In this episode, Hector has a great talk with his longtime friend and Modern Man Podcast host, Ted Phaeton, about the weight men carry—fatherhood, marriage, business, and the relentless pursuit of being that guy in every arena. Ted shares how he’s juggling the chaos of raising a newborn while running his podcast and coaching business, all while staying dialed in on his health, discipline, and leadership. They get into why men need to embrace both their strength and their softness, how breathwork and Muay Thai are shaping Ted’s ability to lead, and why the “have it all” myth is setting guys up for failure. If you’ve ever felt stretched too thin, stuck between your responsibilities and your purpose, this one’s for you.

Chapters:

• 00:00:00 - The Weight We Carry as Men
• 00:00:56 - Newborns, Business, and the Chaos in Between
• 00:02:46 - Keeping the Plates Spinning: Fatherhood vs. Career
• 00:04:42 - What Every Man Needs to Hear (But Rarely Does)
• 00:10:31 - Mastering the Clock: Time, Discipline, and Execution
• 00:16:37 - Staying Steady When the Storm Hits
• 00:18:42 - Pressure, Peace, and the Art of Staying Cool
• 00:22:45 - Brotherhood, Breathwork, and the Real Meaning of Self-Care
• 00:23:35 - Warrior & Poet: The Full Spectrum of a Man
• 00:25:26 - Life Has Seasons—Are You Built for All of Them?
• 00:27:45 - The Most Dangerous Man in the Room
• 00:30:22 - Who You Are vs. Who They Told You to Be
• 00:33:09 - The Four Codes Every Man Should Live By
• 00:36:26 - Building a Life That Works—Not Just One That Pays
• 00:38:05 - The Trap of Chasing the Wrong Success
• 00:40:54 - Your Next Steps—And Why This Conversation Matters

Links and Resources:

• Ted on LinkedIn
• The Modern Man Show Website
• The Modern Man Show on YouTube
• More links for Ted here!
• Hector Santiesteban on LinkedIn
• Hector Santiesteban on Twitter

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