In this conversation, Kevin Davis and Ed Frauenheim discuss the definition and evolution of masculinity. They explore the confined expectations that have traditionally been placed on men and the need for a more liberating and inclusive approach to masculinity. They also discuss the challenges men face in a changing society and the importance of fatherhood. The conversation highlights the importance of conflict resolution and building deeper connections among men. Overall, the conversation encourages a redefinition of masculinity that allows men to embrace a fuller and more authentic expression of themselves.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Setting Expectations

03:18 Defining Masculinity

08:51 Expanding Masculine Roles

12:23 Navigating Masculinity in a Changing Society

19:19 The Importance of Fatherhood

25:16 Conflict Resolution and Bullying

31:43 The Evolution of Masculinity and Western Culture

36:23 Building Deeper Connections Among Men

About Ed:

Ed Frauenheim is a co-author of "Reinventing Masculinity" and co-founder of The Teal Team. With over 25 years of experience in workplace, technology, and culture matters, he is dedicated to studying and advocating for a better masculinity, improved organizations, and a more soulful world. Ed's work focuses on breaking free from the traditional confines of masculinity, embracing a liberating approach that fosters compassion and connection. As a writer, advocate, and activist, his insights have been featured in publications like USA Today, Fortune, and Wired. Ed has co-authored four books, including the latest, "Reinventing Masculinity: The Liberating Power of Compassion and Connection." His expertise extends to workplace dynamics, as highlighted in a chapter on Reinventing Masculinity at Work, drawing lessons from top workplaces and industry leaders. Formerly the director of content at Great Place to Work, Ed has a journalistic background with roles at CNET Networks, the Oakland Tribune, and Workforce magazine. Based in San Francisco, he enjoys swimming, dancing to Daft Punk, and playing disc golf in his spare time.

Reinventing Masculinity: The Liberating Power of Compassion and Connection

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This conversation explores the origins of racial social dynamics, the rise of conservative media, the decline of bipartisanship, and the fragmentation in society. It emphasizes the need for a unifying vision and the lack of strong leadership in the current political climate. The role of CEOs in healing the nation and the practices of purposeful leadership are discussed, along with the importance of diversity in organizations and the challenges of diversity and inclusion. The personal journey of unlearning toxic masculinity and accessing the fullness of masculinity are explored, as well as the influence of football culture. The conversation concludes with a discussion on the importance of inner work for men and resources for further exploration.

Takeaways

• The decline of bipartisanship and the rise of conservative media have contributed to the fragmentation of society.
• CEOs have a crucial role in healing the nation and creating a unifying vision.
• Purposeful leadership practices, including empowering individuals to discover their purpose and nurturing relationships within the organization, can lead to positive change.
• Diversity and inclusion are essential for organizations to reflect the diversity of society and function effectively.
• Men's work and the exploration of masculinity are important for personal growth and societal transformation.

Chapters

00:00 The Origins of Racial Social Dynamics

02:38 The Rise of Conservative Media

03:20 The Decline of Bipartisanship

04:26 Fragmentation in Society

05:44 The Need for a Unifying Vision

09:09 The Lack of Strong Leadership

11:37 The Role of CEOs in Healing the Nation

13:51 Practices of Purposeful Leadership

15:43 The Importance of Diversity in Organizations

18:24 Creating Diversity in Hiring

21:31 The Challenges of Diversity and Inclusion

23:27 Personal Journey of Unlearning Toxic Masculinity

25:28 Accessing the Fullness of Masculinity

29:46 The Influence of Football Culture

34:08 The Importance of Inner Work for Men

35:02 The Growth of Men's Work

39:49 Navigating Traditional Gender Roles

41:37 Closing Thoughts and Resources

About Brandon:

Brandon is a Best-selling Author & Keynote Speaker, Founder of UnityLabs.

Most companies struggle to develop an inclusive and purpose-driven culture, build camaraderie for their remote and hybrid teams and embed DEI into their beliefs, behaviors and business logic. The result? They lose great people, the word gets out and they have trouble hiring.

Unity Lab helps employees activate their purpose at work and empower them to build authentic relationships, no matter where they work.

Want to activate your people? Visit UnityLab.co.

