Meeting of Minds

In this episode I'm talking to Ambre Tandy, an empath, an energetic healer and all round great gal. Growing up required Ambre to be quiet, and she talks us through her journey, via the navy and the seminary, to find the truth of who she really is. She realised she wasn't born wrong and started her quest to work out why people had told her she was wrong. What she found is radical intuition and how to do things her way and not anyone else's way. This conversation is full of spirit and courage and I hope it will inspire you to live your one precious life your way. 

You can find Ambre at https://empoweredperceptions.inluminance.com/ and on LinkedIn where you'll find her as Ambre Tandy..

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Jacquie is the outdoor girl. Our conversation meandered from the Peak District and the Yorkshire Dales, to writing and acceptance of our creativity and to all things outdoors. Like me, Jacquie left her corporate job for a different way of life and we talk about how amazing that is but also the  challenges it brings. Problem-solving, here in relation to climbing, is creative as is bringing a little bit of adventure into our every day. Being in the mountains gives Jacquie a sense of perspective, her place in the world, and helps her rebalance, reset and give her a sense of who she is. Most of all it feels like freedom.

You can find Jacquie at https://www.jacquiebudd.com/ and her blog is https://www.outdoor-girl.com/.

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This is the 50th Episode. 50! When I started I didn't know how long I would be able to keep finding things to talk about but I'm still going strong. Thank you to all my fabulous listeners because without you there would be no point in me doing this.

To mark this occasion I invited a very special guest for a chat. I'm not going to tell you anything about them as I don't want to spoil the surprise. I hope you like it.

Discovering and embracing that I am a highly sensitive person (HSP) has been a big part of my healing journey and in this episode I am talking to Julie Aird who is an HSP too. We talk candidly about our different journeys discovering we are HSPs, our daily experience of living with this amazing trait and the self-care techniques that keep our tanks full to avoid being in perpetual crisis management mode.

Learning about the HSP personality trait has helped both of us embrace the people we really are rather than who we have been in told in the past we should be. We both see high sensitivity as a great gift and it is an amazing ability and strength to use in our work as coaches.

Around 1 in 5 people have the HSP trait and around 30% of HSPs are more extroverted with the other 70% leaning towards introversion. Julie is the extrovert and I'm the introvert and we talk about the stereotypical idea of a sensitive introvert versus what it is actually like for us every day as HSPs. We also talk about how to look after ourselves as HSPs to make sure we are at our best so we can be there for others.

You can find Julie at https://julieaird.com/

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This is a bonus episode to tell you about my new 4 week course starting on Wednesday 16/02/2022 at 7pm for 90 minutes. It's going to be a kind, gentle and loving space to explore and heal.

Click the link below for more details. Message me if you want to know more.

If you are being called to join this course, I'm waiting to hear from you.

https://www.safeandsupported.co.uk/new-vision

Luisa is back with us again. Her message today is that we all have creativity in us. We choose our clothes, how our hair looks, our home décor and so many other things every day that require us to be creative. Anything that brings us joy, makes us think outside of the box and brings us back to ourselves is creativity, even if we're not producing something or doing a particular activity. 

For those of you like Luisa who spend a lot of the working week on a screen, you may prefer to do something creative away from a screen. Cooking is a creative outlet for a lot of people, even though they might not see it as such, and is away from a screen (even if you are checking an online recipe most of the time you are not on the screen). 

Getting a balance between creative time and earning money, as well as creative time on and away from a screen, is a balance and where that lies is different for everyone. Do what is right for you because what you learn about yourself in your creative endeavours will inevitably filter into other areas of your life. 

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Fellow COA Josh Connolly is a Nacoa ambassador, Resilience Coach and a general all round fabulous human being. It was such a treat to talk to him and this conversation is full of such good stuff. Josh tells us about discovering that COA is a thing and we go on to talk about the many ways us COAs are affected by our parents' drinking and none of them are actually the alcohol. As Josh says in our chat, if we are able to dive deep enough it all makes sense and allows us to have great self-compassion for ourselves. This is transformative stuff.

