MakeSumGains

Almost 30 hits different. First 30 flies by in a blink, the second half moves even faster. So if you’re not taking risks, if you’re not full sending life… what the hell are we even doing here?

In this episode, we’re talking about the fine line every high-achieving woman knows too well: the difference between chasing excellence vs. suffocating under perfectionism.

Because let’s be real... 

• In the gym: it’s not enough to train hard, you feel like you gotta stay shredded 24/7, be the “fit girl,” and never miss a day even when you’re sick.
• At work: you’re the reliable one, carrying the whole damn team, never dropping the ball, never letting them see you sweat.
• In relationships: you’re the caretaker, the peacekeeper, the hot/sexy/fun girlfriend… but god forbid you ever needanything yourself.

It’s exhausting. And it’s why so many women are grinding themselves into the ground.

Here’s the truth: Excellence feels good. Perfectionism feels like hell.

In this episode I break down:
🔥 The root causes of why women fall into perfectionism.
🔥 The brutal downside of perfectionism.. (procrastination, self-sabotage, comparison city)
🔥 The 6 rules I live by that keep me chasing excellence without losing my freaking mind

If you’ve ever felt like no matter how hard you push, you’re still not “enough,” this one’s for you.

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We live in a world where people treat health like an optional hobby. Work deadlines, family drama, social outings, vacations, “self-care nights” with wine and Netflix.. everything else takes the front seat. But here’s the truth: none of that sh*t matters if you don’t have your health.

If you feel like crap, can’t move, and can’t enjoy your life.. what are you really prioritizing? You can’t show up as the best version of yourself for your family, your career, your relationships, or your goals when your health is at the bottom of the list.

In this episode, I break down:

• Why “too busy” is just code for misplaced priorities.
• How to weave health into every area of life (family, friends, work, social outings, vacations).
• Why your comfort and self-care routines aren’t truly self-care if they neglect your body.
• The real value shifts that need to happen: from chasing money, trophies, and aesthetics → to prioritizing health, connection, growth, and freedom.
• How identity work is at the root of changing what you value and why it’s the only way to sustain lasting health habits.

This isn’t about adding more to your plate.. it’s about making the choice that health comes first, so everything else becomes easier.

Because at the end of the day… luxury, cars, mansions, vacations.. they don’t mean sh*t if you feel like trash inside your own body.

Everybody’s scared of being stuck in a body they hate in two years. But the bigger fear? Getting the “dream body”… and realizing you still feel like nothing’s changed.

That’s the trap most women fall into.. thinking surgery, abs, a smaller waist, or a bigger ass will flip the switch on their happiness. But external upgrades are just temporary dopamine. If the wiring inside still screams “I’m not enough,” nothing you achieve will ever stick.

In this episode I’m breaking down:

• Why fixing your body doesn’t fix your self-hate.
• The real prison (hint: it’s your thoughts, not your weight).
• Why aging makes this game even more dangerous if your worth = your looks.
• The mindset shift that turns your body into a teammate instead of a project.
• The real freedom: same body, different energy — walking into any room confident, eating without fear, feeling hot no matter what.

If you’re not living the life or happiness you know you’re capable of — what are you gonna do? Keep folding to your bitch voice, or finally put up a fight?

Most people are miserable not because life is hard, but because they’re fighting against what life is: uncertain.

We’ve been wired to believe that if we can just plan enough, control enough, or avoid enough, we’ll finally feel safe. But the truth? That gap between craving control and not having it is exactly where anxiety breeds.

In this episode, we unpack:

• The three ways anxiety shows up when we reject uncertainty:
  1. The Overthinking Loop (mental control).
  2. Control through food, body, routines, or people.
  3. Avoidance (running from uncertainty).
• Why your brain is addicted to “what if” loops and why they never work.
• How being free-spirited is simply shifting the story: uncertainty isn’t danger.. it’s possibility.
• Everyday examples of balancing free-spirit flow with anchor points (values, structure, safety nets).
• Action steps to retrain your brain and nervous system to trust uncertainty: awareness, nervous system regulation, small doses of exposure, anchoring in values, and building self-trust.

You’ll never eliminate uncertainty. But you can rewire your system to see it as adventure instead of threat.

Life is meant to be an art form. A blank canvas. 

CO Retreat: https://www.makesumgains.com/hot-girl-reset

In this episode, I break down:

• The science of your nervous system: sympathetic (fight/flight) vs parasympathetic (rest/heal).
• Why you can’t “out-supplement” a dysregulated nervous system.
• The monkey and the shiny object metaphor: how humans cling to the very things making us miserable.
• What a full year of “being” instead of “doing” might actually look like.
• Real-life practices to help your body finally downshift:
• The uncomfortable truth: when the noise is gone, when you stop distracting yourself, your real desires surface. 