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In this conversation, Kevin Davis interviews Richard Husseiny, a coach who helps impact-driven professionals overcome self-doubt and negative behaviors. Richard shares his personal journey of self-discovery and transformation, highlighting the importance of questioning self-worth and redefining success. They discuss the challenges men face in terms of self-esteem and the pressure to achieve external validation. Richard emphasizes the significance of connection and the role of coaches in supporting athletes. They also explore the cultural differences in men's experiences and the importance of embracing change and failure as part of personal growth. In this conversation, Richard Usaini discusses the challenges of leaving one's comfort zone and fully committing to change. He emphasizes the importance of embracing change and diving into new opportunities without holding onto a backup plan. Richard also shares his personal journey of learning to be a man and breaking free from societal expectations. He highlights the need for emotional connection and vulnerability among men, as well as the importance of modeling unconditional love. The conversation concludes with Richard sharing four questions for personal alignment and providing information on how to connect with him.

Takeaways

• Questioning self-worth and identity is a crucial step in personal growth and transformation.
• Success should be defined based on personal values and fulfillment, rather than external achievements.
• Men often struggle with self-esteem issues and the pressure to prove their worth through external validation.
• Building strong connections and relationships is more fulfilling than focusing solely on individual achievements.
• Embracing change and failure is essential for personal growth and finding one's true path. Embrace change and fully commit to new opportunities without holding onto a backup plan.
• Break free from societal expectations and redefine what it means to be a man.
• Cultivate emotional connection and vulnerability among men.
• Model unconditional love and create healthier relationships.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Background

01:23 Richard's Coaching Journey

03:09mTransformational Experience

04:40 Questioning Self-Worth and Identity

07:23 Reevaluating Success

09:06 Men and Self-Esteem Issues

10:39 Living Vicariously Through Athletes

11:38 The Importance of Connection

13:16 Defining Success

14:46 Prioritizing Family and Relationships

18:05 The Journey of Self-Discovery

19:54 Raising a Daughter

21:36 Parenting Styles and Alignment

25:59 Cultural Differences in Men

29:33 Embracing Change and Failure

35:42 Navigating the Journey of Change

41:19 Leaving the Comfort Zone

42:15 Committing to Change

43:45 Support and Partnerships

44:15 Embracing Change

45:43 Risk Mitigation and Side Hustles

48:25 Learning to Be a Man

49:38 Breaking the Cycle

50:08 Rejection of Alpha Masculinity

51:08 Listening to Yourself

53:19 Embracing Feelings

54:12 Craving Emotional Connection

57:06 Modeling Unconditional Love

58:30 Healing Wounds

59:34 Building Male Friendships

01:01:44 Four Questions for Alignment

01:03:29 Connecting with Richard

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In this conversation, Paula discusses the rise of porn addiction and the impact of internet pornography on young people. She explains the neuroscience of addiction and the development of neural pathways. Paula emphasizes the importance of education and open communication to address the issue. She also introduces Pivotal Recovery, a podcast-based self-help course, and discusses the therapy services provided by the Laurel Centre. Overall, the conversation highlights the need for awareness, support, and practical measures to prevent and address porn addiction.

Takeaways

• Porn addiction is a growing problem, particularly due to the easy accessibility of internet pornography.
• Addiction is a result of the brain's neural pathways becoming wired to a particular behavior or substance.
• Education and open communication are crucial in addressing porn addiction and preventing its harmful consequences.
• Pivotal Recovery offers a podcast-based self-help course, while the Laurel Centre provides therapy services for individuals struggling with addiction.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Background

06:37 The Rise of Porn Addiction

09:09 Understanding Porn Addiction

11:08 Identifying Porn Addiction

13:08 Measuring the Impact of Porn Addiction

14:08 Recognizing Addiction and Seeking Help

15:53 The Role of Sexuality in Addiction

16:53 The Neuroscience of Addiction

18:36 Gender Differences in Addiction

21:55 The Stigma of Female Sexuality

23:33 The Perception of Addiction

25:27 The Role of Dopamine in Addiction

26:38 The Development of Neural Pathways

27:38 Addiction and Harmful Consequences

28:45 The Impact of Internet Porn on Young People

31:28 The Importance of Education

34:37 The Role of Morality in Porn Addiction

35:12 Differentiating Porn from Real Life

36:11 The Range of Pornography

37:42 The Lack of Sex Education

39:19 Pivotal Recovery and Support

43:30 Protecting Children from Pornography

45:00 Open Communication and Education

46:30 Practical Measures to Prevent Access

49:45 The Laurel Centre and Therapy

50:27 The Choice Recovery Model

59:15 Accessing Pivotal Recovery and Therapy

About Dr. Paula:

