Meeting of Minds

This is quite a straight forward episode where I talk about the tiny steps way to write that my book coach, Sam Osbiston, and the leader of the Confident Creative Club, Helen Redfern, introduced me to. It is a way to break big tasks down into small steps that are more manageable and we can trick our brain into making progress towards the end goal.

We might have a wonderful thing to bring to the world but because the end seems so far away we don't start. I have stopped myself in the past for fear of looking stupid, fear of being the fat person who couldn't do something and not wanting to be disappointed by not achieving the goal. I have missed out as a result.

It was Sam's small steps approach that helped me write my book. It was the same when I started the Meeting of Minds podcast. It can help you start a healing journey, or anything else for that matter. Don't focus on the end and what it's going to take to get there, just take tiny steps.

We can't change others but we can change ourselves. We can do better for ourselves. We can honour ourselves. And we can do that by getting started and taking tiny steps.

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Recently a client was telling me how great they felt after culling their "friends" on Facebook. They wanted to reduce it to a core group of people that they wanted to share their posts with and whose posts they wanted to see. They had been through the whole accumulating friends, and admitted the validation they felt because of it, but now they realised that not everyone's posts left them feeling good. As we were talking I realised that this is an act of radical self-care as well as establishing boundaries.

In this episode I talk more about boundaries and how I see them. I also talk about what we think might happen if we put boundaries in place. Being clear about who you let into your inner world and who you don't is a self-honouring act and also one of self-care. Something many of us don't do enough of, in my opinion.

It is not selfish to honour what you need. If we are looking to make changes, it can be helpful to reflect on how our past might have conditioned us to be how we are. Extreme planning, for instance, stops us being in the moment, being able to be in flow and stops us being open to fun, joyful and impactful moments. I was a planner and a few years ago I had the constant thought of "there must be more to life than this" running through my head.

I had ticked off all the boxes of what I was told should make me happy - career, husband, house, kids, dog - and I was miserable. It's very confusing when everyone tells you how well you're doing but you feel dead inside. I had a deep desire to know that there was something more.

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This is a really "live" episode for me as I work through my feelings of being a mother to teenagers as I go through the menopause.

It's a bit of a rant about the diminishing language that is used around women going through the menopause, in fact around women and hormones in general, as well of the complexities I am experiencing as I navigate mothering teenagers. There is a lot of diminishing language used around teenagers too and I am guilty of that as well. Perhaps I have more in common with my teenagers than I realise.

There is no manual for parenting or the menopause and I struggle sometimes. My main struggle is that I seem to have lost the filter that has kept me in check over the years and not everyone on the other end of my filter-less speak likes it. Losing this filter is also a result of the work I have done over the last 5 years and it seems my true self has a lot to say!!

It's one of the episodes where I process as I speak. It's a talk I needed to have with myself out loud and I hope it helps you too.

And in case you're wondering, I did apologise to the chair helper.

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I start this episode telling you the story of my sickly plant and end with telling you that no-one is more important than you. It's true. 

If you don't look after yourself then you're not going to be able to look after others so by always putting others first not only are you not there for yourself but overtime you will be less able to be there for others. Nursing my poorly plant back to health, once I knew what it needed, clearly demonstrated to me my own journey of working out my own needs and making sure they get met. 

How many of us tend to the needs of others instead of our own? And how many feel frustrated, overwhelmed, taken for granted, angry? I felt all those things but now I have learned to put myself first, my life is full of moments of joy. I want the same for you. 

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This is part 2 of my conversation with Carrie Holt. If you missed episode 66, you might want to listen before you listen to this. 

Carrie Holt is a coach working with sensitives and introverts helping them discover their life purpose and fulfil their soul's mission. This is right up my street. 

In this episode we talk about:

So many wise words in this episode, again, and I learned a lot, again. Let me know what you have learned about yourself as a result of these episodes with Carrie.

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This episode is a longer one as I have a guest and we had so much to talk about. We recorded our conversation in two parts so this is part 1 and part 2 is coming next week. 

I am talking to Carrie Holt who is a coach working with sensitives and introverts helping them discover their life purpose and fulfil their soul's mission. This is right up my street. Carrie also has a full time corporate job and she tells us how she manages to balance the two.

In this episode we talk about:

So many wise words in this episode. I learned a lot. Let me know what struck a cord with you.

You can find Carrie by clicking here

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Recently, I experienced the early signs of burnout. I have suffered burnout several times before and I now know the early signs for me. This is the first time I have stopped and taken stock at an early stage and I'm so glad I did. That's why I've done an episode about burnout and it's close relatives overwhelm and stress. 

I had to decide if it's the work I'm doing or the way I'm doing that needs to change and luckily I realised it's the way I'm doing. That is such a relief after 2 years of working in and on my own business. I've stripped back the things I do as I've been doing too much and as a result not concentrating on anything properly. I'm now doing this podcast, writing and working with my clients. The podcast is on YouTube as well now so I can reach more people. 

In this episode I talk about:

-  the relationship between stress, overwhelm and burnout

-  my relationship with them all

-  the most usual signs of burnout

-  ways to recover from burnout

- how to avoid burnout in the future

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This episode was inspired by an innocent comment someone made about my skin. It seems my skin looks younger than my age while my silver hair makes me look older. I'm sure we all have ideas about what we "should" look like at a certain age and the way we view others will be shaped by those ideas. I wonder, though, does that make the ageing process more tricky to navigate as we try to counter what we think others will think of us? Would it be nicer if we could age into who we are and be confident and happy with who that is? Are we more used to thinking how other people see us rather than working out how we see ourselves?

I'm really interested and I'd love to know what you think. Let me know. 

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Following on from last week when I asked "Can women really have it all?", in this episode I am talking about the heavy load of doing all the thinking that, I think, largely falls on women. 

I start off talking about the mind, body and soul connection and how listening to our inner self (rather than the voice in our head which is largely fuelled by external influences) can help us make more aligned decisions. I then move on to talk about the heavy duty thinking that is often required before action is taken and how that tends to fall to women. We think about all the things that need to be done and when they need doing by but it is the actual action that gets recognition  whilst the heavy duty thinking goes unnoticed. I think that needs to change. What do you think?

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This episode was inspired by a conversation with a client about how there are not enough women talking about this idea that we can "have it all". We are sold the idea that we can have a career, a family, a social life and good relationships all round. But can we? 

Here I explore that idea and how it is has shown up in my life so far.  I hope this helps you reflect on how it shows up for you and/or the women in your life. Let me know what you discover. 

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Production: Jay Herbert

Original music: Jay Herbert and Alex Ware