Mental Mastery

What I've noticed a lot these past couple weeks is people stress has been reallocated. A very wise, wise friend of mine, Adrian, told me one time when I was kind of stressing about some stuff. When I was starting a failing business or a business ended up failing, they told me he said, Man, he said, There there is a finite amount of stress in the world. It's going to go somewhere you'll never be without it. You will always have some form of stress, he said. The key is you gotta figure out which stresses worth absorbing and dealing with. And which dress must you let go to reallocate that somewhere else? And so that's always stuck with me because to me, it makes sense because if, for example, if you're stressed about money, well, if you're stressed about money, you're not stressed about your health, you're not stressed about your kids having a good life or you're not stressed about your job, you know?

So there are different buckets to replace to stress in. I think that what we're going through right now is the stress has been reallocated from the things that were quote-unquote normal 23 months ago, you know, to more basic almost more primitive stressors like Okay, is it safe to go get groceries right? When should I go get groceries? When there's gonna be fewer people at the store, so on and so forth. And so, you know, I think that what really stood out to me this whole time is stress. And so what I want to talk a little bit about is that is, is how do we factor what stresses in our life, get our attention and get our time and get our energy right?

Right now we're gonna talk about feedback and you say, I wrote on the board in big, bold letters behind me and, you know, this came about from a conversation yesterday. The Kendall. Now we're having. And I realized that feedback is very, very important. And we all know that whether it's it at work or whether it's, you know, with a spouse or with kids or with your training or with any of that stuff, we have to have feedback to grow.

The quote that I found just looking this morning is it says it takes humility to seek feedback. It takes wisdom to, understand it to analyze it and appropriately act on it. That's a pretty powerful statement. You gotta be humble in order to receive the feedback that someone's gonna have. You know, sometimes it's constructive criticism. Sometimes it's just as a column, haters, just people saying stuff, just trash talk. But at the end of the day, it's very important to have that feedback because that's how we grow. That's how we develop. Is knowing was this good or bad? Did this get executed properly? You know, Was everything in line the way that should be?

So how does a goal give us control? Well I never thought you’d ask. To start….Let’s break down just how to set and execute the goal. 

3 types of goals that you MUST set to be successful. 

Outcome goals, performance goals and process goals.

Accomplishment of goals gives us control, confidence and more reason to grow! 

Listen in to hear my thoughts about this at the keynote. 

Check out the Mental Mastery YouTube channel or more content from this talk! 

Adversity seems to be something we are up against daily. We were born for adversity. Hell you were born into adversity if you really think about it.
So why does it bog us down when we hit a tough time like what we're going through right now?
Why do we seem to really overthink the simple things that are directly in front of us? Sometimes we seem to freeze
It is the unknown that really gets to us. The uncertainty. The what ifs. The loss of control
What if I told you that it is in these times that you really get a clear picture of what you actually can control. Think about it. There are many things in our current situation that you cannot control. The things that you can do are VERY obvious.
Easy peasy. Execute on those few things and execute on them well and the adversity becomes an ally. An OPPORTUNITY!
Take ADVANTAGE of the adversity as it is the prime time to grow and learn! Don’t run from it, run to it!

"When I lose, that's what pisses me off" Prescott said.
"That what makes me go, that's what keeps me going. I hate losing more than I like winning, to be honest. A win is like, sure, I was supposed to do that. Prepared my ass off. Why wouldn't I do that? Then when I lose: Why? Why? It's a battle. How do I get better?"
"Make sure I don't do what I did last week, this week"

• Dak Prescott, 2019

Fuel sources are all around us. Let's find them and use them to burn hotter!

Let’s discuss the “Opportunity to win”
What does that mean? Naturally, we seek out the vision of the road ahead and see the tough times and stress points.
I want to reshape that thought process a bit. This week, I want you to seek out the “Opportunities to Win” that lie ahead of you. Where are those potential moments or times that you could squeak out a little more. Maybe it is another rep in the gym, 10 extra minutes on that work project or 30 extra minutes with your kids or family.
Where are those times in your week? We all have them. Often times we overlook those times by saying phrases like “I don’t have time” or “I couldn’t get to that”. There are times that it is harder to actually accomplish things but every single week, there are times that we fail to capitalize on.
What are some common pitfalls and opportunities in a normal week for the average person? Here are my top 5:

1. Facebook/Social Media
2. Commutes to and from work
3. Lunch breaks at work
4. 30-60 minutes before bed time
5. Hours before you leave for work

1. Social media can consume us without us even knowing it. Start by limiting your overall screen time each week (there are great apps for tracking this). Remember, the more time we spend observing and tracking others lives, the less we spend nurturing and growing our own. Not to mention the subconscious impact it can have on us
2. Commutes to and from work are great times to call a relative, listen to a podcast or ride in silence to allow yourself the time and space to analyze, grow and prosper in the space we currently have
3. Lunch breaks at work can be tricky but if done right, you can frin 15-90 minutes per week that you can do things like read something, meditate or reconnect with yourself
4. I am going to combine 4 and 5 because they are similar. We tend to squander a lot of the “free” time we have. Before bed and before work. These are great times to unplug from a screen and reconnect with kids or your spouse, read a book or just relax and allow the body’s central nervous system to do its thing.

In just those few examples I bet you have already identified the opportunities that you currently have available in your life that you can start to create new habits that will help you grow and thrive!
Seek out those wins! They are there for the taking if you so choose!

What exactly is an energy person? You think in terms of basketball there's always that one guy or girl that is flying around the court throwing their body on the ground trying to get every loose ball or every rebound. If you think about a dance floor there's always that one person that shows out a bit more than the others around.
Why is that? Have you ever wondered that? Some of us are just wired to be full of energy and full of life. And some of us really have to work at it to ride that energy and bring that fire day in and day out.

We each have a choice every single day of our lives. This week I want you to really focus on taking advantage of the times that we get to choose how we react. We get to choose which path we will follow and we get to choose to keep driving our knees and pumping our feet in our Relentless pursuit of forward progression

Mountains are hard. They are meant to be climbed but they are hard. A mountain, to you may be just that. A literal, physical mountain. Maybe to you it's a test you have to study for, a board you need to pass, raising young kids or just getting home to make dinner for the family.
When you think of the mountain, you think struggle. You think difficulty or who knows what other synonyms you can come up with.
With these mountains, you don't always see the summit but it's there. And you CAN reach it! But the mountains are meant to be hard. Their reward is worth having but you will hurt and sweat to get it.