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In this episode of 'Messy Can't Stop Her', host Judith Kambia Obatusa discusses the role of past trauma and self-awareness in parenting. Drawing from personal experiences and stories from the YouTube channel 'Soft White Underbelly', she emphasizes how childhood experiences and parental interactions can lead to issues like addiction. Judith shares her tragic loss of her daughter to addiction, revealing that her daughter's search for love led her down the wrong path. She connects the importance of self-love and addressing personal traumas to being a better parent. She also provides resources like '16personalities.com' for self-improvement and suggests asking for feedback from close friends or colleagues to better understand oneself. The episode concludes with encouragement to her listeners to begin the journey of self-discovery and healing, starting with self-reflection.

00:00 Introduction and Recap 

00:36 The Impact of Childhood Trauma

04:08 The Importance of Self-Love and Addressing Trauma for Mothers

04:53 The Impact of Parental Trauma on Children

07:08 The Need for Self-Reflection and Understanding for Better Parenting

07:53 The Role of Personality Tests in Self-Understanding

08:44 Practical Steps to Self-Understanding

10:52 The Impact of Self-Understanding on Motherhood

11:07 The Importance of Focusing on Self-Improvement

13:14 The Importance of Knowing Yourself to Be a Good Mother

13:39 Closing Thoughts and Call to Action 

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Join Judith Kambia Obatusa, JKO, in this episode of Messy Can't Stop Her, titled "From Loss to Legacy: A Mother's Call to Empowerment and Mental Health." Following the recent loss of her firstborn to a heartbreaking overdose, she shares a powerful exploration of intergenerational impact, urging women to prioritize mental health and break free from the shadows of past pain. This episode is a heartfelt call to empowerment, resilience, and self-care, offering a transformative perspective on turning personal loss into a legacy of strength.

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A minisode about loss, domestic violence impact on children and an encouragement for women to get to know themselves.

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Today we discuss stress management mechanisms that can restore hormonal harmony and uplift spirits. From connecting with nature, mindfulness to movement, to just hanging out with friends, we embrace resilience together. This episode is sponsored by Empowered Faith Tees on Etsy, where inspiring designs celebrate the strength within.

References in this episode

Jessica Carter, Yoga Teacher and Nutrition Coach shares how to Release Trauma and Effects like Obesity with Essential Oils & Yoga, Food Journalling, Affirmations and Breathwork

Doctors can now prescribe access to nature with the Parks Canada Discovery Pass

How mindfulness can change your brain and improve your health

Five Surprising Ways Exercise Changes Your Brain

Manage stress: Strengthen your support network

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Do you know that domestic violence stress impacts women's health? Continuing our self-care series, we explore how difficult spousal relationships, marked by emotional abuse, disrupt female hormones, leading to fertility challenges, irregular cycles, and more. 

At the end of this episode, listeners will receive empowering insights and practical strategies to break free from the cycle of stress, enabling hormonal healing and embracing a life of resilience. Share this episode to drive positive change and support women on their journey to wellness.

This episode was sponsored by Empowered Faith Tees Etsy Shop. Use the promo code SHETHRIVES23 to receive a 10% discount from every purchase on www.etsy.com/shop/EmpoweredFaithTees.

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Discover how simple acts of regular communication can provide a lifeline of emotional support, validation, and reassurance for a woman in an abusive relationship. At the end of this episode, you will understand how and why safety check-ins, confidential conversations, and sharing vital information and resources is a vital part of empowering women in domestic violence situations.

References in this episode

Bancroft, L. Why does he do that?: Inside the minds of angry and controlling men 

Buel, S. M. 50 Obstacles to Leaving, a.k.a. Why Abuse Victims Stay

Campbell, J. C. Health consequences of intimate partner violence

Your Role in Ending Femicide: Creating a Safe Space for Women in Abusive Situations 

Stark, E. Coercive Control: How Men Entrap Women in Personal Life

Bracing the Broken: Me, You, the Church and Domestic Violence

JK Rowling tells of fear former husband would burn Harry Potter manuscript

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Discover the transformative power of financial independence for a woman in an abusive relationship. Through survivor anecdotes, we explore how financial independence, networking, mentorship, and emotional support can help women break free from abuse, create a secure future, and build resilience. 

At the end of this episode, you will learn how you can support that friend, family member, neighbour or colleague to get the financial independence they need to leave abuse. Be part of the solution by sharing this episode with those in your network who will benefit from it. Let us be our sister’s helper.

References in this episode

https://ncadv.org/blog/posts/quick-guide-economic-and-financial-abuse

https://next.voxcreative.com/c/ad/22787460/allstatefoundation-financial-abuse-support-guide

The Power of Parity:  How Advancing Women’s Equality Can Add $12 Trillion to Global Growth

https://news.linkedin.com/2017/6/eighty-percent-of-professionals-consider-networking-important-to-career-success

The Gender Gap in Financial Literacy: A Global Perspective Report

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The second episode in the "Your Role in Ending Femicide," series delves into the critical topic of offering practical support and help to women in abusive situations. Discover six powerful ways you can make a difference and empower survivors as we navigate the complexities of ending femicide. 

By the end of this episode, you will get actionable steps and insights that will inspire you to take an active role in empowering a woman facing abuse in your personal or professional community.

References in this episode

Your Role in Ending Femicide: Creating a Safe Space for Women in Abusive Situations

Bracing the Broken: Me, You, the Church and Domestic Violence

Messy Can’t Stop Her self-care series (April 13 – June 7, 2023 episodes)

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In this heartfelt episode, we honor the memory of a community member and countless other women whose lives have been tragically cut short by their intimate partners. Join us as we delve into the heart-wrenching issue of femicide and exploring the barriers that make it difficult for women to leave abusive situations. Together, we will uncover one practical way for each of us to empower a woman in an abusive situation. 

By the end of this episode, you will learn how to create a safe space for your friend, family member, colleague, or community member facing abuse. 

If you found this episode useful, please leave a review, subscribe to the podcast and share it with your network. Thank you so much for listening.

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Becca Rae Eagle, Writing Doula and Host of Joyful Journaling podcast shows us how journaling can be a transformative self-care tool for fostering emotional healing and personal growth. Becca shares how journaling can promote healing, reduce stress, and enhance self-reflection.

At the end of this episode, you will be guided with a journalling prompt into an introspective journey that will help you destress and enhance your well-being.

References in this episode

The Joyful Journaling Podcast

Embodying Joy: A Heart Journal, A Memoir with Journal Space for Body, Mind, & Spirit Health

Check out Becca’s services and books, sign up for a free discovery call or register for  the July 2023 cohort of the Journal C.P.R.: Faith in Journaling course at https://linktr.ee/yourwritingdoula2day

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