Mark Queppet

Mark Queppet

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  • Three "pillar habits" for every man's tool-belt

    Since humans really hit their stride in the world, there have been three practices that have drawn out the greatness hidden within men.


    You must simply:

    Read
    Write
    Workout

    If you are not doing one of these then you are leaving strength and power on the table.

    Read

    It goes without saying I'm referring to reading things of SUBSTANCE.

    No, just listening to podcasts isn't enough.

    Books are important because they are the standard form in which people compress large systems of knowledge and reading is generally the most efficient form to take new information in to expand your mind.

    Upgrade Challenge:

    Keep a few physical books around, a kindle book on your phone, and an audiobook as well so that you can consume something interesting at any point.

    Write

    Writing is not 'just' writing.

    Writing is THINKING ON STEROIDS

    It's one thing to ramble out a semi-coherent thought to a friend or therapist.

    It's another to understand your thoughts/feelings well enough that you can put them into coherent writing in your journal.

    Upgrade Challenge:

    Post your writing somewhere other people can read it - could be a forum, a community you're a part of (like the Vanguard), or even in your own blog or social media account.

    Workout

    Doesn't matter how strong your mind is if your body breaks down on you.

    Exercise is one of the best methods to release feel-good neurochemicals and it even makes you healthy at the same time.

    Beyond this, physical training is one of the greatest analogies for just about anything.

    You learn a lot from developing strength.

    And the lessons you learn in the gym apply to just about everything else.

    Plus, it makes you look good.

    Upgrade Challenge

    Do something physical EVERY day - this could just be a walk, or a stretch or a full workout. Don't let a day go by where your body doesn't get some love.

    Bonus Anti-Habit:

    Quit P*rn & Masturbation

    Quitting porn is the rite of passage for the modern man. 

    Those who use it automatically cut themselves off from realizing their true potential.

    I developed a unique system for quitting p*rn called The Reforge

    And I teach it in the course: The Reforged Man

    UYAP!(Unleash Your Apex Potential)

    Mark Queppet

    13 min
  • Reduce Resistance to Achieve Your Goals With These 3 Methods

    Success is created by having good systems.

    Good systems are designed to properly account for FRICTION.

    There are cases where you WANT friction in your systems that create resistance to making poor decisions.

    So for example, if you're trying to lose weight, don't keep any junkfood in the house.

    This creates friction when you might want to act on a craving to break your diet - you'll have to leave your house and go out somewhere rather than grab some donuts from your pantry.

    Creating friction is usually pretty simple - just add obstacles in the way of bad behavior.

    However, REDUCING friction can be much trickier, and ultimately much more powerful because it can help you TAKE good actions rather than just avoid bad ones.

    Here are three simple methods for reducing friction:

    1. Preparation

    Make it easier to start up the task. Ex:

    Lay out your gym clothes the night before

    Pre-plan out a task in granular fashion before you do it

    Keep the book you want to read out on your bedstand

    2. Exclusivity

    Remove optionality so that you reduce analysis paralysis. Ex:

    Dedicate the first chunk of your day to ONLY one kind of task (like writing, or working out, etc.)

    Have a notebook dedicated to a specific kind of journaling and nothing else

    Only make one big change in your life at a time

    3. Aesthetic Attunement

    Enhance emotional attraction to the things you are trying to do:

    Use tools you LIKE and are excited to use (even if they are a bit more expensive)

    Create a more comfortable environment that you enjoy working in (cleaning, decoration, furniture quality etc.)

    Find the way of "skinning the cat" that most appeals to your personality type (e.g. I'd take my intentionally designed minimalist home-gym over most commercial gyms ANY day).

    Hope this is enough to get you started thinking.

    UYAP! (Unleash Your Apex Potential)

    Mark Queppet

    #MarkQueppet #UniversalMan #Masculinity #Coaching #Productivity #Integrity

    13 min
  • how you too can laugh in the face of a "smut scammer"

    So I recently I got a LONG email written in Korean.


    After popping it into google translate it said:

    That he had hacked my computer and taken control of my webcam
    Had all kinds of videos of me jerking off to hardcore porn
    Unless I paid him $1350 in bitcoin, he was going to release these videos on social media

    Obviously I found this pretty hilarious since I do not masturbate, nor do I watch porn. 

