Matt Duffin Show

Rock, Paper, Scissors.  A childhood game of chance, yet giving insight to memory, thought, decision,  success, failure, stratagy and of course, intreging luck 'skills'.   Yep, often reflective of dealing with and/or living with a Traumatic Brain Injury.       The Rock will be strong, defeating each sharp and "Scissor" object attacking our 'understandings' (be it verbal, physical or uncompassionate).  Yet, even one made of granite will quickly disolve when surrounded by a mass flood of Paper work; be it writing skills, noting skills, math skills (my personal kryptonite), EXCETERA.  The Scissor?  Those robjects indeed cut not only corners, but can slice a goal in half if you are not strong as a rock!       Here's a hint as we 'play' the game:  I normally choose "The Rock"...  Because inspiration, be it gained or give - comes from within.  You must be strong, TBI, ABI or NBI (no brain injury).  Or as Momma used to say "say what you want Matthew, but you better be right."  THE ROCK of truth.  And, as a side selling point, "we will Rock you!" because on TMDS we love to smile, and rock n' rock makes me do so.  LP even sings!       With 'Stonebridge' on the horizon, we will rock on!  But, let's talk.  What's your weapon of choice in Rock, Paper, Scissors?  What works for you?  What maybe could you use instead?  Rock, Paper, Scissors.  Much like baseball to me, a true "game of Life" we all play.  Be it real, or be it by hand...

Most of the 'cooler' States in America are in major discussions about 'snow' this week.  Here outside the Milton Studio's, one can notice Indiana must be of the chilly homes.  Four Seasons, indeed, we have them here with noticable changes. Such as a TBI has noticable changes during the long term recovery process (or as I call it - Life).  Storms, unaware storms strike our world.  Some shaky, almost Earthquake like.  Some times we become very 'cold' to the outside world, or out of the blue it pours rain (tears) for no reason.  A 'pop up' storm to manage, if you will. Why?  Uh, well, WE HAVE BRAIN DAMAGE.  Part of our history lies dead, while the folks (cells) surrounding the corpse work to overcome the loss our brain took. Try as 'they' might, its just not completed such as "we could do it once"'.  Don't get upset at 'them' for trying.  Frustrated?  OK, sure.  But NO negative self talk. Self talk, it rolls off the tounge with ease.  Not quite an 'Automatic Though', which I feel is the true Tsumami of TBI Recovery.  However, let's see if I can help you, and you can help me. "shovel a side walk" to recovery.  Let's learn how self talk in a negative fashion is NOT GOOD, break the mold and go with positive self talk.  Let's be nice to ourself.  What do you think Frosty?

Veteran's Day 2012 - I have a very, very special guest, a 91-year old Pearl Harbor Survivor who went on to earn 16 more battle stars.  This American Veteran 'woke' up after a 500-pound Japanese bomb hit the USS Califonia decks above him, then the Signalman proceeded to tap S.O.S. onto several hatches, eventually locating a rescue team who pulled the concussioned sailors away from a oil filling compartment.  Woodrow Duffin, my father, suffered a TBI that day, and like most American fighters  was tended to differently at that time - went back to war. Also, Dr Kevin Butterfield - a veteran in his own qualifications - returns to answer chiroproactic questions, hand in his 'homework' to Kim Justus and make us laugh. My daughter Jordan Duffin & myself also are U.S. Navy vets.  This will be a good show to learn a bit of history by a man who made history, and became his TBI son's caregiver (me) at age 87.  (at age 88 Woody was horricically beat down by a Wayne County deputy sherrif, but thats another story).  Woody dances' each Saturday night still, and is a true American hero.

Mulligan! Such as in golf, Dr. Kevin Butterfield called for a Mulligan on TMDS.  We decided Sunday will be the good doctor's opportunity to spread his Cracker Comedy Club humor (I'm sitting at the front table), Race Car experiences, Chiropractic career, and importantly to our listening audience, Kevin's current work on EEG NueroFeedback's. Enjoy Dr Butter's serious talk, and laughter too. Yes, delayed laughter encouraged. A TBI is sadly serious the way it is – each moment of every day. I saw the sun rise today, sorta. Clouds covered from my cornfield view, but it was beautiful... Vote this Tuesday– flick off your own chads.   Buzzzz, shot clock expired.  Duffin's rebound is too late.  Possession change. I'll quiet down so you can call (424) 243-9540.  Talk with Dr. Kevin, myself.(so take notes; autograph session 30-minutes following TMDS).  Its, your time to talk with alike folks, similar in understanding ideas, and yes -frustrations.  It’s your ball.

