Make Your Damn Bed

are you avoiding danger or discomfort?

To figure this out you can:

1. name the threat
2. identify your feelings
3. learn to identify true threats vs. discomfort
4. practice responding with a stretch rather than reacting with a snap.
5. rehearse new endings to similar stories

It may take some practice to build up your capacity for peace and safety.

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Self-awareness is a tool to help you live, not the entire point of living.

Every single thing we do, think, and say is a form of spellwork. We are energetic beings who release and absorb energies with every second that passes. Naturally there will be some unavoidable energetic interruptions that we will have no control over, but there are countless forms of energy that we nurture or ignore depending on our moods and our subconscious minds and our immediate reactions. 

The more aware we are of our capacity to decide on which of these energies we want to absorb or nurture, the easier it is to make decisions from a conscious place rather than an automatic one. 

There’s a limit to self awareness. Sometimes it goes full fucking circle and you need to make yourself less aware so you can return to joy and life and conscious presence.

Kinzermb on IG wrote: "It’s funny that the very people we judged for being oblivious are the very people we need to take a lesson from. Because not everything is about noticing, life is about experiencing. And often times, the self aware person in all their thinking will do whatever they can to avoid discomfort while the less “aware” person will accept it as a part of life. It seems now there is a wisdom in this so called ignorance, and we call that wisdom acceptance. Because though one may not ponder the nature of reality like you do, they may not ponder how they are being perceived constantly. You see there are pros and cons to both but if you never leave your mind, and that constant self awareness, you’ll never have an opportunity to enjoy your life. Leave your comfort zone. Experience discomfort, show yourself you can survive it and actually learn from it, and your life will improve.” 

SOURCES:

IG THETRAUMAEDUCATOR 

IG CHRISTABELMINTAHNWANKWO

IG KINZERMB

IG AMYTHELIFECOACH

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Sometimes the kindest and wisest thing you can do in a relationship is clearly and concisely distance yourself from it until you figure out how to navigate it more appropriately. 

To develop a robust grief process we must 1. Mourn what is lost. 2. Name what is good. 3. Release what was not. 

Stepping back, creating distance, and taking space are crucial aspects to the healing process. 

There is huge difference between a well intentioned apology and real long term repair. If you have a conflict or suffer from a betrayal your brain and body can’t just lean into a well worded and well intentioned apology as a bandaid for all of the harm that was caused. I wish words were enough but that’s like saying a broken arm can be healed with a diagnosis. Just because the X-Ray says you have a broken arm it doesn't solve the problem. The diagnosis is a great start to healing properly, but it doesn’t mean the work stops there. You’ve got to prove to your brain and body that you’re not going to let this get worse, happen again, and you’re going to behave differently now so you can create a safe space to relax and heal properly, which takes time. 

SOURCES:

IG THETRAUMAEDUCATOR 

IG CHRISTABELMINTAHNWANKWO

IG KINZERMB

IG AMYTHELIFECOACH

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SOURCE:

1. https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/adult-health/in-depth/forgiveness/art-20047692
2. https://envisiontherapydfw.com/forgiveness-isnt-trust-its-releasing-the-burden-they-left-behind/

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“And if happiness should surprise you again, do not mention its previous betrayal. Enter into happiness, and burst.” Mahmoud Darwish

https://psychcentral.com/health/when-joy-feels-scary-resilience-building-practices#tips

https://www.reddit.com/r/AskWomen/comments/kmz35o/how_did_you_get_over_the_habit_of_constantly/

https://www.instagram.com/reel/DZFuUBNgY9npG08L_36uTE6cvYNBGfT3gMxEmU0/

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The goal isn't to be constantly regulated, but to understand how to regulate so you can cope with disregulation appropriately. It's about building trust with your healing self, rather than being "healed" fully in some "final" way.

SOURCE:

https://worthyselfcare.com/why-calm-isnt-the-goal-nervous-system-resilience-is/

https://ifs-institute.com/resources/articles/evolution-internal-family-systems-model-dr-richard-schwartz-ph-d

https://www.cethni.com/awakening-the-inner-light-a-guide-to-buddha-nature-and-daily-practice/

https://www.enotalone.com/article/mental-health/therapy/10-tips-to-harmonize-your-inner-world-with-ifs-therapy-r13980/

https://www.mentallyfitpro.com/c/free-therapy-worksheets/internal-family-systems-worksheets

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Our different parts are there to protect the true self, but these parts aren't static, permanent parts there to keep us from ourselves.

Through systems thinking + the multiplicity of the mind, we can integrate these parts to center our selves and allow them to act without interference.

SOURCE:

https://ifs-institute.com/resources/articles/evolution-internal-family-systems-model-dr-richard-schwartz-ph-d

https://www.enotalone.com/article/mental-health/therapy/10-tips-to-harmonize-your-inner-world-with-ifs-therapy-r13980/

https://www.mentallyfitpro.com/c/free-therapy-worksheets/internal-family-systems-worksheets

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There are no bad parts, only parts that need to be integrated.

SOURCE:

https://www.enotalone.com/article/mental-health/therapy/10-tips-to-harmonize-your-inner-world-with-ifs-therapy-r13980/

https://www.mentallyfitpro.com/c/free-therapy-worksheets/internal-family-systems-worksheets

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This is a re-release.

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This episode is a re-release.

"This is the economy now. Not a distribution of opportunity. A redistribution of friction. But friction isn’t the enemy!!!! It’s information. It tells us where things are straining and where care is needed and where attention should go.

And it's not all bad news. Because friction is also where new systems can emerge. Every broken interface, every overloaded professor, every delayed flight is pointing to something that could be rebuilt with actual intention."

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