    But it got me thinking... what if I still did? 

    What if I never quit my addiction?

    To be honest I'd probably be sweating it a bit. 

    At the very least, I'd definitely be doing some semi-feverish research to see how likely of a possibility that I really got hacked was. 

    Now in this case, the hacker was clearly just bluffing and banking on the fact that I'm a smut fiend like most guys. 

    But again... what if he wasn't? 

    People get hacked all the time, and from what I understand - taking control over your webcam and filming you polish the pepperoni is trivial for someone who really knows what they are doing. 

    How would you like the peace of mind to know that no one could ever get one over on you like this? 

    The solution is simple:

    quit p*rn, quit jerking off, and take control of your sexuality. 

    I've always said that if YOU don't take control of your sexuality, someone else will. 

    Either it will be the pornographers, some manipulative woman, or in this case... some seedy hacker. 

    UYAP! (Unleash Your Apex Potential)
    Mark Queppet

    #MarkQueppet #UniversalMan #Masculinity #Coaching #Productivity #Integrity #Productivity

    8 min
  • The Secret to Banishing Overwhelm to the Abyss

    We've all been overwhelmed.


    For me, overwhelm feels like I'm on a sinking ship but I'm stuck in a flooding cabin below deck.

    I'm treading water, pressing my face to the ceiling trying to grab a few breaths before I have to swim to the next room that's hopefully not completely flooded where I can grab a few more mouthfuls of air.

    All I can do is try to scramble to safety before I get pulled down into the abyss below.

    Luckily, I've been on enough of these sinking ships of emotion to learn a thing or two about handling overwhelm.

    The biggest contributor to overwhelm is NEGATIVE SELF-JUDGEMENT.

    It's not that you have a lot on your plate that's causing you to be overwhelmed.

    It's that you're judging yourself for not handling all that stuff perfectly.

    The simple truth is that you can only do your best and that's it.

    Sometimes "perfection" requires you to do MORE than what you're actually capable of.

    Sometimes there's literally not enough time in the day.

    Other times you just lack the focus or internal strength to pull it all off.

    There are times when the best you can do is to produce crappy results instead of ABYSMAL results.

    Life can get crazy, messy, and beyond your control.

    This is just the way it is.

    Now, this is not an excuse to slack or avoid giving your all.

    But it's also not reason to put expectations that create a counterproductive sensation of overwhelm.

    All you can do is forgive yourself for not being stronger or more perfect, and then channel all your focus into taking the best next step you can.

    Once you do that, all you can do is the next best thing after that.

    Step by step, moment by moment - that's all we can EVER do.

    And yeah, sometimes we fail to take those steps.

    That's not really okay and we need to do our best to improve.

    But you know what makes this all a million times worse?

    Beating yourself up to the point where you can no longer keep traveling.

    You're not perfect, I'm not perfect, but we can certainly walk in that direction.

    UYAP! (Unleash Your Apex Potential)

    Mark Queppet

    #MarkQueppet #UniversalMan #Masculinity #Coaching #Productivity #Integrity

    9 min
  • THE Man of THE House (vs) a man in a house

    There is a big difference from simply being A-man-in-A-house vs THE Man of THE House.

    Usually guys try to oversimplify what this means by spouting off some stereotypical expectations like "the man is the [financial provider, decision maker, protector, disciplinarian]" etc.

    I'm not saying this is WRONG..

    However, I've seen enough scenarios where the man is more nurturing and emotionally intelligent and the woman is better with money or disciplining the children.

    Because of this, I cannot tie any specific set of responsibilities to being The Man of The House… except one:

    The Man must consciously control the ENERGY of the House.

    I don't know one household in the world where a man can fail in this aspect and still be "The Man".

    So for example, a man who is regularly:

    Lashing out in anger

    Tuning out despondently

    Ignoring upsets and problems

    Spiraling emotionally or complaining in the face of issues

    Generally being an emotionally reactive sod

    ... is not The Man.

    If your presence is not felt at all, you're not The Man, you're a man.

    If your presence is felt, but it leaves only a negative impact, then you're not The Man, you're a problem.

