Mark Queppet

Mark Queppet

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  • Building A Bridge To Your Emotional Mind: Resonance

    Today's topic is about resonance, specifically as it relates to your own self talk.

    This matters because MOST of your self talk is on autopilot,

    If you learn to reprogram your self talk in the right way, you can put yourself back in the driver's seat of your life.

    (This is part of a series called Psychomagnetic Self Talk, so keep your eyes peeled for future videos)

    - the four types of resonance you should always be paying attention to [1:05]

    - why most guys are stuck in DISSONANCE, and what to do about it [3:00]

    - how mechanical self talk works against you (even if you're doing everything "right") [5:15]

    - how self talk works with addictions (and what you need to do instead) [12:00]

    - how to give your emotions the space they need to fully process (and when to ignore them completely) [14:00]

    UYAP! (Unleash Your Apex Potential)

    Mark Queppet

    P.S.

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    In the course, I have an entire module on self-talk strategies for quitting p*rn (I guarantee you'll learn something NEW from this, even if you've been devouring youtube videos at 2x speed for the past year).

    There are hundreds of guys who are currently tackling their chronic p*rn habit with The Reforged Man course, so grab your copy today

    (...if you know you need to quit p*rn, the next step is to know HOW to quit. This what the Reforged Man is all about)

    16 min
  • The Core Skill To Magnetically Attract Success

    Earlier this week I kicked off what I was calling my Self-Talk Toolbox series - after thinking it over more I'm changing the name of the series Psychomagnetic Self-Talk to be in better alignment with my other work.


    The idea is that if you can learn how to use self-talk to control what you are attracted to and repelled by emotionally, then you will ALSO be able to control the results that you attract or repel via your actions.

    The first key to doing this is understanding your EMOTIONAL POLARITY.

    Emotional polarity is the internal (often unconscious) narrative that labels something as "good" or "bad" and produces a corresponding positive or negative emotion.

    For example, if you emotionally crave a cookie, then you have a positive emotional polarity toward the cookie that's stemming from a positive internal narrative that labels the cookie as good - i.e

    "Eating a cookie is a GOOD idea because it would taste good!"

    This isn't inherently wrong, but if you want to be able to effortlessly stick to a diet involving NO cookies (or whatever your goal is), you'd either need to REPRESS such an impulse (which is usually not sustainable and can even cause other problems) or you need to SHIFT that emotional polarity by shifting the narrative.

    So when you are in the middle of craving the cookie, the question becomes:

    What narrative could you activate in your self-talk that would make eating the cookie LESS emotionally appealing and sticking to your diet MORE emotionally appealing?

    So until our next entry in this series, here's the experiment I want you to run:

    1. Find a place in your life where an unfavorable emotional polarity is causing you problems (craving something bad / feeling resistance toward something good).
    2. Identify the emotional narrative behind the dissonant drive.
    3. See if you can get yourself to act better by coming up with a NEW narrative that shifts things in a favorable direction.

    In fact, I recommend trying this with everything until you run into an emotion you cannot seem to budge.

    We are only scratching the surface here but it's important to know how far you can get with simple techniques like this.

    UYAP,

    Mark Queppet

    12 min
  • Evolution Of Our Instincts

    I'm starting another series this week that I'm calling the Red Pill Playbook.

    The idea is to present "Red Pill" truths about sexuality, social dynamics, and psychology etc. and offer my take on how to best handle these (often painful) realities.

    I'm doing this because I'm not satisfied with most of the conclusions I've found presented by other content creators.

    We'll kick things off at a high level here that lays the foundation for a lot of my future takes

    Red Pill Truth: We have base instincts that are at odds with our best interests, morality, and higher desires.

    Men have a base drive to indiscriminately sleep with with lots of women, women have a base drive to use men for their resources, people generally want salty, fatty & sugary food, we all want social and sexual validation etc.

    These are fundamantal aspects of our psychology and we cannot make them disappear due to wishful thinking, religious scorn, or white knuckle repression.

    Bad Play: Submit to your instincts because "this is who you are."

    There is a growing trend today that says the way to deal with these instinctual drives is to simply satisfy them as directly as possible.

    As a man, you're encouraged to gain the status and competence with women that would allow you to sleep around to your heart's content (much of the "red-pill" movement is based on this concept).

    Women are encouraged to weaponize their sexuality and manipulate men to their benefit under the guise of female empowerment.