Dr Paula Hall is a senior accredited Sexual & Relationship Psychotherapist with 30 years experience, 18 of which have been specialising in sex and porn addiction. She is Clinical Director of the Laurel Centre (https://thelaurelcentre.co.uk) who provide online individual and group therapy around the world for people struggling with compulsive sexual behaviours and also support for partners. She is also founder of Pivotal Recovery (https://PivotalRecovery.org) , a not-for-profit organisation that provides affordable, anonymous, accessible self-help through their podcast based Pivotal Recovery Course. Dr Hall is also author of Understanding & Treating Sex & Pornography Addiction (Routledge 2018), Sex Addiction - The Partner's Perspective (2016) and Sex Addiction – A Guide for Couples (Routledge 2019) and regularly contributes to the media on all things sex and porn related.

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Paul Beam, founder of True North Man, shares his journey of creating immersive and transformative events for men. He emphasizes the importance of vulnerability, mentorship, and community in personal growth. Paul also discusses the challenges faced by young men in today's society and offers advice on building male relationships in unique circumstances. The conversation explores the importance of building authentic relationships, adapting and learning from others, and being a go-to person. It also discusses the value of connecting with people of different beliefs, hosting events to foster camaraderie, and putting effort into relationships. The conversation emphasizes the significance of fostering existing relationships, balancing relationships with other commitments, and being a mentor and role model. Lastly, it highlights the importance of raising sons with love and support and creating vision, identity, and purpose in life.

Takeaways

• Immersive events transform men's experiences.
• Vulnerability and mentorship drive personal growth.
• Face-to-face interactions help young men overcome social challenges.
• Building male relationships demands creativity, intentionality, and shared interests.
• Learning from diverse perspectives fosters personal growth.
• Being a reliable go-to person builds trust in relationships.
• Connecting with people of different beliefs bridges societal divides.
• Events create opportunities for camaraderie and meaningful connections.
• Effort in existing relationships is crucial for their strength.
• Balancing relationships enhances overall well-being.
• Mentoring positively impacts younger generations.
• Raising sons with love, support, and communication is vital.
• Living with purpose and a clear vision leads to a fulfilling lif

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Technical Setup

03:03 Paul Beam's Background and True North Man

11:03 Creating Immersive and Transformative Events

16:18 Fostering Vulnerability and Mentorship

25:57 Challenges for Young Men in Today's Society

35:07 Building Male Relationships in Unique Circumstances

40:34 Building Authentic Relationships

41:18 Adapting and Learning from Others

42:16 Being a Go-To Person

43:47 Connecting with People of Different Beliefs

44:46 Hosting Events to Foster Camaraderie

46:54 Putting Effort into Relationships

48:06 Fostering Existing Relationships

49:46 Balancing Relationships with Other Commitments

50:56 Being a Mentor and Role Model

56:38 Raising Sons with Love and Support

01:01:30 Creating Vision, Identity, and Purpose

About Paul:

Paul Beam inspires a life full in Christ and for others. Join him on the journey at True North, where we reach people of all ages with the love of Jesus Christ. True North is a retreat for reflection, reorientation, reconciliation, and renewal, offering a space for spiritual direction and the pursuit of a joy-filled life in community.
Visit: www.truenorthman.com for more information and to sign up for Man Camp.

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In this episode, Kevin Davis interviews his friend Marty Hopes. Marty shares his personal background, including growing up in Montana and facing hardships. He also discusses his military experience and the life lessons he learned. Marty then talks about his various career transitions, from being a building inspector to selling cars and eventually starting an aircraft detailing business. The conversation concludes with a discussion about the private jet industry and the luxury and convenience it offers.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Personal Background

03:00 Military Experience and Life Lessons

06:00 Career Transitions

08:00 Aircraft Detailing Business

10:00 Private Jet Industry

About Marty:

Marty Hopes, a 55-year-old Montana native and small business owner in Bozeman, is dedicated to preventing Veteran suicide. Introduced to the non-profit organization Irreverent Warriors during a challenging time, Marty found a sense of belonging in their signature hikes. Passionate about helping Veterans, Marty and his wife Marissa brought the IW community and Silkies Hike to Montana, coordinating the inaugural Bozeman Silkies Hike in June 2022.