    If your family regularly has to roll their eyes, cower in fear, or change your emotional diaper when you get triggered, then you are definitely not The Man.

    If you grew up in a household where this was the dynamic... I'm sure you loathed it.

    The Man decides what is the best energy to serve his family, and then models it.

    If the family needs calm, he is calm.

    If the family needs hope, he is hopeful.

    If the family needs strength, he is strong.

    If the family needs action, he is ready to throw everyone on his back and carry them if need be..

    If the family needs someone to roll up their sleeves and address some mess, he's already elbow deep in it.

    But perhaps most importantly, the family ALWAYS needs joy and love and so he strains every fiber of his being to deliver.

    The catch though is that The Man must master himself enough to  be able to do this...

    Do not settle to simply be "a man".

    The world needs you to be THE MAN.

    UYAP! (Unleash Your Apex Potential)

    Mark Queppet

    #MarkQueppet #UniversalMan #Masculinity #Coaching #Productivity #Integrity

    9 min
  • Tap into the ‘hidden potential’ already in you

    When I was younger I had it in my head that I had to get out there and really DO SOMETHING in order to BE SOMEONE.


    I was obsessed with figuring out how I could obtain enough status to finally feel good enough and like who I was as a person.

    The problem was that this logic doesn’t work on multiple levels.

    Lets look at that idea to “do something”.

    Linguistically, it is a strange concept – you do verbs (jump, run, build, etc.) you don’t do things.

    So what we really mean when we say “do something” we are talking about turning ourselves into an object of sorts, that does… stuff.

    The idea I had was that I needed to turn myself into some sort of important object, that helped people, made money, and garnered a lot of praise and attention in order to be someone.

    The issue is that personhood cannot be derived from objecthood.

    No matter how useful, skilled, or popular of a “thing” you become (YouTuber, Celebrity, Business Hotshot, Bodybuilder etc.) you can never find yourself as a person in it.

    Instead, I’ve found it better to take things in the opposite direction.

    I needed to recognize that I was ALREADY SOMEONE…

    I was already a person with inherent dignity, value, and worthiness of sacrifice and respect.

    It was only once I really understood this that I could play the role of “some thing” (coach, content creator, business owner) without all my “person bits” (ego, mindset, emotions) get in the way.

    When you are secure in who you are, you can play at being whatever THING you want from a place of confidence and peace.

    You are much more than whatever it is that you do, and when you recognize that, the doing becomes easy.

    UYAP!

    Mark Queppet

    8 min
  • The neglected “superhero trait” you need to adopt

    One trait I often find neglected in the discussion of heroes is HUMOR.


    In the realm of superheroes, some are straight up known for their witty quips like Spiderman or Deadpool.

    How many times have we seen a scene where the protagonist is caught and getting beat up and the hero makes fun of their captor for having a weak punch?

    Another example is in the fourth and final Avengers movie when Thanos delivers the famous line of "I am inevitable" and Tony Stark's epic response (which I won't spoil) brings the satisfying climax of a 10-year multi-billion dollar storyline.

    You might be thinking that these jokes are purely for entertainment and only there for the audience's sake.

    I'd disagree.

    Special forces operatives and fighting troops in general are notorious for their often edgy and crass humor.

    Many massively famous and influential politicians are known for their wit and humor.

    Trump basically won the hearts of a good chunk of America by hilariously trolling his opponents.

    Theodore Roosevelt got shot when giving a speech and then continued to deliver his (abbreviated) speech joking "It takes more than that to kill a bull moose!"

    One of the qualities of the archetypal hero is to "laugh in the face of danger."

    I wouldn't say this is an EFFECT of being the hero, but a CAUSE that allows one to BECOME a hero.

    This is because humor is essential for KEEPING FRAME - ESPECIALLY UNDER DURESS.

    When something goes wrong, you can either panic or keep your cool.

    If you can reframe the situation humorously for yourself, then you can laugh at it - staving off an unfavorable stress reaction.

    Laugh more, live stronger.

    UYAP!

    Mark Queppet

    7 min
  • For guys who feel “so far behind”

    One of the things I've seen from guys of ALL ages is the idea that they are "so far behind."


