Manfulness

Some people are charged with energy when they spend time with people, others find themselves drained no matter how much they enjoy it. As an introvert, if I spend too much time in a social situation it can become too much and I’ll start shutting down. I become moody, grumpy, critical and I know I need to leave the situation asap. As a nurturer, I love to support the people around me but if I don’t take time for myself it begins to feel like an obligation and I’ll start to resent them. R...

In today’s episode I want to talk about something that affects everyone, limiting beliefs. Limiting beliefs are thoughts you continuously have so often they begin to structure your reality. In the early years of a child’s development their brains are very susceptible to the environment around them. The situations we are born into, parents, brothers and sisters, culture, religion, all these things heavily impact out development and so the beliefs we carry with us through our lives. This ...

Last week I ran my first manfulness masterclass just for men. It’s something I’ve wanted to do for a long time but haven’t been able to until this year. I was incredibly nervous about running this class because I wasn’t sure how many men would open up or even show up. Many men are ashamed to work on themselves, there’s embarrassment to reach out for help or learn from other people. It actually went really well; we had fifteen guys who were incredibly receptive, and we got a lot of great...

Women are often at a loss for how to help a man in their life to begin to work on themselves. Their efforts can be met with him becoming defensive, shutting her out, or even aggression. Most men struggle to open up about their situation and struggles, so this discussion needs to be done with care. You’re not going to get a man to do anything by forcing him, giving him an ultimatum, or going in guns blazing because this feels like an attack and will provoke a defensive state of mind. In order ...

When we’re in an argument with someone and we start using phrases like, “You never support me. You always put me down. You never listen to me…” If we really thought about it before coming into the conversation, how much truth is there to those statements? Does the person really never do what you’ve said, or is this a generalisation that you’re making to get your point across. Using words like “never” and “always” in my opinion, can start some of the biggest arguments. Instead of coming to the...

How do we help men open up? I get asked this question a lot from women waiting for the man in their life to talk about their feelings. Often out of frustration, women start nagging to get their man to share more about their inner world and needless to say, nagging isn’t the answer.In this episode, I talk about how you can help the man in your life start opening up and feel safe doing so. I share some of what I do in my men’s coaching sessions and practical tactics I use to help men share what...

I've crashed Erika's episode this week as it was such a good conversation and I wanted to share it with you guys here too.We got a lot of questions from you all about how Erika and I set our goals and intentions for each new year, and we wanted to give you the actionable steps that we take to refine how we want to approach a new year. In this episode Erika and I talk through our personal goals and intentions for 2021. My word for 2021 is BREATHE, and so when I look back on the year that was 2...

What I’ve noticed through the work that I do, especially when I’m working with couples is that the female of the relationship is good at dreaming big, setting goals, thinking about all the things that could be achieved, and the male in the relationships is more rigid. Men struggle to dream and they almost assign themselves the role of being the rational, logical one of the relationship to allow their partner to have the big dreams.I can resonate with this as this used to be the case with myse...

As we come towards the end of 2020 after what has been a very strange year, I wanted to share with you the questions that I like to ask myself at the end of every year. I think it’s important to ask yourself questions so that you’re able to push towards the life that you want to create for yourself and those around you over the next 365 days.So today I’m sharing with you the questions that I ask myself, in the hope that you will create questions for yourself and contemplate what 2020 has look...

The way I was brought up was that in order to get money, you needed to work really, really hard. You needed to get a good education and then find a job where you could work your way up, work hard and the result would be lots of money. I tried that for a long time and it never really worked out very well. Not because I wasn't earning enough, but because my money mindset was bad. I wasn't treating money with the respect that it deserved. I wasn't looking at the true value exchange that money is...