With a background in martial arts, Marty overcame major injuries and restarted his life after divorce three times. Despite life's challenges, Marty remains energetic and youthful, inspiring others with his resilience. He and Marissa, founders of the IGY6 Rucking Crew, plan to grow their GORUCK club and compete in distance and obstacle course events. Marty, known for his charming smile and tattooed arms, continues to strive for personal growth and refuses to settle.

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Kevin Davis interviews Mike Pisciotta about his transformative journey from prison to success. They explore Mike's personal growth, challenges post-release, and the significance of skills and a positive mindset. Mike discusses support, resistance, and systemic issues within the prison system. The conversation underscores personal responsibility and the potential for success despite circumstances. Mike delves into his entrepreneurship in e-commerce and coaching, highlighting the value of embracing challenges. He also shares insights on working as a couple, lessons from real estate investing, and the importance of overcoming fear in business. Additionally, Mike addresses leading by example in fatherhood, teaching respect, and the need for society to value and respect women.

Takeaways

• Personal growth can be achieved even in challenging environments, such as prison.
• Taking personal responsibility is crucial for creating positive change.
• Challenges and setbacks can be valuable opportunities for growth and learning.
• Embracing challenges and setbacks can lead to personal and professional success.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Technical Setup

01:05 Mike's Son's Soccer Tournament

03:18 Mike's Journey from Prison to Success

08:08 Inspiring Men to Strive for More

16:59 Writing a Letter to Himself in Prison

21:12 Support and Resistance from Others

25:54 Developing Skills in Prison

30:34 Dealing with Challenges and Difficulties

32:44 Systemic Issues in the Prison System

33:43 The Prison Environment and Personal Growth

35:13 Finding Strength in Challenges

36:10 Taking Personal Responsibility

37:09 The Value of Challenges and Setbacks

38:12 The Impact of Time in Prison

40:12 Gratitude for Challenges and Struggles

41:25 Overcoming Obstacles in Prison

42:11 Transitioning to Entrepreneurship

44:05 Venturing into E-commerce

46:12 Transitioning to Coaching and Informational Products

47:35 Success with Single Product Funnels

50:23 Navigating Changes in Marketing Platforms

53:27 Understanding Human Nature in Marketing

57:57 Working Together as a Couple

01:00:27 Lessons from Real Estate Investing

01:04:12 Embracing Challenges and Failure

01:06:20 Overcoming Fear and Taking Action

01:09:50 Leading by Example in Fatherhood

01:13:08 Teaching Respect and Manhood to Boys

01:19:36 Raising Daughters with Value and Self-Respect

01:20:35 The Challenges of Success and Parenting

About Mike:

Mike Pisciotta, once a 3650-day guest of the Florida Department of Corrections, transformed his life by finding God and honing a diverse skill set during his time behind bars. From a teenaged felon to a self-made millionaire, Mike's intentional journey led to mastery in languages, business, marketing, and real estate. Since his release in 2009, Mike, alongside his wife Robin, has built a thriving empire. As a coach specializing in marketing and ad management, he guides clients nationwide in real estate through his BRRR Method Coaching Membership.

Learn more about Mike and connect with him here:
https://www.reinvestingsuccess.com/
https://www.youtube.com/@reinvestingsuccess

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Kevin Davis and Chris Croft delve into the changing landscape of masculinity, gender roles, and societal expectations in this episode. They touch on the crisis of masculinity, challenges of traditional gender roles, and the impact of evolving dynamics on male spaces. The conversation emphasizes the importance of defining one's path for happiness and fulfillment. Themes of masculinity, personal growth, mental strength, setting boundaries, and prioritizing goals are explored. The pitfalls of power, career success, fatherhood, and critical thinking are examined. The discussion also covers team dynamics, gender's impact on problem-solving, parental influence, confidence-building, and a reflection on maximizing potential.