    The resulting philosophies extracted from such takes is that you are nothing more than your basest drives and fulfillment is found through hedonistically gratifying these drives.

    Reductionistic takes such as this view humans as mindless hormone driven meat-robots, and I'm confident that we are all capable of MUCH more than that.

    My Play: Sacrifice the base expression of the instinct that works against your ideals so you can tap into an elevated (and more satisfying) expression of the instinct that works WITH your ideals.

    We've all experienced this in our upbringing, it is the natural process of maturation:

    A child is taught to sacrifice the immediate gratification of hitting someone or throwing a temper tantrum when they don't get their way, and this gives them access to higher level problem solving and social interaction that will ultimately serve them much better

    Our primal drives hold an ENORMOUS amount of energy, and if cultivated properly act as the keys to unlocking our most radiant and evolved human potential.

    The trick is figuring out the right way to go about this, which is the purpose to this series.

    More coming soon.

    UYAP,

    Mark Queppet

    15 min
  • How To Stay Motivated For Long Term Goals

    In today's video, I answer a question taken directly from a member of the Vanguard, my masculine development community, dedicated to helping guys live and thrive at the front lines of life. He asks:


    'I have been developing a game for the last three years, but most of the time, I struggle to get enough work done on it that I know I could be doing because there are no deadlines, and I won't see any results for a while after doing the work.

    What advice do you have for working on long term projects that won't yield results for months or years, and don't have a set deadline?'.

    If you want your question answered, make sure to check out the Vanguard itself - I'll see you on the other side!

    UYAP!

    Mark Queppet

    #MarkQueppet #UniversalMan #Masculinity #Coaching #Productivity #Integrity #Q&A

    7 min
  • Self-Talk Is the Ultimate Psychological Superpower

    New series: Self-Talk Toolbox.


    Self-talk is the ultimate psychological superpower because it is the most practical method for managing your emotional state

    When you get good at this, not only can you remove unwanted negative states, but generate high powered states of motivation, focus, and joy

    The art of doing this adeptly is what I'll be covering in depth in the coming weeks

    You see, without self-talk, your only options when confronted with an unhelpful emotion are to repress or give in

    Repression just causes a festering of the emotion which compounds and creates further dysfunction

    Simply surrendering to negative emotions makes you a slave to your primal impulses and seriously inhibits progress

    The key to managing negative emotions is to understand that emotions operate on NARRATIVES, and that if you can find a better narrative for your situation, your emotions will shift

    This is what "perspective", "reframing", and "mindset" are all about: the capacity to keep your emotions in a more beneficial configuration

    Your psyche WANTS to be functional, healthy, and feeling good, so if you can offer your primal emotional brain a better way to hold a situation, it will shift it's configuration and the emotions will follow

    The key to doing this is through CENTERED SELF-TALK which is a productive conversation between your rational and emotional minds (your primal and terminal selves).This practice is broken down into two parts: translation and response.

    You must translate your emotions into words - this brings your emotions out of the unassailable realm of raw sensation and puts them into logical containers that your rational mind can work with and influence

    You must then respond to your articulated emotions using the logic of a friend and a leader

    By going back and forth between translating your emotions and proposing new perspectives, you'll eventually find a new narrative that generates a more favorable emotional configuration

    As we move forward in the series, I'll be breaking down in-depth strategies for doing this

    But for now, just go ahead and start talking with yourself!

    UYAP!

    Mark Queppet

    P.S. Advanced advice via Vanguard if you get stuck

    14 min
  • The Simple Truth That's Like Steroids For Your Discipline

    When you're struggling with a craving or dealing with resistance to enacting some sort of discipline, there is a simple truth that can supercharge your ability to do what's right:


    The truth about TIME.

    The problem with emotions is that they do not accurately portray time - they just portray the experience of the moment.

    To make matters worse, the more intense a feeling in the moment, the more it tends to drown out rational thought - making that momentary sensation hold more weight than it ought to.

    But with a little flex of willpower you should be able to squeeze in a at least a little rational self-talk...

    And here's what you're going to want to focus on:

    How SHORT-TERM the pain of discipline is.

    So if you're wrestling with yourself to go to the gym, how long do you think you'll feel resistance once you push through and commit to going?

    You'll probably feel good once you start getting your gym shoes on.

    If you've got a porn craving, how long do you think you'll feel uncomfortable before you calm down and move on with your day?

