A man’s inability to get and maintain an erection is actually worse than just not 'getting it up'. Why? Because besides the shame, there’s almost always another aftermath … knowing your partner thinks it was somehow their fault.

All men will experience this at some point. Some more than others. And sometimes it can become a routine occurrence. Erectile Dysfunction (ED) is an all too common condition, and one which virtually no man will admit to having. Especially to other men. So the recurring struggle to produce a simple 'Hard Johnson' almost guarantees that a guy will have numerous opportunities for failure in the bedroom.

The experience of male sexual failure is excruciatingly painful for a man. It robs him of every ounce of himself. And just when we think it can’t get worse, our partner asks “It’s me, isn’t it?”, and we discover an even deeper level of hell. I’m not saying you shouldn’t say it, I’m saying you shouldn’t feel it. Because the answer is no, it’s NOT your fault. You are attractive enough. We do desire you. We do enjoy being with you. It’s like being color blind.  It's completely physical.  We just can’t see the color red, so we can’t always accept your beautiful rose.

As far as the physical side, it's good to live in these times.  While Big Pharma has made it so the medical community has stopped fighting for causation, they do have cures.  Or at least temporary ones.

And finally, yes it's embarrassing.  It feels emasculating.  But it shouldn't.  If you had high blood pressure and you took a pill a day to stay alive, would you blush when you told your neighbor?  You have a different broken part, that's all.  And you've got a med that can help.

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Write your own eulogy - how would you like to be remembered?  Long time in the future, sure, but with the remaining decades we have to do real work, who do we want to be?  And if we want to be remembered as that ... don't we need to actually live that life? 

So ... what's on your tombstone?

As for me ... I think I would like to see this on mine:
HE MADE A DIFFERENCE.

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Alison Thompson TED Talk
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n4gA3vD2CxE

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Sort of like Life After 50, sort of not.  Same basic subjects, with just a bit less holding back.  Not a political show by any means, but when one sees issues caused by politicians, one has to speak, right?  Someone's gotta look out for those of us over a certain age.

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Is life balance possible?  Can life even be balanced?  Ever heard of the Eisenhower Matrix?

Love and Relationships
Career and Educational
Finances
Health, Social, Recreation
Self vs Family
Personal Growth
Success

So many things to fill ones day, all screaming for attention.  Maybe the best we can hope for is semi-chaos with connection?

“My point is, life is about balance. The good and the bad. The highs and the lows. The pina and the colada.” — Ellen DeGeneres

Let's dig into Life Coaching (vs Therapy) for men.

What exactly is Life Coaching?  Well, it's using a trained person to help you understand your goals, and how you can achieve them.  It's having someone get the absolute best out of you.  Business coach, life coach, whatever you call it, it's how you can break through the myopic tunnel vision and into your best life.

Reason 1: Why men need therapy/coaching.  Our generation doesn’t clearly define the male identity.  Society had a strong definition of “the ideal man” back in the 1920s, 1940s, 1950s, etc.  But today is much more ambiguous.

Reason 2: Relationships.  Generally speaking, we men tend to maneuver more on a logical plane, and women are on an emotional one. Many men struggle to express their feelings, eventually leaving their partners in the dark, resulting in couples being separated by unspoken issues and resentment between them.

Issues Facing Us:
Divorce or widowhood
Health issues
Parent caretaking
Adult children moving back home or needing financial aid
Loss of friends through attrition or moving
Babysitting the grandchildren
Loss of income or long-term job we loved
Redefining ourselves

Why men?  For many of us, life coaching is the closest we'll get to seeing the inside of a therapist’s office. That’s because men are significantly less likely than women to seek mental-health support, whether by engaging a therapist or even just raising issues like depression or addiction with our doctor.  

A 1993 study published in Psychotherapy found that two-thirds of mental-health outpatient visits were made by women.  And 80 percent of people who use the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline are also women, even though men are almost four times as likely to die by suicide.

Chances are you answered the second question in the title of this video with things like: diet, exercise, not smoking, meditation, rest, and relaxation.  Maybe even threw in regular doctor visits and flossing.  But have you considered the health of the organ at the top of your head?  Things like emotions, intimate relationships, and SELF-LOVE?

Sounds hokey, I get it.  Like some holistic guru waved some crystals over your chakras and you suddenly decided to go agro-vegan.  But seriously, isn't health about the entirety of you?  And despite what we've always been told, isn't love of ourselves important?  Perhaps even paramount?

Unhealthy relationships, conflict, loneliness.  No matter how many squats you do at the gym, you'll still be unhealthy if you don't work on your relationship within yourself, with yourself.

How does one define themself?  By a label?  If you're dyslexic, do you think of yourself first and foremost as "that slow kid"?  Can one single trait create and limit your entire persona?

Why is healthcare so damn expensive?  And why does our health insurance come from our employers anyway?  Isn't there a better way of doing this?

Let's explore the ACA, Nationalized Healthcare in Other Countries, and why we get our insurance from the same people that employ us.  Something most of us 50/60+ folks are really starting to get concerned about.

Does everyone have "that age" where all hope seems lost?  For some it may be 40.  For me, it's twenty years further along.  On April 10th, I'll be 60 damn years old.  And even though I know it means nothing, it means everything.  I just can't understand how in the hell this happened.  Let's discuss.

Seriously, am I living my life through the eyes of my aging father?  He's now 87 and hoping to make it to 91, and outlive his brothers and sister.  Four years is all he wants.  Does my turning sixty, and the mental image of what that means, have anything to do with that?  I need to re-visualize what my 50s and 60s really mean.  For I am indeed full of life, and this coming decade needs to be equally as full.

Let's discuss.

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