Essential Life Advice For Men Turning 40
As a Man who embraced turning 40 by trekking over 2,500 miles across the entire length of India, I feel I am well positioned to offer some essential life advice to men in their 40s. But, before I do, I want to share with you exactly what spurred me on to embark on such a crazy adventure. An adventure that nearly killed me on more than one occasion, I might add.
In this episode, I share 5 essential tips all Men in their 40s need to hear
1 - IT'S MAKE OR BREAK!!
While Men of today are living longer than ever, your next milestone birthday is 50. Now let that sink in for a bit! The last chance saloon to make a significant change and become the Man you genuinely want to be.
It's not too late for a career change, drop some weight and get in shape, or end a marriage or relationship and find a better-suited partner, and reinvigorate your sex life. Dusting the old boy off (literally) and getting out on the dating scene woke me the f*ck up when I found myself single in my late thirties.
2 - 40s ARE THE NEW 30s
Being in your 40s in 2021 is not like it was in the '60s & '70s. Here's the way I see it - at 20, we have all the energy in the world but no real-world knowledge. In our 60s, we have all the worldly knowledge but lack the energy and youth needed to make a significant change. That makes your 40s the ideal age to pursue your goals? You have the perfect mix of knowledge and youthful energy (just about) needed to succeed in anything you want to in life.
3 - THINGS WON'T CHANGE UNLESS YOU CHANGE
This might seem an obvious statement, but you would be surprised how some people go through life expecting love, success and riches to land in their lap. I will make this very clear so you can let it fully sink in - if you're reading this and nodding your head like it's all relatable and you feel these very words are talking directly to you. Wake the f*ck up!! Nothing changes until you change. When you start to navigate and direct your journey in life, you will find opportunities begin to appear. As the old saying goes - "you make your own luck in life".
4 - DO NOT LISTEN TO THE ADVICE OF OTHERS
By the time most people are in their 40s, the unfortunate reality is that most people are already stuck in their ways and lead extremely comfortable, dare I say, boring lives. These people will tell you not to leave your job and take a risk, not to end a relationship because of the (enter any number of reasons) kid's, dog, house, yadda yadda. It's always the people who have done f*ck all with their own lives that have the most advice to offer. Telling you not to take risks gives them the comfort they crave to justify their own boring life.
5 - IF YOU DON'T FOLLOW YOUR INTUITION, YOU WILL LIVE THE REST OF YOUR LIFE UNFULFILLED
I see so many Men extremely unhappy with their life, yet they have achieved (at least on paper) almost everything they set out to do. Married Men who have a loving wife, kids and a nice house, yet they never really lived their life fully before settling down to family life. They failed to tick enough boxes on the sexual fantasy list before entering into a sexless marriage, which can cause frustration and resentment.
Or perhaps they never really got the chance to pursue a career they had a passion for. Choosing the security of a regular wage that paid the bills. Or simply realising that after 5, 10, 20 years that they had nothing in common with the person they were shackled to, sorry, I meant married to. Let's face it, if you aren't happy now, what are the chances of that changing at any point in the future if you don't change?
