00:46 Personal journey taught her about emotional, spiritual and relational health. Gained tools to help others today.

05:22 Challenges and 18 years on mission field led her and husband to coach others about relational and emotional skills.

09:30 Traumas, challenges taught skills for connecting with God and others at a heart level. Power and importance of joy and appreciation.

15:27 Immanuel Prayer for building intimacy with God. Use of theophostic prayer to address difficult memories.

20:51 Life Model Works, applying brain science to theology. Power of joy in difficult circumstances. Thrive organization helps people develops develop relational skills and experience joy.

25:34 Joy helps one suffer well, develop resilience.

29:06 65 million people  left traditional churches. Missing community, deep relationships. Churches need to teach relational skills.

31:24 Post Christian culture requires new structures and organizations to meet needs. Moving to household based groups. Early church experience.

40:06 Connecting with LK10 which seeks to create "vibrant families of Jesus." Develop skills of connecting with Jesus and others at a heart level. Family as a church. Danger of neglecting children when in Christian work.

51:51 Challenges of connecting with spouse at heart level. Connecting with children.

58:18 Learning to listen to Jesus. Doing in community. Safeguards.

1:01:37 Checking in. Connecting at heart level with others. Use of appreciation, gratitude stories. Sharing predominant emotions. SASHET tool.

1:04:53 Listening to Jesus by asking Him questions.

1:06:40 Book, Joy Fueled, is good introduction to LK10 and key practices of checking in and listening. Connecting with LK10 at www.lk10.com. Implementing it in your family or with others.

1:09:47 Connecting with family at heart level around the dinner table. Being creative. Working with children.

1:14:00 Luke 10:2b prayer changes focus of prayer from me to God. What is the harvest field.

1:18:08 The family as church and implications of that.

1:23:02 Books and other resources from LK10, www.lk10.com

· 00:59 Life changing paradigm - Family as a calling, a vocation. Wrote book with his daughter on family vocation.

· 07:09  Role marriage and family play in human flourishing.

· 14:59 Important element of Protestant Reformation - Revival of marriage and family.

· 24:41 Marriage, husbands and wives reflects relationship of God with His people. Nature of service, love, and leadership.

· 34:34 Christ is head of a marriage and a family and modeled how to live in those relationships.

· 40:06 Marriage as an organic relationship with authority and responsibilities.

· 45:16 Bearing crosses in our marriages, families, and daily lives. Their purposes in our lives.

· 52:09 Restoration of romantic love to marriage relationship by Reformers. CS Lewis' writings on romantic love in Middle Ages.

· 1:01:19 Impact of modernity on marriage. Separation of sex from marriage. Pornography further dehumanizes sex. Marriage, fathers are often irrelevant or optional. Loss of manhood and womanhood.

· 1:13:48 Importance of Christians recapturing a biblical vision for marriage and live it out in our daily lives, in the culture and society.

· 1:18:45 Resources: book “Family Vocation”. Blog at www.patheos.com/blogs/geneveith/ and articles at https://cranach.ctsedtech.com/veith-papers-presentations/

· 1:20:20 Don't lose hope. God's design for marriage, sexuality, and family won't go away.

Topics include:

· 02:21 Background and origin of his interest in marriage.

· 04:31 State of marriage in society today.

· 06:27 Implications of marriage and family breakdown today.

· 07:51 River metaphor for marriages, e.g. current, being intentional.

· 11:57  Key pressures facing marriages. Busyness. Social media.

· 15:30 Modern, psychological marriage. New skills required.

· 22:00 Consumer culture and impact on marriage.

· 25:47 Neglected needs in marriage resources: Commitment, marriage rituals, and community.

· 31:21 Challenge of unrealistic expectations for marriage.

· 33:06 Rituals of intentional marriage. Rituals are repeated, coordinated and significant. Ritual v. Routine.

· 37:41 Dating ritual in marriage.

· 41:37 Community v. Solitary marriages. Problems with isolation. Lack of shared knowledge on marriage. Examples of communication and sex.

· 49:54  Marriage therapists and counselors. Things to look out for when seeking help.

· 57:07 Developing a vision for resistance and renewal.