Along with my 'natural' gift humor (hey, I played at Lincoln); and gift to look at life such as it may be now; I've invivted Dr. Kevin Butterfield (too many initials to even begin) as a guest.  Dr. Butterfield is a Chiropratic 'engineer', an EEG Neorofeedback reader, a racecar driver, and a national comedian.  A busy man who moved from our beanfields to Indy several years ago, but not too busy to share his life's work (not to mention raising 3 kids on his own),  I call him a friend, seeing how 15 years ago he fixed my broken back 'maticuasly' shall we say.  At one time an actor, with several televison appearances & a former modeling professional too.  However, (somehow) a doctor first and always.  Tune in, and tune loud.  Its Sunday night, following the World Series (if the Tigers last that long, right Kevin?).  Slow down, think & look for humor folks - we won't rush you.  Its the sad part of serious that takes us often down, allow Kevin to take you up!...Oh, and of course - me!  I'm uplifting (unless you want to talk about that UGLY row of staples on my leg again)...Special 90-minute show so all can call-in and talk with Kevin (and yes, me too)..

Let's discuss rehabilitaion post "the magic 18 month" period, patient sights of improvements as BI's eventually fall into traps.  Social, family, health administrations and the options of 'those folks' being not as considerate. Call in with stories of how your social circle "well, my husband had that done (did he?)" comparisons along with "Oh, I do that all the time (do you?)" likely hoods.  Even some buddies wished "they hit their head" by me recieving over-sympathy comments.   "Come an listen to my story about a man named Matt; poor Hoosier guy, who cracked his head like that.  Then one day he was cloud-like & confused.  Heard his momma say, get up you silly fool.  "A New Life there is.  Perfect thoughts with sightful tools." Well the next thing you know ol' Matt got out of care, kinfolk said "there ain't nothing wrong in there."  So as he set his ow recovery, Brain Injury Radio tossed him a bone.  Now he does radio, but mostly from his phone. Its like talking to Omaha, Spokane and Augusta too.  New York rests aside Milton, ''how's that true?" "Next thing ya know ol' Matt elbow rubs the brightest stars.  Sicilia, Kim, LesPaul along with The Marine.  KeithAnthony's  English ways &  version of hypmotise too plus of course DJ with American ways to mesmerize.  We are all HiLevel, yep the TBI Network is building quite a crew.  Fantastic it is...but from the fields too."

Dr Samatha Backhaus explains the brain, it funtioning parts and NON-funtioning parts recorded from inside my personal origional Brain Injury Coping Skills (BICS) classes.   I'm  hospitalized (yet the show must go on, and since THE show is titled under my name- well...), following MAJOR by-pass surgery last Thursday (93 damned staples worth).  Its the beginning of my "Brain Injury Radio Hospital Tour", with next week's (or three) coming from the to-be current stay at the Rehabilitation Hospital of Indiana.  I was fooled at first (dagnabbed TBI), but RHI is where my return to life found it's footing (Or at least the building where  I learned my name, eventually - after 'sleeping for 54 days in 2008!).  A quote from one of the smartest men I know - "work hard to play hard and have fun.  Don't ever quit - believing or on 'the team'.....

Tonight's episode on 'Crimminal Injustice - Who is really Brain Injured?" has been postponed, as has a 'certain' court date.  (if they can wait, I can wait.  Job handed me his book to read while I was in God's waiting room..      Depression takes a back seat this week; why strip others of their good nature?  So while we are waiting for yet another offering from a wronged system, and preparing for Trauma #4 (or is it 5? Six!!  Geesh), I woke up with love and tenderness on my heart and a grin on my face.  No need in feeling 'glomy' when the sun is shining.  Therefore, as a Brain Injury Copiing Skill subject tonight, let's skip stress management skills for now, and jump right in to common adult conversation - SEX!!    Or more common place in the BI world, 'the lack there of'.          The changes emothionally, psychologically; if not physical.  Sexual behaviors (yes, unfortunately, some horrific) and desires.  Another 'change of life' encountered, but can be overtaken with love, respect, and my favorite - repeaded practice.  Or we can talk about what you wish - but this ol' bartender will get our conversation going talking about sex!   On BI Radio too boot!  Well also have the Trauma Sports Segment, give an update on TMDS  Band contract negociatgions and remind everyone the East Central Indiana Brain Injury Support Group meets Tuesday at the Milton Christian Church, beginning at 6:30. Now that's something to get excited about!!!!

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THE MATT DUFFIN SHOW Depression and Coping Skills As live happen, things do not always go the way we planned.  Sometimes it just seems like everything can go wrong.  Losing hope is one of the main causes for isolation and depression.  As we move around inside a society of what everyone like to think as typical or normal many survivors look that typical part but inside things are different for many we dont even recognize our self,  friends, family and other look at us as the old person when all the time there is this new person fighting to be known and seen.  But they cannot understand it or accept it in many cases.  I am going to share my recent journey, a surgry coming up, my internet not working, and being avoided by various people.  It just gets the better of me often times, and catches up.  I am going to share how i cope and what helps me get through each day, oh heck sometimes its minute by minute, I think we need to realize the greatness inside of each one of us.  We need to cut our self a break and realize the great tryumps just to get out of bed with someone we didn't pick or even  want. To have the energy and strength to carry on truly shows that we have become strong and powerful, it is not us it is everyone else.  That is why brain injury is a civil rights movement, one more neccassary that equal right we are fighting for our exsistance - for society to realize who we are, that we are here and to accept that we are here and not a mental disorder.