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- 1830 || curse of knowledge
Hindsight is 20/20, but understanding the person you used to be (without the knowledge you have now) is so damn hard. Give yourself some grace in the learning process. You're not stupid, you're learning.
SOURCES:
- https://youtu.be/2y5NfYwoTeo?si=vyyHCtptsSH7zpcj
- https://verybigbrain.com/psychology-thinking/the-curse-of-knowledge-why-experts-struggle-to-explain-simple-things/
- https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Curse_of_knowledge
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12 min - 1829 || avoiding disappointment in relationships
The squeaky wheel gets the grease.
THE SOURCES:
- https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-squeaky-wheel/202608/why-people-disappoint-us-in-relationships
- https://psychology-spot.com/cognitive-miser-definition
- https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cognitive_mise
- https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Streetlight_effect
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11 min - 1828 || the thinking trapA policeman sees a drunk man searching for something under a streetlight and asks what the drunk has lost. He says he lost his keys and they both look under the streetlight together. After a few minutes the policeman asks if he is sure he lost them here, and the drunk replies, no, and that he lost them in the park. The policeman asks why he is searching here, and the drunk replies, "this is where the light is".
THE SOURCES:
https://psychology-spot.com/cognitive-miser-definition/
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cognitive_miser
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Streetlight_effect
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13 min - 1827 || cognitive misers
the human brain doesn't prefer to expend extra cognitive effort, it will always take a shortcut, where possible. the less you analyze this reality, the more likely you are to fall into "cognitive laziness" which can reinforce stereotypes and keep us trapped in limiting world views.
THE SOURCES:
https://psychology-spot.com/cognitive-miser-definition/
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cognitive_miser
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10 min - 1826 || how to forgive (what the science says)
Forgiveness is not an all-or-nothing process. You can partially release by choosing to stop ruminating, and even if you don’t feel entirely at peace yet, it is important to recognize that you have made meaningful progress. Every step you take away from feeling resentment is a step toward your sense of freedom. - Kinga Mnich, PhD
1. Know exactly what you are forgiving2. Commit to forgiving for your own benefit3. Separate the person from the act4. Release unenforceable rules5. Redirect your energy toward your own lifeTHE SOURCE:
- https://positivepsychology.com/neuroscience-of-forgiveness/
- https://www.neurologylive.com/view/neurobiology-forgiveness
- https://www.simplypsychology.com/articles/forgiveness-psychology-science
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10 min - 1825 || morality is flexible, actually
if morality is flexible and competence is subjective, how can we build self esteem around our values?
Your ability to perceive society as "just" also affects your ability to regard yourself.
The more internally motivated you are (outside of systemic expectations) the more you have to rely on competence over community + morality judgements.
THE SOURCES:
https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0022103121001104
https://www.frontiersin.org/journals/psychology/articles/10.3389/fpsyg.2015.01878/full
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/me-we/201312/10-sources-low-self-esteem
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10 min - 1824 || the key to self respect
Self respect is a practice, not a vibe. Self respect isn't about the big wins making us feel big, but the small, consistent acts that make us feel like ourselves. The more small, value aligned choices we make, the more respect we earn for ourselves.
THE SOURCE: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/social-instincts/202601/why-self-respect-is-so-powerful
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13 min - 1823 || on self respect
Self respect has nothing to do with the approval of others, or reputation, but it is about discipline and honesty and doing the brave thing. Facing accountability is self respect. Assessing risks worth taking and taking them, is self respect. Facing the things you've ignored is self respect.
"It is the phenomenon sometimes called alienation from self. In its advanced stages, we no longer answer the telephone, because someone might want something; that we could say no without drowning in self-reproach is an idea alien to this game. Every encounter demands too much, tears the nerves, drains the will, and the spectre of something as small as an unanswered letter arouses such disproportionate guilt that one's sanity becomes an object of speculation among one's acquaintances. To assign unanswered letters their proper weight, to free us from the expectations of others, to give us back to ourselves—there lies the great, the singular power of self-respect. Without it, one eventually discovers the final turn of the screw: one runs away to find oneself, and finds no one at home."
Joan Didion's article: On Self Respect
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11 min - 1822 || forgiveness is a skill
forgiveness requires a willingness to move beyond our negative feelings. fortunately, we are predisposed to heal + forgiveness is a big part of that. we just need to create the conditions to allow our natural mechanisms to function.
R — Recall the Hurt: Honestly remember the transgression, without minimizing or maximizing it. This is not rumination but a clear-eyed acknowledgment of what happened and how it affected you.
E — Empathize: Try to understand the transgressor's perspective — their state of mind, history, and circumstances — not to excuse but to humanize. Research shows that perspective-taking is a crucial mediator of forgiveness: it becomes harder to sustain pure resentment toward someone you genuinely understand.
A — Altruistic Gift: Recall a time you needed forgiveness from someone and received it, or a time you were the one who caused harm. Recognize forgiveness as a gift you can offer — not because it's deserved but because you know what it's like to need it. This step frames forgiveness as a generous act rather than a capitulation.
C — Commit: Make a public or written commitment to forgiving — journaling about it, telling a trusted person, or simply writing a statement. Commitment makes the decision more durable and resistant to resentment's return.
H — Hold onto Forgiveness: Expect that resentment will return and prepare to recommit to forgiveness when it does. Forgiveness is often a process rather than a one-time achievement; renewing the commitment when resentment resurfaces is normal and expected.
THE SOURCE:
- https://positivepsychology.com/neuroscience-of-forgiveness/
- https://www.neurologylive.com/view/neurobiology-forgiveness
- https://www.simplypsychology.com/articles/forgiveness-psychology-science
Read Julie's Medium Blog.
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10 min - 1821 || forgiveness for selfish reasons
forgiveness isn't excusing harmful behavior, and it surely isn't forgetting. forgiveness is about your personal healing journey. it's not about absolving them, but instead, it's about reclaiming your agency.
THE SOURCE:
- https://positivepsychology.com/neuroscience-of-forgiveness/
- https://www.neurologylive.com/view/neurobiology-forgiveness
Read Julie's Medium Blog.
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