Takeaways

• Masculinity is redefined by qualities like mental strength, resilience, and kindness.
• Prioritize boundaries and personal goals for a healthy work-life balance.
• Embrace life's finite nature, prioritize enjoyment, and avoid sole focus on power and career success.
• True fulfillment comes from relationships and making a positive impact, not just professional achievements.
• Honest communication is crucial in fatherhood and all relationships.
• Critical thinking is vital amid misinformation; question sources for informed decisions.
• Men and women have different problem-solving approaches; diverse teams enhance dynamics.
• Parents shape gender roles; challenge stereotypes for a more inclusive society.
• Women need to overcome stereotypes for success in male-dominated fields.
• Norwegian masculinity emphasizes toughness and outdoor activities.
• Modern masculinity involves balancing traditional traits with care and respect.
• Maximize potential through self-reflection, goal-setting, and continuous personal growth.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Getting to Know Each Other
03:00 The Crisis of Masculinity
10:00 The Pursuit of Money and Success
18:00 Traditional Gender Roles and Expectations
25:00 Confusion and Anxiety in Gender Roles
30:00 Challenges of Traditional Male Spaces
31:21 The Meaning of Life and Masculinity
36:05 Strength and Mental Resilience
40:43 Setting Boundaries and Prioritizing Goals
45:03 The Finite Nature of Life and the Importance of Enjoyment
48:10 The Pitfalls of Power and the Pursuit of Career Success
52:00 Fatherhood and Honesty
56:27 Critical Thinking and Questioning Statistics
59:36 Lack of Critical Thinking in Society
01:00:24 Gender Differences in Problem Solving
01:01:21 Team Dynamics and Gender
01:02:22 Building Confidence and Overcoming Stereotypes
01:03:57 Influence of Parents on Gender Roles
01:06:00 The Role of Fathers and Mothers
01:07:00 The Influence of Parents on Masculinity
01:09:00 Norwegian Culture and Masculinity
01:11:39 The Effect of Parents on Gender Identity
01:13:08 The Norwegian Perspective on Masculinity
01:15:42 Defining a Real Man in Modern Times
01:16:34 Maximizing Potential

About Chris:

Chris Croft is one of the world’s leading trainers and provides a wide variety of courses. To date Chris has trained some 87 000 people face to face, eighteen million on-line, and has a 94% rate of repeat business.

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Kevin Davis interviews mindfulness practitioner Russell Treasure, exploring the benefits and misconceptions of mindfulness. Russell shares his personal journey, emphasizing its role in detaching from the past and future. He discusses practical applications in sports and relationships, focusing on conflict resolution and reacting calmly. Russell suggests incorporating mindfulness into a morning routine and provides guidance on coming out of practice. Tune in for practical insights and resources.

Takeaways

• Mindfulness originated from Buddhist monks and is a way of living in the present moment without judgment.
• Practicing mindfulness can help individuals relax, reduce stress, and detach from the fight or flight response.
• Mindfulness can be applied in various areas, including sports, relationships, and daily life.
• Mindfulness is not a religion or a cult; it is a practice that can be integrated into anyone's life.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Background

02:56 Understanding Mindfulness

06:07 The Chimp Paradox and Mindfulness

13:16 Practicing Mindfulness in Daily Life

21:09 Mindfulness for Rugby Players

35:22 Mindfulness Misconceptions

41:41 Applying Mindfulness in Sports

46:04 Mindfulness in Relationships

49:44 Practical Approaches to Conflict Resolution

51:10 Three Parts of Conflict Resolution

52:39 Practicing Mindfulness for Better Reactions

53:21 Choosing Not to React

54:11 Practicing Mental Visualization

56:13 The Benefits of Relaxation in Performance

57:14 Incorporating Mindfulness into a Morning Routine

01:01:11 Starting the Day with Mindfulness

01:05:29 Shifting from Chimp Brain to Human Brain

01:08:40 Coming Out of Mindfulness Practice

01:11:39 Where to Find Russell Treasure

About Russell:

Russell Treasure, a Mindfulness practitioner since his early thirties, teaches with a Diploma in Teaching Meditation and a certificate in Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction. Notable clients include Cheshire Police, Warrington Wolves, Leeds Rhino’s, and Widnes Vikings players, along with organizations like The Alzheimers Society and The Imperial War Museum. Russell extends his expertise to prisons, schools, Men’s Mental Health groups, and the Rugby Football League. Additionally, he mentors for Treasure Your Wellbeing CIC and volunteers for The Salvation Army, Rugby League Foundations, and a local food bank.
Book Recommendation: The Chimp Paradox
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When you have a chance to spend time talking to a man of 91 (almost 92), you take it and try to make the most of it.

Fred Neth is a good friend of mine, and a man that defines "a life well lived." We discuss faith, family, careers, and a wholeness and peace that only comes from one source. 

This is a very interesting and often times poignant discussion about life, men, manhood, and mentoring. 

Fred is 91 years old, and is a retired army intelligence officer, pastor of 40 years, realtor, and more. He has been married to his wife Evelyn for almost 70 years, and has 4 great grown children.

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