‘Most of the time our emotions manage us, we don’t manage them’

In this episode, Neil explores how our emotional state impacts on our responses and how this, in turn, influences how we are perceived.

This is a fascinating look at how our emotions work and what we can do to be in control of our emotions and use them as a positive resource.

Listen in and find out how you can be in control positively.

 

KEY TAKEAWAYS

What are emotions?

• They are unregulated responses to stimuli and come from the mid part of your brain.
• Emotions are fast responses and they can be so powerful that they completely take over. This can be dangerous if the response is anger because this emotion blocks out any regulating thought.
• Emotions are generally just triggered by the beliefs you hold in your mind.
• A belief is a decision you’ve made once based on the information you had at the time you can change your beliefs based on having different or better information.
• Your predominant emotional state usually defines your perceived personality;

Depressed people spend more time feeling low about things whilst optimists spend more time looking at the positive.

• Everyone’s personality is essentially driven by emotional states and you get to decide the state you are in.

Master your emotions

• You’ve got to master your emotions or they will master you.
• What goes on around you is essentially neutral and how you respond is crucial.
• Whatever happens, the first thing to do is take a pause, – say nothing, do nothing notice the emotional spike within as you begin to respond ask yourself is this a helpful response?
• If it is not, imagine the best response and recognise when it begins to occur in you.
• There are events every day in tutoring and you can choose to respond positively every time.

Develop a teaching state

• Developing a separate teaching state of mind can be very helpful,  ask yourself the question; What would be the very best version of me do?

Keep your problems out of the teaching space

• Whatever your personal worries or challenges you must not bring them into your teaching space. They are your student, not your counsellor  and if you are a mess you will lose your position of authority
• If you display any negative emotions it is bad for business.
• Whatever happens – pause and think about what the best response is, and use it
• You can come to terms with lots of challenges in this way and the more you do it the better you get at it.
• We all experience emotions so it makes sense to be in control and manage them positively  
• The forces that are already driving you are either adversaries or resources for you to use.

 

BEST MOMENTS

‘Things going on in the world are not about you, leave your ego at the door and respond to whatever is coming to you in your own chosen way’

‘Decide how you want to respond and apply that to everything that happens’

‘It's important to understand that people often invent bullshit stories and fake reasons, this is a way of protecting themselves and their own egos’

 

VALUABLE RESOURCES

The Tutor Podcast

Weird Things Guitarists Do book by Neil Cowmeadow

www.Neilcowmeadow.com

 

ABOUT THE HOST

Neil Cowmeadow is a maverick peripatetic guitar teacher from Telford with over 19 years’ experience in the business of helping people. Learn how to start, grow and love your business with Neil’s invaluable advice and tips without the buzzwords and BS!

 

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