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Join Aleeza and Rabbi in this insightful episode as they address a common question from listeners: "What should I do if my partner isn't listening to me?" As dating experts, they provide valuable tips on how to enhance communication in your relationship and effectively deal with this challenging situation. Discover practical advice to create a stronger connection and understanding between you and your partner.Key Points:Check the timing. Are you approaching your partner when they're busy or distracted? If so, they may not be able to give you their full attention.Talk in person. Don't try to have a serious conversation from different rooms or over the phone. It's important to be able to see each other's facial expressions and body language.Be respectful. Don't interrupt your partner when they're speaking or talking over them. This will only make them feel unheard and disrespected.Be patient. It may take some time for your partner to learn how to listen to you better. Be patient and understanding, and continue to communicate your needs.Additional Thoughts:Ask for help from an outsider. If you're struggling to communicate with your partner, you may want to consider talking to a therapist or counselor. They can help you learn how to communicate more effectively and resolve any underlying issues.Remember that everyone is different. What works for one couple may not work for another. It's important to find what works best for you and your partner.Overall, the key to communicating effectively with your partner is to be respectful, patient, and understanding. If you can do these things, you'll be well on your way to resolving any communication problems you may be having.Check out the video version of this show at https://www.youtube.com/@aleezabenshalom/videosTo submit your question for a future episode, go to www.MarriageMindedMentor.com/Podcast

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In this episode of the podcast, Aleeza and Rabbi discuss the important factors to consider when making a long-term commitment. They emphasize the importance of alignment in terms of values, lifestyle, and goals, as well as the need to be aware of any potential areas of conflict or disagreement. They also suggest that people who are considering making a long-term commitment create a list or spreadsheet of the factors they are considering, in order to make a more informed decision.Key Points:When making a long-term commitment, it is important to consider how much you and your partner are aligned in terms of values, lifestyle, and goals.It is also important to be aware of any potential areas of conflict or disagreement, and to discuss how you would handle these situations.Some people find it helpful to create a list or spreadsheet of the factors they are considering, in order to make a more informed decision.Ultimately, the decision of whether or not to make a long-term commitment is a personal one. There is no right or wrong answer, and what is important is that you feel comfortable with your decision.Check out the video version of this show at https://www.youtube.com/@aleezabenshalom/videosTo submit your question for a future episode, go to www.MarriageMindedMentor.com/Podcast

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In this episode of the Matchmaker Matchmaker podcast, Rabbi and Aleeza discuss the difference between love and infatuation. They define love as an emotion based on giving, while infatuation is an emotion based on wanting. They also discuss how love takes time to develop, while infatuation can happen at first sight. Finally, they emphasize the importance of being able to tell the difference between love and infatuation in order to make healthy relationship decisions.Key Points:Love and infatuation are two different emotions, but they can be difficult to distinguish.Love is based on giving, while infatuation is based on wanting.Love takes time to develop, while infatuation can happen at first sight.Love is based on reality, while infatuation is based on fantasy.It is important to be able to tell the difference between love and infatuation in order to make healthy relationship decisions.Check out the video version of this show at https://www.youtube.com/@aleezabenshalom/videosTo submit your question for a future episode, go to www.MarriageMindedMentor.com/Podcast

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Join Aleeza and Rabbi on a very special episode of the Matchmaker Podcast as they go into the significance of aligning goals and dreams in a relationship. Drawing from her personal experiences, Aleeza shares how she and her partner went through a working role reversal within their own dynamic. The duo offers some insights on effectively communicating goals and dreams with your partner, as well as finding common ground. Throughout the episode, they underscore the importance of flexibility and compromise as indispensable pillars of a thriving relationship.Key Points:Similar goals and dreams play a crucial role in fostering a healthy relationship, enabling couples to work towards shared aspirations.While it is possible to harbor different goals and dreams within a relationship, honesty and open communication are vital in ensuring understanding.By engaging in conversations about individual goals and dreams, couples can discover opportunities for mutual support and identify areas of alignment.Flexibility and compromise emerge as essential qualities for cultivating a successful relationship, allowing partners to accommodate each other's aspirations while maintaining a harmonious balance.Check out the video version of this show at https://www.youtube.com/@aleezabenshalom/videosTo submit your question for a future episode, go to www.MarriageMindedMentor.com/Podcast

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Coming up in this week's episode of Matchmaker Matchmaker, Aleeza and Rabbi discuss how to tell if you're being used in a relationship. They believe that if you're asking the question, you already know the answer. They both go on to talk about the patterns that people who are being used often fall into, such as having a history of being in relationships with narcissists. They recommend taking time to reflect on your past and identify these patterns so that you can break them and create healthier relationships in the future.Key Points:If you're asking the question "How do I know if I'm being used?", you already know the answer.People who are being used in relationships often have a history of being in relationships with narcissists.It's important to take time to reflect on your past and identify the patterns that have led you to this point.Once you've identified the patterns, you can start to break them and create healthier relationships in the future.Check out the video version of this show at https://www.youtube.com/@aleezabenshalom/videosTo submit your question for a future episode, go to www.MarriageMindedMentor.com/Podcast