COAs experience trauma and yes that trauma has an impact but what has the greatest impact is that the very people who were supposed to make us feel safe and loved in all our emotions weren't able to do that and so we grow up not feeling lovable in all our emotions. We also talk about the part our sensitivity plays in our experience.

Controversially, as it turns out, I talk about the freedom I found from being estranged from my alcoholic mother and her subsequent passing away. It was my ultimate act of survival, not that I realised that at the time.

Check out Nacoa (nacoa.org.uk) if anything in this episode resonates with you as there are so many resources available to help COAs, no matter where you are on your journey.

You can get in touch with me to talk about anything in this episode, previous episodes or to let me have feedback. I'd love to hear from you.

You can find Josh at https://www.joshconnolly.co.uk/ and on Instagram @josh_ffw.

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I came across Elaine in an online writing group we both joined and we started following each other on Instagram. We would comment on each other's posts and in November she took part in a 3o day gratitude challenge where she posted every day with a different word as the day's prompt. I loved her posts and asked her to come on the podcast. She posts on Instagram as @postive_prickles and she started her account as an outlet for her writing after leaning into a nudge from inside herself to do it. "Why not?" she thought and it was another "Why not?" that saw her agree to talk to me. Can you try the "Why not" approach to an opportunity that comes your way? It's interesting that in being open to opportunities they seem to find us.

We talk about our difficulties identifying as writers, what Elaine gets from her writing and how it helps her connect with her true inner self. She also talks about the connections she has made through her writing and how it helps the people reading but also herself. It's a win win. We talk about what bravery and courage look like for introverts as opposed to extroverts and as introverts how important it is to learn to say yes to things that work for us and no to things that don't. And that is ok. Realising that our interpretation of things as children can limit our view as adults is a real aha moment and that if we can be open to change those interpretations many more things become possible. I loved this conversation and I hope you do too.

If anything in this episode stirs anything up for you that you want to talk about, please get in touch. Or just get in touch anyway. I'd love to hear from you.

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Jen Payne is a fellow volunteer with Nacoa and I was so pleased when she agreed to come on the podcast and have a chat with me. She is honest, wise and such an inspiration in the way she shares her story to help other COAs. She talks how her life has been massively affected by her mum's drinking and she bravely tells us how she navigates the tricky waters around her relationship with her family. She talks about the impact on her of the generational trauma in her family that has led to many of her family members being dependent on alcohol. We talk about the taboo of talking about a parent's drinking and how it's a family secret that keeps everyone locked in their own, mainly traumatic, experience of it. Jen and I, like the other wonderful people out there who are also talking about it, want to talk about our experiences in the hope that it will help other COAs.

Jen has so many good things to say in this episode and like she says, as a COA we are part of the worst and the best club. Jen is a true example of why being in the COA club is the best club because I get to meet fabulous people like Jen. Jen's dog joined in with our chat on a couple of occasions and the internet had a little wobble or two and I hope that doesn't spoil your enjoyment of this powerful episode. I really hope you get something from this chat. 

If anything in this episode stirs anything up for you that you want to talk about, please get in touch. Or just get in touch anyway. I'd love to hear from you.

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This is the last episode of series 3 and the last episode of 2021. It’s actually Episode 44 even though I say it’s 42 at the beginning!

On the day this episode is released, it's exactly 12 months since I released the intro episode. I am so proud of what I have achieved with this podcast this year and you listeners have been part of that journey. Thank you for sharing this with me. I will be back in January with series 4 and I intend to return with some solo episodes but some with guests as well. On the day this episode is released it's exactly 12 months since I released the intro episode. I am so proud of what I have achieved with this podcast this year and you listeners have been part of that journey. Thank you for sharing this with me. I will be back in January with series 4 and I will be back to having guests.

In this episode I talk about my response to these questions:

As you might have come to expect, I had a fair bit to say on these subjects! I share my experiences and things I have learned along the way. I am still on this journey and am still learning too.

If anything in this episode stirs anything up for you that you want to talk about, please get in touch. Or just get in touch anyway. I'd love to hear from you.

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To get in touch:

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Website: safeandsupported.co.uk

Production: Jay Herbert

Original music: Jay Herbert and Alex Ware