· 1:02:34 Marital First Responders. Helping troubled marriages.

· 1:11:08 Do the things which you did when you first fell in love. Believe that marriage can be taken back.

· 1:12:18 Doherty Foundation for Social and Civic Well Being. Interested in marriage, community, and intentional relationships.

Contact information and websites. https://discernmentcounseling.com/; https://maritalfirstresponders.org/; https://thedohertyapproach.com/

Topics discussed include:

00:27 Growing up in broken home. Importance of grandfather as role model.

07:44 His call to start a men's ministry.

10:02 What is manhood? Ways people have tried to define it. Bible and Jesus define it.

25:49 Manhood. Identity in Christ.

33:23 Marriage relationship and God as head of marriage.

39:50 Importance of openness, honesty in marriage. Dealing with sin issues.

47:14  Five reasons men request help in their marriages.

49:27 Importance of men being in relationship with other men. Studying Bible. Being open about lives. Praying together. Problem of men isolating from others. Taking personal responsibility for these areas.

56:10 Jesus is the leader in marriage and husband and wife are following Him.

1:03:10 Hearing and following God's leading in our lives and relationships.

1:20:05 Wives can help husbands by praying for them to be open and transparent, be in a men's group, and respect them.

1:25:30 Dangers of apathy and passivity in marriage.

Contact info for Vince and Resolute.  https://beresolute.org

00:42  Redemptive story of Matt's parents' marriage.

07:28  Matt's background. Dare's creation. Partnership with Love & Respect.

12:22  Biggest challenges facing marriages today.

16:43  Roles and responsibilities of husbands and wives and working that out in marriage.

22:46  Husbands and wives making decisions and negotiating together.

26:05  Husbands being leaders not dictators in marriage.

30:08  Creation of Dare - marriage mentor program.  Elements of program.

32:46  Qualities of marriage mentors.  Dare elements:  assesssment, mediation process - round the bases, use of scripture, address heart issues.

40:11  Teaching couples to identify problems and solve them through negotiation process.

43:01  Highest success rate for marriage mentors.

45:09  State of marriage ministry in local church.  Vision for marriage is critical.

48:43  Why marriage and family ministry are critical for health of local church.

51:53  Steps for developing marriage mentoring ministry in local church.

1:00:02  Learning to negotiate win/win in own marriage.

1:04:04  Lifestyle of "rounding the bases" in own marriage.

1:05:55  Contact information for Matt and next steps.

01:13:  Personal experience with marriage: challenges, frustration and change of attitude. 

07:52:  Changed perspective on marriage. Important influencers, e.g. Family Life, Tony Evans, developing a biblical perspective on life and marriage.  

10:39  Challenges facing marriages today.  Impact of feminist movement.

12:52  Key attitude towards marriage.  Glorify God.  Showing love and respect.  Don't try and change spouse.

7:50  Ways to improve your marriage. Appreciation, manners, listening, and spending time together. 

26:25  Differences.  Men are like waffles; women are like spaghetti.

27:29  Priority of marriage relationship in family.

30:37  Lack of respect drives husbands away.

35:32  Important role fathers play in lives of children.

38:31  Advice for young women entering marriage.

40:48  Difference between coaching and counseling.

42:07  Working with women.  Individual counseling and group coaching.

45:21  Marriage courses and workshops Sheila offers women.  Topic covered.

51:56  Keys to successful marriage for wives:  self care, soul care, smile, and gratitude.

54:20  Contact information.  www.thenotsoexcellentwife.com.  [email protected]

56:11  Importance of marriage support networks.

58:01  Importance of perseverance and hope in hard times.

00:53 Background and training at John Paul II Institute: Impact of Dr. Francis Martin on His life.

07:59 State of theology on marriage. Impact of unbiblical understanding of human person. Biblical view of marriage.

19:15 Biblical vision of marriage in Genesis.

27:05 Importance of marriage and family being rediscovered. Subtext of marriage and family in Genesis 2 and Ephesians 5.

46:32 Continuity and discontinuity between Old and New Testaments. Example of divorce.

1:03:25 Impact of believers on nonbelievers in a marriage, a family – I Corinthians 7.

