. 

I’ve been doing a lot more “music + ambience” on youtube, and it’s been a game changer for my focus while working, writing, or cooking. 

Basically, I’ve been crying a lot, panicking sometimes, and then fully ready to stress clean or stress cook or stress bake until I can muster up the energy to face life again — and instead of shaming myself about it and feeling worse, I’ve been trying to respond with patience and compassion instead. 

And who would’ve thought? It helps.

So when I’m feeling like I’m overwhelmed with the world or angry with the world, I remember that I’m not alone in that anger and the best place to put it is to use. 

There are people already creating the future that we want. There are people who want the same things I do from humanity and they are all around me, all the time but I can’t see them because they’re busy doing shit to make it happen. The sooner I seek out the people already involved in the work, the sooner I can put a hand or two in it, as well. 

And sure, I can’t do everything, but that sure as shit doesn’t mean I shouldn’t do anything. 

And doing anything, starts with something. 

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If we look at our coping mechanisms at face value, it can add to the stress that we’re attempting to take away. It can feel like a bandaid for a symptom rather than a direct address to the roots of the problem. 

But not everything can be a full uprooting of systemic damages. Sometimes, effective coping is about surviving the moment. 

So let’s lump all of the coping strategies I listed (and any others you can think of), and see them for what they really are: survival tools. 

They are tools to help us survive. They are strategies to protect our health internal and external in literally any way that our brain possibly can. So they are morally neutral. Not bad, not good. 

A hammer can be a valuable tool or a dangerous weapon, depending on how it’s yielded. So check your tools, sure, but also don’t be afraid to check in with your wielding strategies, too.

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Listen, we’ve gotten pretty political over the past month, and I wanted to defend my reasoning for the seasoning before I talk about why I wanna switch it up a bit. Unfortunately life is political. Not addressing the elephant in the room doesn't remove the elephant from the room.  And I wish more than anything we lived in a society where we didn’t have to talk about the ways the systems impact us and everything around us. That said, I never want to push anyone away from radical solidarity and community action.

So, we're mixing it up over the next season of the podcast and we're gonna start infusing some neuroscience, psychology, art, friendship, and community themes back into the regular rotation so we can keep our momentum sustainably!

TINY BUDDHA QUOTE: https://tinybuddha.com/blog/what-it-means-to-live-life-with-open-palms-and-how-this-sets-us-free/

THE HOPE GUIDE: https://static1.squarespace.com/static/666b71d25d155b3509763e61/t/6696c79b4483c7565da3e43c/1721157535696/HOPE+PV+End+Political+Violence+Guide+07-16-24+version.pdf

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"My medium spicy take is that it takes a lot of pressure off of you. You can celebrate any holiday any way you want because taking the holiday and changing it to fit to your needs is truly traditional. The important thing is we take days off work, gather together, and spit in the face of a harsh earth." - Alex Falcone.

"Amazon is everywhere but so are we." - Varsha Gandikota-Nellutla

Alex Falcone: https://alexfalcone.ninja/

Varsha Gandikota-Nellutla: https://www.instagram.com/varshagandikota/?locale=en_US%252525252Cen_US%252525252Cen_US%252525252Cen_US&hl=ar

Amazon Protest information: https://uniglobalunion.org/news/map24/

A reason to boycott walmart: https://www.al.com/news/2024/11/birmingham-activists-call-for-walmart-black-friday-boycott-after-dei-rollback.html

Another reason to boycott black friday: https://www.essence.com/news/protesters-plan-boycott-black-friday/

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I tend to get a bit overwhelmed when thinking about Thanksgiving. When I feel overwhelmed by something, it's typically because I lack context. Here is some of the context I discovered on my journey to better understand Thanksgiving's true history, from the perspective of the Wampanoag people.