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Join Rabbi and Aleeza on this exciting podcast as they delve into the realm of relationship arguments and share valuable insights on how to handle them effectively. While disagreements are inevitable, the key lies in maintaining focus and addressing the core issue at hand. Discover why fighting on topic is crucial for healthy conflict resolution, how to avoid fighting dirty by staying on track, and the significance of addressing the present moment. Learn from the experts and enhance your relationship communication skills to foster growth and understanding.Key Points:The Importance of Fighting: Arguments are an essential part of relationships as they provide an opportunity for growth and understanding. The notion of never arguing can be a red flag, indicating the absence of healthy communication and a willingness to address challenges.The Right Kind of Arguing: Not all arguments are created equal. It's essential to engage in productive disagreements that focus on the specific topic at hand. By avoiding personal attacks or bringing in unrelated issues, couples can create a space for constructive dialogue and problem-solving.Fighting Fair: Fighting fair involves several aspects, including staying on topic, refraining from meanness or sarcasm (unless both partners are comfortable with it), and aiming to uplift the relationship rather than tear it down. The objective is to address the issue and find resolutions while respecting each other's perspectives.Seeking Help when Needed: If an argument becomes an existential issue or a recurring theme that affects the overall relationship, seeking professional guidance, such as couples therapy, counseling, or mentorship, can provide valuable support and facilitate a significant shift in dynamics.Check out the video version of this show at https://www.youtube.com/@aleezabenshalom/videosTo submit your question for a future episode, go to www.MarriageMindedMentor.com/Podcast

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In this podcast, Rabbi and Aleeza discuss the issue of people who are "married to people in their head" - people who are unable to move on from a past relationship, even though the relationship has ended. The Rabbi and Aleeza offer advice on how to let go of a past relationship and open yourself up to new possibilities.Key Points:- Acknowledge your feelings. It's normal to feel sad, angry, or even guilty after a breakup. Don't try to bottle up your emotions. Allow yourself to feel them, and then let them go.- Focus on the present. It's easy to get caught up in the past, but it's important to focus on the present moment. What can you do today to make your life better?- Open yourself up to new possibilities. Don't close yourself off to new relationships just because you're still hurting from a past one. There are plenty of great people out there who are waiting to meet you.Check out the video version of this show at https://www.youtube.com/@aleezabenshalom/videosDo you want expert advice on your dating and relationship questions? Head over to www.matchmakersmatchmakers.org to submit your queries and it might get featured in a future show. For more dating wisdom and advice, download a free copy of Aleeza's book, ‘Get Real, Get Married’ at our website www.MatchmakerMatchmaker.org

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In this episode of the podcast, Rabbi and Aleeza discuss whether it is okay to size someone up at first sight. They argue that it is normal for people to make snap judgments about others, but that these judgments should not be taken too seriously. They also discuss the importance of giving people a chance to get to know you before making any final decisions about them.Key Points:It is normal to make snap judgments about others, but these judgments should not be taken too seriously.Give people a chance to get to know you before making any final decisions about them.Attraction is often based on familiarity.Check out the video version of this show at https://www.youtube.com/@aleezabenshalom/videosTo submit your question for a future episode, go to www.MarriageMindedMentor.com/Podcast

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In this episode, Aleeza and Rabbi discuss the pros and cons of long distance relationships. They talk about the challenges of being in a relationship with someone who is far away, as well as the benefits of being able to focus on your career or education without having to worry about a relationship. They also offer advice on how to make a long distance relationship work.Key Points:Long-distance relationships can be very rewarding, but they also require a lot of effort and communication.It's important to be honest with yourself about whether or not you're willing to put in the work.If you're both committed to making the relationship work, it can be a great way to grow closer and learn more about each other.There are a number of things you can do to make a long distance relationship work, such as:Communicating regularly, both through text, phone, and video chatPlanning regular visitsTrusting each otherBeing patient and understandingCheck out the video version of this show at https://www.youtube.com/@aleezabenshalom/videosTo submit your question for a future episode, go to www.MarriageMindedMentor.com/Podcast

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In this episode, the hosts Aleeza and Rabbi, discuss the topic of knowing when it's time to end a relationship. They introduce the concept of "soulmate clarity" and explain a system for evaluating relationships based on values, fears, and irritants. By ranking these factors against personal values and assessing how much the other person triggers and irritates, one can determine the potential of the relationship. The hosts emphasize the importance of having clarity to avoid looking back with regret and to prevent choosing the wrong person. They also touch upon the idea of avoiding divorce by entering engagements with confidence. Episode Highlights:Introduction to the concept of "soulmate clarity" and a system for evaluating relationships based on personal values, fears, and irritants.The significance of having clarity to avoid regrets and making wrong choices in relationships.Exploring the idea of preventing divorce by entering engagements with confidence and certainty.The challenges of creating an automated system for soulmate clarity due to the need for accuracy and the value of mentorship.Advice on dating until a clear "no" is established and shifting the focus from love at first sight, to love that lasts over time.To submit your question for a future episode, go to www.MarriageMindedMentor.com/Podcast

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