Today we are joined by Andrea Clark, trichologist.  Andrea shares with us her expertise and insights into the impact separation and divorce may have on our hair and scalp health.  She also shares ideas about when to seek help and how to improve our own hair and scalp health.  

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Way back in 1970 Paul Bohannon identified what he described as the six station model of divorce.  Although 50 years has passed these stations remain true for parties experiencing divorce and separation in 2021.  Each station has a focus and impact on how parties respond in mediation.  The six stations are:

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It may be that life changes require a mediated agreement or a court order to be varied to take into account changes in life.  This can be foreseen if the changes relate to the developmental changes / needs of children, or it may be because someone has lost a job and can no longer afford the maintenance ordered. People may return to mediation to discuss with the other party the changes that they wish to make.  Of all changes to arrangements, the hardest one to discuss is relocation of one parent with the children to another country.

Nothing in this podcast is intended to be financial, legal or mental health advice.  You should always consult a professional for advice in relation to your circumstances.

As the hard work of mediation draws to a close people start to focus on the mediated agreement. The status of this document is different in different jurisdictions and if you have questions you should check with a lawyer in your jurisdiction.

Once the agreements by the parties have been drafted by the mediator what are some of the things that can happen? How do people move towards signing the mediated agreement? Remembering and re-focusing on the priority goals / gains and risk analysis can be extremely helpful to remind people why they have made these arrangements. Working with lawyers to review wording and to seek legal advice can also be helpful.

Lastly being aware of the chances of 'post-settlement blues' can be helpful!

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In some negotiations, the parties may reach a point of where it seems that there is no energy or creativity left to settle the last issue. This can be caused by:

•the cumulative effect of their concessions can overwhelm the parties 

•a party may feel ambivalence about ending the and that feeling may prevent them from coming up with a solution

John Wade wrote a fascinating article, "The Last Gap in Negotiations: Why is it important? How can it be crossed?" and suggested multiple ways to close the last gap including:

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When you receive a proposal in mediation, it is fine to refuse it. You can then wait for the other person to come back with another offer, or as part of a constructive negotiation dance, you can make a counterproposal.

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When we receive a proposal from someone, we often respond with an instinctive "No" .  In mediation, there are a few key factors to considering a proposal which can help to close gaps, including:

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There are lots of factors to consider when making proposals in mediation.  Today I talk about:

DISCLAIMER

Nothing in this episode is intended to be legal, financial  or mental health advice. You should always consult with an independent  professional to obtain advice in relation to your specific circumstances.

After the individual intakes, the family mediator will meet with both parties in the joint session.  What happens? what do you need to prepare? what should you expect? and importantly, how can you get the best out of the session?

Disclaimer

Nothing in this episode is intended to be legal, financial or mental health advice. You should always consult with an independent professional to obtain advice in relation to your specific circumstances.

Most family mediators will meet with each party individually prior to mediation, this is often called an intake.  This episode covers what happens at intake, what questions you may be asked and what questions you can ask of the mediator.  How can you get the most out of your intake for the mediation.

Disclaimer

Nothing in this episode is intended to be legal, financial or mental health advice. You should always consult with an independent professional to obtain advice in relation to your specific circumstances.