    I'll hear this from guys in their 20s as much as I'll hear it from guys in their 60s and 70s.

    The guys saying this are usually coming from a place of wasting years on inauthentic paths of action.

    Maybe they've had addictions, bad habits, or simply been on career paths that they didn't like.

    They get it in their head that even if they COULD get things figured out, they have wasted so much time that it wouldn't even matter.

    This mindset either leads to an extreme sense of panicked urgency, or a complete sense of depressed apathy.

    Here's an alternative mindset: You haven't been falling behind, you've been COLLECTING CONTRAST.

    With every failed experiment or mistake borne of weakness, the authentic path becomes brighter and more obvious through contrast.

    The lower the valley, the higher the peak.

    The hotter the forge, the stronger the steel.

    The things that seem like your greatest curses are the things that hold the keys to your greatest blessings.

    Sometimes this comes in the form of gratitude.

    Live years with physical pain, waking pain-free seems like a taste of heaven.

    Live years stunted by addiction, basic self-care and competence feel like massive wins.

    But other times this contrast can lead to high-level breakthroughs.

    For example, I’ve been flopping around on YouTube for 7 years and am only NOW figuring out my path after trying a dozen of other things that didn’t quite “click.”

    You're not behind, you've just been setting yourself up for an amazing turn around!

    UYAP!

    Mark Queppet

    9 min
  • Three kinds of people (number 3 gets it right)

    You can roughly break people down into three categories: reactors, developers, and masters.


    Reactors are people who basically run on conditioned autopilot.

    These people don't challenge or change their patterns on purpose.

    However their previous life experiences programmed them, that's how they operate.

    They don't take the time to really try and figure out how to improve their situation by improving their behavior.

    Developers are the people who ARE trying to do that.

    They want to learn how to shift their habits, mindsets, and behaviors so that they can get a better and better life.

    This isn't easy or simple though, so developers are trying to figure out how to gain that power.

    Finally, the masters are the people who have figured it out.

    To put it simply, masters do what they intend to do.

    They know how to control their minds, their emotions, and their actions.

    In the modern world, a master's potential is nearly unlimited.

    There's only ONE thing that separates people on these levels:

    how much constructive reflection they've done.

    Notice I said CONSTRUCTIVE reflection - not fruitless rumination or narcissistic self-obsession.

    The more times you've observed yourself, found a fault, and made a positive intention to improve - the closer you are to becoming a master.

    Observe yourself, learn, improve, conquer.

    Keep winning, Mark Queppet

    6 min
  • Remove THESE habits first

    I once knew a guy who wanted to be a writer.


    The problem was, he couldn't get himself to sit down and write.

    He'd get spurts where he would outline and maybe draft a few pages… but he'd always end up "getting blocked" and fail to show up and ship anything.

    It's not that he wasn't serious, he just couldn't get himself to be effective.

    If I were to talk to that guy today, I'd ask him: what do you do with your free time when you AREN'T writing?

    If he was being honest, he'd say: Party, watch porn, play videogames, surf the internet.

    I'd tell him that this was his problem.

    I'd explain that compared to the instant gratification dopamine highs that he was used to, anything "productive" was going to feel like a slog through hell!

    I'd go on to let him know that if he just put some time into cutting out all that crap BEFORE he started trying to amp up his writing game, he'd be WAY more effective.

    If he did that, not only would he be able to build a writing discipline… he could get HOOKED on it to the point where he WANTED to do it.

    But knowing that guy, he would have ignored me because he would have felt it would "take too long" to fix all of that and he just wanted to get that writing habit!

    Now the reason I know so much about this guy is because this story is about me.

    The truth is that sometimes you need to focus on cutting out your bad habits before you can build the good ones you're most excited for.

    Start with removing your most damaging habits first and replacing them with basic self-care.

    For example: quit porn and replace it with journaling, daily walks, and planning the following day each evening.

    Once you get your baseline healthy you can effectively start playing bigger and bigger games.

    UYAP! Mark Queppet

    P.S. There WAS a way for the old me to clean his act up AND build his writing habit at the same time… but there's a trick to it that I'll be teaching you in this month's Apex Report - sign up now if you want to put your personal development on warp-speed!

    7 min

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