Mama Needs A Moment

Navigating the healthcare system can feel overwhelming. Where to turn and who to trust are common questions that come up for parents.

Bonnie Hui-Callahan is a pharmacist and mother of 4. Her pharmacist experience ranges from retail pharmacy, managed care, pharmacy education, and health tech where she currently works. In 2021, she co-founded The Clinician-Leader, a digital course and coaching business aimed at empowering clinicians to tap into their leadership potential.

Outside of her 9-5, Bonnie coaches pharmacists in resume writing, networking, interviewing, and negotiating. She resides in Orange County, CA, with her husband of 13

years, her 3 sons and 1 daughter, ages 3-9.

In part 1 of our conversation with Bonnie we explore ways to make healthy habits stick, top tips for protecting our kids’ health, exploring the CDC’s vaccination schedule, and we discuss why Hepatitis B is something you may be hearing about at the doctor’s office and what you can do to protect yourself and your family.

Our discussion today included:

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Several of our 2023 expert panelists have come together in this Roundtable discussion to talk about the topic of Keeping Marriage Intimate and Strong when Current Statistics are Stacked Against You. This is a continuation of our discussion with the HER Expert Panelists from part 1, episode 63 titled, Contributing Factors to Relationship Struggles and Practices for Maintaining a Strong Union.

A key component of a strong intimate relationship is intimacy – there are four different types of intimacy that come into play: emotional, physical, mental or intellectual and spiritual. The experts discuss intimacy and its importance in a long term relationship and marriage. We then move into a discussion about personal and collaborative growth within relationships.

Our second HER Health Collective Roundtable of 2023 features the following HER Expert panelists:

To connect with any of our experts, please go to our website directory

Today’s episode includes a discussion of the following topics:

Episode Chat Notes and Resources:

HER Circle Member:   Is anyone on the panel trained in FairPlay method? That would be helpful to hear about!

Veronica Kemeny, LCSW, PMH-C (she/her/hers):   Not trained but aware.

Maris Feeley (she/her):   A book my clients have been reading & recommending lately - "How Not To Hate Your Husband After Having Kids" - half comic memoir, half reflection on marriage dynamics postpartum & how to address them

Erin Baute (she/her):   @zawnvillines - an IG account that has really egalitarian views on marriage.

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Several of our 2023 expert panelists have come together in this Roundtable discussion to talk about the topic of Keeping Marriage Intimate and Strong when Current Statistics are Stacked Against You. Our conversation in this episode is centered around the contributing factors leading to relationship struggles. We then move into a discussion about how the institution of marriage and its meaning has shifted over the years. The experts conclude this episode by sharing their top three daily practices for maintaining a strong union with their partner.

Our second HER Health Collective Roundtable of 2023 features the following HER Expert panelists:

To connect with any of our experts, please go to our website directory

Today’s episode includes a discussion of the following topics:

Episode Chat Notes and Resources:

HER Circle Member:   Is anyone on the panel trained in FairPlay method? That would be helpful to hear about!

Veronica Kemeny, LCSW, PMH-C (she/her/hers):   Not trained but aware.

Maris Feeley (she/her):   A book my clients have been reading & recommending lately - "How Not To Hate Your Husband After Having Kids" - half comic memoir, half reflection on marriage dynamics postpartum & how to address them

Erin Baute (she/her):   @zawnvillines - an IG account that has really egalitarian views on marriage.

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SEX! It can be such a tricky topic. Whether you’re trying to teach your child what sex is or you’re having an altogether different type of conversation with your partner about what your needs in the bedroom are - these are important conversations that should happen regularly and require curiosity and honesty. 

Adrienne Alden is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with a master’s degree in Marriage and Family Therapy. She has worked for years with couples in relational distress. Her hope for therapy is to help clients see their part in troublesome relational patterns and to discover a new way of engaging.  She uses a collective approach with clients, combining attachment and psychodynamic theory and mindfulness.