In this episode I’m joined by my sweet friend Jess, a holistic hormone coach with the cutest accent and one of the biggest hearts. We met two years ago in a mastermind, and when I saw her talking about her journey of getting her implants removed, I knew I had to bring her on. Around here we’re all about embracing our bodies, and Jess has such a powerful story about moving from burnout and societal pressure into nervous system regulation and true internal health.

In this conversation we get into:

• The concept of bioindividuality and how Western vs. Eastern approaches differ
• Root causes most women miss when chasing symptoms
• How cycle syncing works and why it’s a game changer
• Jess’s journey from disconnection, implants, and burnout → to being rooted, regulated, and powerful
• Why women’s health struggles are skyrocketing
• How brainwashing + societal pressure keep women stuck
• Internal vs external health (and why external “fixes” never work long-term)
• Nervous system regulation explained in simple, relatable terms
• Fighting back against a system designed to make women feel “not enough”
• Practical ways to regulate your nervous system and reconnect — even if you can’t do the full “eat, pray, love” thing

This one is juicy, raw, and so needed. Jess’s story is proof that your body will always try to bring you home... if you’re willing to listen.

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CO Retreat: https://www.makesumgains.com/hot-girl-reset

Most high-achieving women are unknowingly stuck in a cycle.. swinging from toxic masculine grind to toxic feminine avoidance, and back again. In this episode, we rip apart the ego’s survival game: why it’s obsessed with proving itself, why it thrives on comparison, and how it confuses attention with love. I share my own journey from being praised for doing, hiding behind the “tough” identity, and running on empty… to actually letting myself slow down, embrace beauty, and live from self-trust. We’ll break down the difference between healthy vs. toxic masculine and feminine energy, why hustle culture keeps you trapped, and the exact shifts to anchor into so you can live from intuition and authenticity without losing your drive. This one’s for the women ready to stop performing for worthiness and start living like they already are enough.

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CO Retreat: https://www.makesumgains.com/hot-girl-reset

Brooke is the reason I got into coaching, so you already know this one’s about to hit deep.

She’s a former bodybuilder turned holistic health coach, nurse, and a real-life reflection queen who recently peaced out of her relationship, took a travel nurse contract, and moved from MN to TN. What followed? A whole identity unraveling and rebirth.

In this episode, we go in on:

• The sneaky ways external validation shapes how we eat, dress, train, and perform as women
• How body dysmorphia and discipline get praised as “self-control”... but at what cost?
• How to find your true values and build a life that actually feels like yours
• The pressure to be “hot, thin, and successful” on social media and how to detach from the bullshit
• Why so many women sacrifice themselves to be accepted
• The real definition of “hot” (hint: it’s not shredded abs and a spray tan)

If you've ever looked at your life and thought “I did everything I was supposed to… so why don’t I feel good?”.. this one’s for you.

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🎟️ Get all the details on Hot Girl Reset CO Mountain Retreat here: https://www.makesumgains.com/hot-girl-reset

From a hair appointment to a full-blown friendship, Emilee and I clicked instantly—so much so that we launched a whole damn movement together.

In today’s episode, I sit down with Emilee—South Carolina hairstylist turned Colorado biz owner and co-founder of Hot Girl Collective—to give y’all a behind-the-scenes look at our newest event: Hot Girl Reset, a 4-day mountain retreat happening this September.

But this convo goes way deeper than logistics. We’re talkin’:

• The real internal work vs. the fluffy mindset hacks on IG
• What surfaced from our mother wounds (and how it showed up in our behavior)
• Controlling others, all-or-nothing mindsets, and letting go of perfection
• How to build true self-trust (not just journal your way there)
• Inner child healing, identity shifts, and what real growth actually looks like
• The equation for self-belief: imagination + action + grit + grace
• Why your life changes fast when you’re around people doing the work with you

We’re building something electric and this convo will either trigger the hell out of you or activate something deep. Either way? It’ll move you.

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@emileereedhair

@hotgirlcollective

Badass Revolution details 

This one’s not a food tracker tutorial.

It's the recording of my Fuel Like You Give a F*ck training (DM for access to video version).

In this nutrition training, we’re burning the rulebook and breaking down:

• Why “eating healthy” still leaves you feeling stuck
• The real reason you keep spiraling at 8PM
• How to stop micromanaging food and start showing up like you care about your future self
• The shift from fixing your body to fueling your life

If you’ve ever thought:
“I know what to eat… I just can’t stick to it”
This is the episode that will punch that narrative in the throat (with love).

We’re getting into the mindset, identity, and emotional shifts it actually takes to stop playing food like a project and finally feel proud of how you eat—even when life is messy.

Let this be your turning point.
Press play and fuel like you give a f*ck.

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