THE MAIN RESOURCE: https://ictnews.org/archive/the-wampanoag-side-of-the-first-thanksgiving-story

THE SUPRESSED WAMSUTTA (FRANK) JAMES SPEECH: http://www.uaine.org/suppressed_speech.htm

ANOTHER GOOD SOURCE: https://indiancountrytoday.com/archive/what-really-happened-at-the-first-thanksgiving-the-wampanoag-side-of-the-tale

A BUNCH OF OTHER GREAT RESOURCES LINKED HERE: https://native-american.dartmouth.edu/news/2020/11/thanksgiving

AND A GREAT LIL LESSON PLAN: https://annmichaelsen.com/2022/12/03/lesson-plan-after-helping-pilgrims-todays-wampanoag-tribe-fight-for-their-ancestral-lands/

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Often these methods are effective at preventing or reducing backre. However, sometimes the perpetrators’ tactics fail, and backfire occurs. When it does, it is often because people relied on ve principles (which can be remembered as the “5 Rs” below) to heighten outrage and increase mobilization against injustice. These principles are:

1. Reveal – Expose the injustice.

2. Redeem – Validate the target.

3. Reframe – Interpret the event as an injustice.

4. Redirect – Mobilize support and avoid official channels.

5. Resist – Resist intimidation and bribes.

HOPE guide 2024: https://static1.squarespace.com/static/666b71d25d155b3509763e61/t/6696c79b4483c7565da3e43c/1721157535696/HOPE+PV+End+Political+Violence+Guide+07-16-24+version.pdf

Violent Rhetoric Overview: https://www.projectoverzero.org/media-and-publications/a-refresher-on-narratives-and-violence

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Often these methods are effective at preventing or reducing backre. However, sometimes the perpetrators’ tactics fail, and backfire occurs. When it does, it is often because people relied on ve principles (which can be remembered as the “5 Rs” below) to heighten outrage and increase mobilization against injustice. These principles are:

1. Reveal – Expose the injustice.

2. Redeem – Validate the target.

3. Reframe – Interpret the event as an injustice.

4. Redirect – Mobilize support and avoid official channels.

5. Resist – Resist intimidation and bribes.

RESOURCE: https://static1.squarespace.com/static/666b71d25d155b3509763e61/t/6696c79b4483c7565da3e43c/1721157535696/HOPE+PV+End+Political+Violence+Guide+07-16-24+version.pdf

AND: https://www.bmartin.cc/pubs/backfire.html

AND: https://commonslibrary.org/wp-content/uploads/Organizers_Handbook.pdf

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Often these methods are effective at preventing or reducing backre. However, sometimes the perpetrators’ tactics fail, and backfire occurs. When it does, it is often because people relied on ve principles (which can be remembered as the “5 Rs” below) to heighten outrage and increase mobilization against injustice. These principles are:

1. Reveal – Expose the injustice.

2. Redeem – Validate the target.

3. Reframe – Interpret the event as an injustice.

4. Redirect – Mobilize support and avoid official channels.

5. Resist – Resist intimidation and bribes.

RESOURCE: https://static1.squarespace.com/static/666b71d25d155b3509763e61/t/6696c79b4483c7565da3e43c/1721157535696/HOPE+PV+End+Political+Violence+Guide+07-16-24+version.pdf

AND: https://www.bmartin.cc/pubs/backfire.html

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Often these methods are effective at preventing or reducing backre. However, sometimes the perpetrators’ tactics fail, and backre occurs. When it does, it is often because people relied on ve principles (which can be remembered as the “5 Rs” below) to heighten outrage and increase mobilization against injustice. These principles are:

1. Reveal – Expose the injustice.

2. Redeem – Validate the target.

3. Reframe – Interpret the event as an injustice.

4. Redirect – Mobilize support and avoid official channels.

5. Resist – Resist intimidation and bribes.2

RESOURCE: https://static1.squarespace.com/static/666b71d25d155b3509763e61/t/6696c79b4483c7565da3e43c/1721157535696/HOPE+PV+End+Political+Violence+Guide+07-16-24+version.pdf

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