Adrienne is experienced in working with communication struggles, high conflict couples, mismatched libidos, pelvic and genital pain disorders, premature ejaculation, delayed or difficulty with orgasm, erectile dysfunction, trauma recovery, life transitions, affair recovery, eating disorders, parenting adolescence, family of origin exploration, religious and spiritual exploration, gender role exploration, cultural influence, sexual orientation questioning.

In part 1 of our conversation with Adrienne we explored some of the common issues found in long-term partnerships and touched on various communication strategies couples can implement to strengthen their relationship. Today we dive into those dreaded sex talks - both with our children, and with our partner. They are two very different types of conversation, but both equally important. Today’s episode is packed with great information that you won’t want to miss.

Our discussion today included:

In this Episode:

Sex Positive Families Organization

Amaze.org

Amaze Junior

Adrienne’s Sensuality Yes/No/Maybe List

Adrienne’s Suggested Sex Books:

Come as you are by Emily Nagowski - sexual health primarily for people who identify as female 

Buddhas Bedroom by Cheryl Fraser- A great book for couples to read together

Shameless by Nadia Boltz Weber- Sexual Religious Trauma recovery by a pastor 

Magnificent Sex Lessons from Extraordinary Lovers by Peggy Kleinplatz

Your Brain on Sex by Stanley Siegel 

The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel Van Der Kolk- trauma recovery ( does describe some sexual abuse so be careful with this one)

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Maintaining a respectful and harmonious long-term relationship takes a lot of work. Communication struggles are typically the number one challenge those in a long-term partnership will face.  

Adrienne Alden is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with a master’s degree in Marriage and Family Therapy. She has worked for years with couples in relational distress. Her hope for therapy is to help clients see their part in troublesome relational patterns and to discover a new way of engaging.  She uses a collective approach with clients, combining attachment and psychodynamic theory and mindfulness.

Adrienne is experienced in working with communication struggles, high conflict couples, mismatched libidos, pelvic and genital pain disorders, premature ejaculation, delayed or difficulty with orgasm, erectile dysfunction, trauma recovery, life transitions, affair recovery, eating disorders, parenting adolescence, family of origin exploration, religious and spiritual exploration, gender role exploration, cultural influence, sexual orientation questioning.

In part 1 of our conversation with Adrienne we explore some of the common issues found in long-term partnerships and dive into various communication strategies couples can implement to strengthen their relationship.

Our discussion today included:

In this Episode:

Open Path Collective - Affordable counseling services

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Dr. Karen Sheffield-Abdullah is an Assistant Professor UNC Chapel Hill, a Certified Nurse-Midwife, Mindfulness Instructor, a wife, mother of four and a plant lover. She describes herself as a stress and anxiety researcher who is passionate about perinatal mental health and the impact on pregnancy outcomes specifically in black and brown women.

Dr. Karen is trying to get answers on why, despite decades of research, the black and brown communities have twice the rate of preterm birth and higher rates of death compared to white women. Using her depth of knowledge, experience and education, Dr. Karen is an advocate for birth equity, mental health awareness and mindfulness.

In our ongoing conversation, Dr. Karen begins by elaborating on the differences between culturally competent care and culturally humble care. She discusses the unique stressors to the black and brown communities, and talks about the importance of providing stress screeners with the understanding that they are meant to be a jumping off point to deeper conversations. Healthcare workers need to be comfortable with having the conversations. Dr. Karen describes it as, “getting comfortable with being uncomfortable.” Healthcare providers need to begin to normalize having deeper conversations with clients. We talk about the importance of midwives, the passing of a certain piece of legislation benefiting her research, and incorporating stress management into models of women’s health care for beneficial outcomes.