    You'll be fine in five to ten minutes max.

    Significant habit changes like quitting porn entirely, getting in shape aren't months of discomfort, they are just about dealing with a few momentary spikes of discomfort a few times a week.

    Big accomplishments like building a new business or career can usually be bought through a few moments of discomfort getting started each day that grant you access to the the productive flow states you need to make progress..

    The simple reality is that the distance between a bump of discomfort and a useful state of flow is astoundingly minute if you just flex the willpower and face it...

    Short term pain leads to long-term gain.

    Just don't forget HOW SHORT this often is!

    UYAP,

    Mark Queppet

    #MarkQueppet #UniversalMan #Masculinity #Coaching #Productivity #Integrity #Discipline

    7 min
  • Beating the Dopamine Slot Machine

    Our world is filled with "dopamine slot machines" and everyone is addicted to gambling.


    Here are four tips so that you can beat the house and win big instead of go broke:

    1. See the slot machines

    Every algorithmically generated feed, every notification ping, every new item in the fast-food menu represents another pull of the dopamine slot machine, offering a chance at stimulatory pleasure.

    Heck, every morning when you open one of my emails, it's like a slot machine!

    Open your eyes to this and you'll start seeing it everywhere!

    2. Pick the best, ignore the rest

    As you start to see your slot machines, figure out which ones serve you and which ones don't.

    If an online videogame has a 50% chance of pissing you off, 30% chance of being okay, and 10% chance of being insanely awesome on any given night, should you play that or do something that lacks the chance at being insanely awesome but has a 90% chance of being "pretty good"?

    If a website you visit has a 5% chance of showing you something awesome, 60% chance of uninteresting crap, and 35% chance of just showing you some kind of sexually or emotionally triggering garbage, is it really worth your time?

    Make bets with a high probability of paying off and your happiness will increase.

    3. Hack the machines in your favor

    Many of these slot machines can be tweaked in the way you interact with them to give you better value odds.

    When at the grocery store, walk around the outer rim of the store first, filling up on whole foods.

    Curate your social feeds so only the best content gets through to you etc.

    4. Put them in their proper place

    Know EXACTLY where in your day and week different activities go.

    For example I don't touch certain websites on workdays at all - others I only let myself interact with after I've gotten a certain amount of work done.

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    Do this wrong and you'll be giving your energy to games with low value that just addict and distract you.

    Do this right and you can engage with modern culture as a doorway to pleasure and serendipitous expansion of your mind, relationships and opportunities.

    Hope this helps!

    UYAP,

    Mark Queppet

    #MarkQueppet #UniversalMan

    13 min
  • The best diet to help you quit porn?

    A little while ago I got a question from someone who was asking me about the best diet that he could go on to help him with his porn reboot.


    He was trying to eat this super-restrictive clean diet to optimize his mental performance so he could feel better, look better, and have higher cognitive performance to improve his decision making.

    Now on the surface, this makes total sense.

    If you can reduce the physical and emotional negative consequences of a poor diet, then that could certainly lead to less triggers to escape into porn.

    If you can improve your mental ability, then you could help process cravings easier.

    The problem is that dietary changes are often some of the most intensive willpower drains that exist!

    For many guys, a restrictive diet during reboot just means that they now have TWICE the cravings (first porn and now food as well) chipping away at their resolve.

    This is why for most guys, I recommend only truly gentle and easy shifts in diet when rebooting, and save the bigger changes until you're clear of porn.

    Now, if your diet is so bad that it causes you to hate yourself intensely or is a fundamental part of your escapist escalation chains that ALWAYS leads to porn, then yeah, you might need to make some very slight changes to help you quit porn…

    But in general this kind of question is an example of "majoring in the minors" where you get caught up optimizing around something that diverts energy away from what's most important.

    The only diet that I promote devoting significant effort to during a reboot is your MENTAL diet.

    If you are regularly fishing through feeds, videos, and webpages that have a high likelihood of containing something triggering, then you for sure want to limit or completely remove that stuff.

    Likewise, if you just consume an absurd amount of low value, high-stimulation content - that can easily lead to an autopilot clickfest where you escalate unconsciously right into some raunchy stuff.

    I get the desire to optimize your body, mind AND quit porn all at the same time...

    You can do it all, just not all at once.

    UYAP
    Mark Queppet
    #MarkQueppet #UniversalMan #Masculinity #Coaching #Productivity #Integrity

    6 min

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