Messy Friendship Lessons

A friend is involved in your life, while a catch-up friend just hears about it later... Can you really call someone your best friend if you only connect every three months, and all you do is catch up? This episode isn't a critique of catch-up friendships—there’s definitely value in them, and who doesn't love a good debrief? But if all your friendships are like this, who’s truly walking through life with you? The danger of having your closest friendships reduced to quarterly updates is that you end up on the sidelines of each other's lives. As adults, we lost the shared spaces that naturally maintained our friendships, so we need to be intentional in spending time together and creating lasting bonds. Join us as we share our thoughts on catch-up friendships and how we strive to be intentional in our connections. If you’re stuck in a catch-up rut with your close friend or bestie, this episode might help you break free!

Imagine my absolute horror as I scrolled on TikTok and realised that so many girlies are feeling lonely?! This earth-shattering realisation made my heart yearn for my soul sisters plagued by this torment. I HAD TO DO SOMETHING. So I began to write my heart on to paper, or in this case type it...my confessions. In the hopes it will give the girlies solace and they can find a way out of the sunken place through my words. As I too have walked the rocky path of loneliness before.  (This is good right? I’m turning up the dramatics by channelling my inner Lola Step) Here lies my melodramatic confessions of a Lonely Drama Queen. A letter of comfort to the sisters of my soul!

Raise your hand if you've ever introduced two friends, only to watch them become closer and start to drift away from you. You've experienced the Matchmaker's Curse. It sucks, and we know it all too well. But before you wallow in self-pity, let us help you change your perspective.

Join us as we crack down on why this happens, candidly share our own experiences, and offer some practical advice. And to spice things up, we've also been on the other side of things... Spoiler alert: the two friends aren’t always the villains.

So let's laugh our way through the messy, ugly, and jealous world of the Matchmaker's Curse!

Friendship advice is trending. Yet the conversation seems to be heavily focused on the failings of others to be good friends to us. Red flags in friendship, beware of this type of person and don’t trust people with this behaviour. That message is needed. But allow me to flip the script… what about you? Are you a good friend? Have you reflected on and assessed yourself? Do you know what it takes? Do you know how to? If this has made you pause and think, good. Me too! On the other hand, if you have already crowned yourself a great friend, good. Come put your conclusion to the test! Join us to reflect on ourselves as we give you How to Be a Good Friend for Dummies.

Dear Friend of the People Pleaser,

Warning: it is simple to assume people pleasers make great friends because they will go out of their way to make you happy even at the expense of themselves. For that reason people pleasers can be superficially appealing, the truth is people pleasers are not seeking to be good friends, they are seeking to be liked and loved by everyone at all costs.

Dear People Pleaser,

Seeking to please people will leave you drained, unfulfilled and disappointed in your friendships. The fear of man leads to destruction.

So, maybe I can help...

Some people are pro not telling your friends everything because you never know who you can trust. But I’m not here to deliver that message or tell you to watch your back. Frankly, we’ve all heard enough friendship horror stories of betrayal. For me, this is not an issue of trust but an issue of noise! This topic divides people, and rightly so! Sharing is a huge part of bonding and receiving support in friendships. So, I’m not here to promote secrecy but discernment. Join me as I share the four types of noise: noise that clouds your judgment, noise that kills, unnecessary noise, and noise about you. If you leave this episode with anything, let it be "wherever there is judgment, there is noise - and more of it than you think" (excerpt from Noise: A Flaw in Human Judgment).

wikiHow will tell you to invite your friend out for coffee to end the friendship... don't do that! We present to you How to Lose a Friend in 10 Days... We are not giving you a list of passive-aggressive, bad behaviours to chase your friend off. Instead here are our reflections on how to end a friendship in a respectful and empathetic way. Now this episode isn't a rom-com but we are two lover girls and you are sure to get some laughs. This episode takes place in 3 parts: (1) when is it time to lose a friend? (2)How do you end friendships? and (3)The aftermath. Warning: This advice may have a 100% success rate. (Warranty not included)

It's quite the task to pen a love letter to my friends. So, I sat down and reminisced about every friend I've had throughout my life, endeavoring to encapsulate the love I've experienced in each friendship into one heartfelt message. Whether I've had the privilege of calling you friend or not, I hope this episode fills your Valentine's Day with warmth and love. If you're in pursuit of friendship, may this serve as inspiration to be that friend first to yourself, then to others. As you journey, I pray you find the companionship you seek.

Happy Valentine's Day, beautiful people! May you bask in every form of love life has to offer—romantic, familial, and platonic.

With every new year the winds of change come calling! A fresh start, a complete orbit around the sun, the world is gearing up for another journey. We all scurry to make lists, determined to make this trip around the sun different, more memorable.

I'm not here to burden you with resolutions destined for neglect. Instead, let's ignite a new approach together! Join me as I unveil my 24 Friendship Rules for 2024—a collection of gems that I wholeheartedly believe will pave the way for beautiful and fulfilling friendships. So buckle up, it's a quick ride.

Roses are red, violets are blue—ever faced a lukewarm congrats or given one too? Gather here!

Envy isn't always the cause; other factors can hinder friends from celebrating our wins.

Navigating a friend's success in your dream role, dream house, or academic triumph can be tricky. How do you manage those emotions? Conversely, dealing with an unsupportive friend—do you opt for grace and forgiveness or bid farewell?

Let's discuss moments when flowers came with a frown and reflect on the power of genuine support. In this candid conversation, we explore the intricacies of handling success, jealousy, and the profound impact of supportive friends!