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HER Circle

Killing the Black Body, Medical Apartheid,

Understanding medical racism, look at Henrietta Lacks, J. Marion Sims, Tuskegee Airmen, eugenics

 Dr. David Treleaven, who has a book called trauma sensitive mindfulness

Dr. Karen Sheffield-Abdullah considers herself a stress and anxiety researcher who is passionate about perinatal mental health and impact on pregnancy outcomes specifically in black and brown women. Assistant Professor UNC Chapel Hill.She is a Certified Nurse-Midwife, Mindfulness Instructor, and Assistant Professor, a wife, mother of four and a plant lover.

Dr. Karen is trying to get answers on why, despite decades of research, the black and brown communities have twice the rate of preterm birth and higher rates of death compared to white women. Using her depth of knowledge, experience and education, Dr. Karen is an advocate for birth equity, mental health awareness and mindfulness. In this episode, she shares the life event that has had the most significant impact on the trajectory of her life and the decisions she’s made to become the person and mother she is today. She also begins to discuss what she’s found through her research that is part of the cause of our maternal healthcare failing black women in the United States.

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HER Circle Patreon

We are not our thoughts. We can reprogram our brain to help us thrive.

Mikki Gardner is a certified life coach trained to help women sort out the overwhelm, confusion, fear, and self-doubt they feel after divorce. She is also certified in the Conscious Parenting Method and Applied Positive Psychology. Mikki focuses on helping moms move past their limiting beliefs, unravel the patterns of their past and become strong, effective, loving parents.

In part one of our conversation with Mikki we explored the messiness of divorce and how to navigate co-parenting relationships with grace and intention while creating peace & staying grounded.

Today we dive into reprogramming your brain to thrive and getting curious and asking questions about your own personal triggers.

Our discussion today included:

Sign Up for a Free Conscious Co-Parenting Masterclass: https://mikkigardner.com/masterclass/

Thank you to our sponsor:

HER Circle Patreon

Co-parenting can be challenging. The three A’s of Conscious Co-Parenting can completely alter how you navigate life after divorce or separation. 

Mikki Gardner is a certified life coach trained to help women sort out the overwhelm, confusion, fear, and self-doubt they feel after divorce. She is also certified in the Conscious Parenting Method and Applied Positive Psychology. Mikki focuses on helping moms move past their limiting beliefs, unravel the patterns of their past and become strong, effective, loving parents.

Today we explore the messiness of divorce and how to navigate co-parenting relationships with grace and intention while creating peace & staying grounded.

Our discussion today included:

Sign Up for a Free Conscious Co-Parenting Masterclass: https://mikkigardner.com/masterclass/

Thank you to our sponsor:

HER Circle Patreon

We continue our discussion with Dr. Rachel Goode. Dr. Rachel is an Assistant Professor at the School of Social Work, University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill (UNC-Chapel Hill) and a licensed clinical social worker. She received her PhD, MPH, and MSW from the University of Pittsburgh. Her research interests include developing, implementing, and evaluating interventions to address racial/ethnic and socioeconomic disparities in obesity and eating disorders.

HER Health Collective has four key initiatives after narrowing down the myriad of topics affecting mothers. These include, Equity of maternal care, Rejecting Diet Culture, Perinatal Mood & Anxiety Disorders and Expectations of Motherhood. Dr. Rachel’s work targets several of these same areas. We discuss how our work coincides and the importance of sharing our personal experiences with food insecurity. Dr. Rachel shares ways to make peace with food, and so much more!

Today’s episode includes a discussion of the following topics:

Episode Resources:

NCEED - https://www.nceedus.org/

SBIRT screening tool - https://eatingdisorderscreener.org/

Living FREE Lab - https://livingfreelab.org/

Dr. Rachel featured in The Daily Tar Heel - https://www.dailytarheel.com/article/2023/01/university-rachel-goode-feature

Intuitive Eating Resources:

https://www.intuitiveeating.org/

Counselor Directory:

https://www.intuitiveeating.org/certified-counselors/

https://christyharrison.com/haes-anti-diet-intuitive-eating-providers-eating-disorder-recovery

HER Health Collective, Directory of Providers: https://herhealthcollective.com/her-experts/

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