During the 1960s, sex researchers William Masters and Virginia Johnson sat in their Saint Louis laboratory, watching through a one-way glass window, as hundreds of volunteers enjoyed solo or partner sex. Wanna know what the saw?
Their observations inspired them to describe a four-phase sexual response process: Excitement, Plateau, Orgasm, and Resolution. Turns out they weren't quite right. They erred in asserting that all men and women experience sex the same way. Subsequent research added a phase at the beginning for women: Desire.
The new study stated:
Desire. Many women don’t experience desire before foreplay begins. They feel erotically neutral. But if they enjoy it, by the time they become highly aroused, they experience desire. For many women, desire is not the cause of sex, but rather, its result.
Excitement. Kissing, cuddling, and touching causes the arteries in the genitals to open and allow extra blood into them. This produces erection in men and vaginal lubrication in women. But many, possibly most women don’t feel particularly aroused during the Excitement phase. To feel aroused they need more than just increased genital blood flow. Many women insist they must feel desired before they can experience arousal. And once aroused, many want emotional closeness as much as orgasm.
Plateau. Masters and Johnson defined it as sustained arousal. The new study concurred.
Orgasm. Masters and Johnson described it as a series of brief, sharp spikes of pleasure, a climax. Some of the women in the subsequent agreed, but many described their orgasms as extended, mild, and peak-less, yet still satisfying.
Resolution. After orgasm, Masters and Johnson held that sexual arousal subsided. But many of of the new studies interviewees said that after orgasm, they remained aroused.
But here's the thing ... contemporary sex research has shown that each of us is sexual in our own individual ways. There is no “normal” sexual pattern. Each of us is sexually unique.
This means that couples can’t assume they know how their partners will experience arousal and lovemaking. For great sex, both partners must declare how sex works for them, and then coach the other to provide what they need and enjoy.
Oh, and here are Three Orgasm Facts for you!
1. Orgasms can cure intractable hiccups. And yes, there's a paper on that.
2. Masters and Johnson had to create a "penis-cam" in order to do their studies on women. It's been dismantled since, but it was basically a camera, a rigid dildo, and a motor. This was obviously well before Amazon delivery.
3. Dr. Alfred Kinsey wanted to measure the average distance of enjaculated semen, so he used several volunteers, a measuring tape, and a camera. 3/4's of the subjects basically dribbled. But the record holder was ... drum roll please ... eight feet. Dr, Kinsey also noted that he placed sheets down, to protect the oriental carpets.
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