1:15:57 Family as the carrier of the Covenant in Old and New Testament.

1:24:14 Cultural crisis leading to deeper understanding of marriage, human person, and holiness of marriage and family.

1:24:57 Relationship between family and church. Role of the Holy Spirit in Church and Family.

1:35:31 Being Faithful as husbands, fathers, and families in post Christian society.

1:44:12 Christian versus society’s understanding of marriage.

1:51:08 Family functioning as the domestic church. Practices. Raising children.

2:05:48 Challenges to masculinity and femininity. Role of fathers and mothers. Nature of love.

2:17:35 Meaning and nature of headship in Bible.  Husband, wife relationship.

2:40:53 Mutual submission between husbands and wives. Sacrificial leadership in the home.

2:43:48 Recommendations for faithful living in post Christian society as men and women, families.

2:52:01 Example of Joseph, the father of Jesus, as a faithful father, husband, and man of God.

01:03  Care Ministry Responsibilities:  marriage, prayer, freedom, visitation, meals and missionary care.

02:25  How they met and got married.

04:12  Beginning of marriage ministry work at River Valley Church.

08:05  Lessons learned in own marriage.  Any brokenness in our lives is brought into marriage.  Importance of support groups, friends.

15:35  Advice for young, married couples.  Never us "divorce" word.  Pray together.  Practice forgiveness.  Commitment.

22:26  Importance of becoming one in marriage.

25:27  Importance of dating in marriage.  Dating ideas. 

29:34  Why churches don't make marriage a priority and what they could do to make it a priority.  Importance of vision for marriage and making it a priority.  

34:47  Importance of marriage ministry in a church.

38:01  Qualities of "Marriage Champions":  Commitment to follow Christ and work on own marriage, authenticity, approachable, and reaching out to others.

42:50  Creative ideas for reaching out.  Dinner evenings.

48:25   Mentors.  Commitment to mentor one to couples a year.  Use Dare to be Different's Marriage Health Assessment.  Use 8 week marriage course.  Leader qualities.

1:05:27  Marriage enrichment for church pastors.

1:10:49  Small groups.  Elements of effective groups and small group leaders:  confidentiality,  listening skills, relational, discussion time, and prayer. 

1:13:58  Marriage small group curricula.  Specific, helpful marriage courses.  Freedom course and Freedom Encounter retreat.

1:25:51  Promise Principle groups for men and women.  Scripture.  Prayer.  Hearing God.  Obedience.

1:30:56  For Your Marriage booklet.  Husband and wife vision retreat.  River Valley Marriage page at www.rivervalley.org 

1:34:40  Growing in relationship.  Seasons of life.  Legacy.  Having fun together.

Dr. Carlson is President Emeritus of the Howard Center for Family, Religion and Society; former director of the Family in America Studies Center; and founder and long time International Secretary of the World Congress of Families

01:05  His work on National Commission on Children Under President Reagan

06:01  Nature and purpose of marriage found in Genesis.

08:39  Economic, social, recreational, educational, and political importance of family.

13:23  Assumption by the State of family functions.

14:55  Role of the family in character development.

16:44  Two assaults on the family in the last 200 years – Industrialization and new ideas/ideologies.

18:03  Effects of taking responsibilities of the home – cooking, education, child care, cleaning, etc.

22:15  Origin of ideas, ideologies undermining family – the fall, socialism, individualism.

29:26  Family experience in America – decentralized society, Constitution, and emergence of welfare state.

35:42  Depression, New Deal’s impact on family.

37:25  Historical cycles of marriage and family in civilizations – rise and fall.

42:50  Family cycles in America – major cycles starting in 1630.

50:25  Religious revivals and their role in marriage and family renewal.

54:19  Marital Fertility Rate – the barometer of a society’s health.

59:35  America’s experience with family breakdown; signs of the breakdown.

1:04:14  Decline of Rome: An analogy for what America could be facing today.

1:08:28  The role the early church played in renewing marriage and family in society.

1:11:27  How a focus on family life changed the world.

1:14:18  Protestant Reformation was also a marriage and family renewal movement.

1:20:19  Elements of marriage renewal movements in history.

1:25:06  Advice on what to do in the current cultural moment.