This week, Krista and Samantha are joined by Julie Fried, founder of Dallas Girl Friday, for a deeply honest conversation about adoption, early motherhood, and the emotions we don’t always make space for. Julie shares her path to becoming a mom — one that began with a sudden call, a premature baby, and an immediate crash course in NICU life.
Julie walks through the realities of modern adoption, including the long stretches of waiting, the lack of control, and the moment everything changes overnight. Together, they talk about the intensity of early motherhood in the NICU, the exhaustion and overwhelm that followed, and the complicated mix of gratitude and grief that can exist at the same time — even when everything has technically “worked out.”
What emerges is a conversation about holding space for non-traditional motherhood stories, asking for help without guilt, and letting go of the idea that parenting has to look a certain way to be valid. It’s tender, grounding, and deeply human — especially for anyone who’s learned that showing up doesn’t always look polished, planned, or calm.
Takeaways & Merit Badges Earned
⏳ Adoption is often “hurry up and wait,” and the waiting doesn’t end when the baby arrives.
👶 NICU motherhood is survival mode, not a bonding montage.
😴 Sometimes the only system that works is a contact nap and a prayer.
🫂 You can’t have too many people loving your child.
📞 Asking for help isn’t failure — it’s how you get through the early days.
🧠 Feeling grief doesn’t mean you’re ungrateful.
🧩 Control, timing, and certainty are illusions — especially in parenthood.
💬 Sharing non-traditional motherhood stories matters more than we realize.
✨ Showing up anyway, even when it’s messy, still counts.
If Julie’s story resonated, you can learn more about her work at dallasgirlfriday.com and follow along on Instagram at @dallasgirlfriday.
She’s also the creator of the Death Folder — a practical, compassionate tool designed to help families organise critical information and reduce mental load during already hard seasons.
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