Man Whisperer Podcast

The most common reasons for divorce are: Money, Sex, and Expectation. So you must address them BEFORE you get married. This could be a way to avoid divorce, since you talked through the major issues first, giving yourself the pre-commitment opportunity to come to a calm understanding without the pressure of forever. OR you might avoid divorce because you realize that the issues are relationship enders, so you don’t get married in the first place. As much as that notion sounds awful right now, if you end up in the situation when you are locked in and THEN struggling with these differences and looking down the path of divorce, you will wish you had addressed them earlier. So, Rob and Laurel go into the topics and conversation starters that you must have ASAP!

They were your “One.” Or at least… that’s how you feel. But HONESTLY, despite the relationship not being as healthy, fulfilling, or good as you like to fantasize and romanticize that it was, you can’t stop thinking about them. You obsess, fixate, and compare everyone else to them. You want them back. You might even crave them. But, when you look at the reality of the relationship, more than (and more likely than) them being your “one,” they actually healed you, changed you, taught you, mentored you, unleashed you, made you… feel. Maybe they were your first amazing sexual encounter, maybe they taught you how to love or how to love yourself, maybe they inspired you, maybe they made you feel powerful or peaceful, maybe they helped to shape you, or maybe they are “the one who got away,” your biggest regret, or your greatest catch.

Are you actually in love with them? Were they truly your “one?” Is it them that you so treasure? Or is it the gift that they gave you- the gift that changed, expanded, or liberated you. Laurel and Rob will help you to figure that out, and maybe even get over your obsession because you come to terms with the truth.

The notion of marrying your first love is romantic. But with easy access and constant opportunity, it’s hard not to wonder “what if...” or “did I pick the right type…?” Which is why you should date different types and have different experiences before committing your life to the one who you think  might be your right type till death. In dating others first, you’ll get clarity on what you truly need, want, and can’t stand. Rob and Laurel go over several types, digging into the good and bad of each. It’s then your job to determine which is best for you based on what kind of balance you need in your life. AND if you recognize yourself as one of types, that doesn’t mean that you aren’t marriage material, but maybe you might realize that there are areas that you might want to work on, strengthen, play up or down. Or, maybe you are exactly perfect the way you are and if someone doesn’t like you or feel right with you, that’s ok. Someone else will…

Only 36% of Men and 18% of Women know when they’re being flirted with! That’s a lot of undetected, ignored, and confused pick ups! So what’s going on? Are you too afraid to acknowledge when you are being flirted with, for fear of being fooled or embarrassed, or is everyone terrible at flirting?! This episode will help. Laurel and Rob break down exactly what to do and say to be a better flirt (and flirt detector). Because flirting is a strategy, but it feels like a spell. There is an art to the flirt, a dance, a rhythm. When it comes to flirting, it’s all about, what I call the “Man Whisperer pull.” Flirting is a juggling act, one that combines the eyes, body, lips, voice, hands, and words. Flirting well takes practice, but more than anything it takes confidence. It’s not about trying to say the “right” things. It’s about being unapologetically you- completely. You have nothing to prove, because you know that you already have it and are it. You are Magnetic, Memorable, and you Make Them Want More!

Sexy, Happy, Calm, Powerful… When in your life have you felt THAT? When you start to identify times that you have felt most… can illuminate your Core Values. Your Core Values are who you are. They are what define you. They are your home base. If you are feeling off- alone or within your relationship, it’s often because you are ignoring or even going up against your core values.

Many of my clients don’t at first know their values. I didn’t know my values.

Once I figured them out, I had more confidence in who I am, what I stand for, and who is the best match for and with me.

It’s essential to have a clear understanding of your values BEFORE finding someone, because your values play a big role in who you choose and who is truly right for you.

Laurel and Rob reveal the importance of Core Values, and help you determine what yours are.

Don’t say THAT. Say THIS. Exactly. I am your Cyrano, giving you the words to text before and after a date, as well as how to end it. With the right words, you can avoid hurting feelings, leading them on, coming across the wrong way, or feeling insecure. Once you know the words to use, you will have confidence in texting them, even if what you are saying is hard. This is what I do… for SO many of my clients. 

Because here’s the problem with dating and texting: it can end a relationship. Even before it ever began! The whole texting situation- what to say, how much to say, when to say it, and how to say it is very complicated. Laurel and Rob break down exactly “what” to say and “why”- the “why” is essential so that you understand the reasons behind the “what,” so that you can then learn how to do it on your own.

How do you stand out online, without coming across as crazy, feeling inauthentic, or spending ALL of your time obsessing? What are the basic rules of online and app engagement? What EXACTLY should your first message say? What if they don’t respond? What should shy guys and girls do? Who SHOULDN’T online date? Online expert Bela Gandhi joins Laurel and Rob to reveal the best most successful way to online and app date.

“Hello, I’m single because”… I have too much baggage, I’m too fat/ugly/poor, I’m not good enough, I don’t have any experience... 

The real reason why you’re still single is because your excuses are the energies that you are putting out. 

You are on Autopilot, with your subconscious, maybe even unconscious internal directive making you “win” and “succeed” at proving your excuses to be true. You, you are WINNING! At being Single. 

You are living the life that you’re willing to put up with. Whether you like it or not, you’re dealing with it, making excuses for it, relinquishing your power to it. If you honestly weren’t ok with it, you wouldn’t have made the choices that perpetuated and kept you on this path.

Even if Much of your life is circumstantial and even out of your control, there is always something you can do to make change. 

So let’s change that. Laurel and Rob are going up against your “but’s” and excuses, helping to rewire your mind to change your attitude and therefore your life! It’s time to be unwilling to simply exist. Be unwilling to be alone. Be unwilling to live in an unhealthy body. Be unwilling to be constantly broke and money stressed. Be unwilling to be stuck in an unhappy relationship. 

Then do what it takes to make a change. Today. Now. 

Sick of being single? Suck at pick-up? Then DON'T do it! Forget Pick-up. Try Opening up. Listen up IF you're looking for a relationship (as opposed to just a one-night romp). It's time to open both your and their heart... starting at "hello." When the heart and mind opens, you’ve got them. Guest Connell Barrett first studied with Pickup Artists and decided to up his “game” through strategies that go deeper and get real. Together, with Laurel and Rob, we talk about what exactly to do to take your “pickup” to the next level, one that makes more than a showy impact, but also creates a lasting imprint.

What do you do if you “accidentally” called your partner fat, selfish, dumb, a bitch, or ANY other names? Name calling can truly destroy a relationship, planting a nasty little seed that breeds insecurity, anger, resentment, sadness, shame, etc… Never label your partner (or yourself) with any hurtful name. Oftentimes those insults are said in a moment of frustration and not meant. Other times it’s meant as a joke, or even inspiration and motivation to change. STOP IT! In this episode, Rob and Laurel answer a listener’s question, giving suggestions and solutions as to what to do after he told his girlfriend that her butt is big during an argument. And since she isn’t talking to him, we offer a strategy to get her back, heal the hurt, and move forward in the relationship.