When I was 23, I fell in love with a drug addict. She was sexy and interesting. But more than that, she was WILD. 

If my life was a movie, she was cast as the Manic Pixie Dream Girl—the adolescent male fantasy of an the open-hearted nymph who saves the non-hero from mediocrity.

The MPDG highlights  a common male psychological wound. She also shows us how such a man can heal this wound, if he can avoid the emotional trap she represents.

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00:00 The Manic Pixie Dream Girl trope explained

01:50 How this relates to real life

03:24 New book: Taming the Anima

04:25 The history of Manic Pixie Dream Girl

11:50 The psychological lens of Manic Pixie Dream Girl

13:30 Manic Pixie in my life

19:45 The Savior Complex

20:39 Translating the trope into real life

22:54 The dark side of Manic Pixie Dream Girl

23:29 The health of relationship dynamic

26:25 How to stop dating Manic Pixie Dream Girls

29:39 Who is controlling the reality of your relationship?

34:15 John Wayne doesn’t need a Manic Pixie Dream Girl

36:00 Many guys work on themselves to get women

37:43 What type of guys avoid MPDG?

40:20 How did Odysseus avoid the sirens?

41:22 How to test a girl to see if she’s Manic Pixie?

43:02 What do secure women actually want?

44:11 The summary of Manic Pixie Dream Girl trope

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