Messy Friendship Lessons

Dear Friend of the People Pleaser,

Warning: it is simple to assume people pleasers make great friends because they will go out of their way to make you happy even at the expense of themselves. For that reason people pleasers can be superficially appealing, the truth is people pleasers are not seeking to be good friends, they are seeking to be liked and loved by everyone at all costs.

Dear People Pleaser,

Seeking to please people will leave you drained, unfulfilled and disappointed in your friendships. The fear of man leads to destruction.

So, maybe I can help...

Some people are pro not telling your friends everything because you never know who you can trust. But I’m not here to deliver that message or tell you to watch your back. Frankly, we’ve all heard enough friendship horror stories of betrayal. For me, this is not an issue of trust but an issue of noise! This topic divides people, and rightly so! Sharing is a huge part of bonding and receiving support in friendships. So, I’m not here to promote secrecy but discernment. Join me as I share the four types of noise: noise that clouds your judgment, noise that kills, unnecessary noise, and noise about you. If you leave this episode with anything, let it be "wherever there is judgment, there is noise - and more of it than you think" (excerpt from Noise: A Flaw in Human Judgment).

wikiHow will tell you to invite your friend out for coffee to end the friendship... don't do that! We present to you How to Lose a Friend in 10 Days... We are not giving you a list of passive-aggressive, bad behaviours to chase your friend off. Instead here are our reflections on how to end a friendship in a respectful and empathetic way. Now this episode isn't a rom-com but we are two lover girls and you are sure to get some laughs. This episode takes place in 3 parts: (1) when is it time to lose a friend? (2)How do you end friendships? and (3)The aftermath. Warning: This advice may have a 100% success rate. (Warranty not included)

It's quite the task to pen a love letter to my friends. So, I sat down and reminisced about every friend I've had throughout my life, endeavoring to encapsulate the love I've experienced in each friendship into one heartfelt message. Whether I've had the privilege of calling you friend or not, I hope this episode fills your Valentine's Day with warmth and love. If you're in pursuit of friendship, may this serve as inspiration to be that friend first to yourself, then to others. As you journey, I pray you find the companionship you seek.

Happy Valentine's Day, beautiful people! May you bask in every form of love life has to offer—romantic, familial, and platonic.

With every new year the winds of change come calling! A fresh start, a complete orbit around the sun, the world is gearing up for another journey. We all scurry to make lists, determined to make this trip around the sun different, more memorable.

I'm not here to burden you with resolutions destined for neglect. Instead, let's ignite a new approach together! Join me as I unveil my 24 Friendship Rules for 2024—a collection of gems that I wholeheartedly believe will pave the way for beautiful and fulfilling friendships. So buckle up, it's a quick ride.

Roses are red, violets are blue—ever faced a lukewarm congrats or given one too? Gather here!

Envy isn't always the cause; other factors can hinder friends from celebrating our wins.

Navigating a friend's success in your dream role, dream house, or academic triumph can be tricky. How do you manage those emotions? Conversely, dealing with an unsupportive friend—do you opt for grace and forgiveness or bid farewell?

Let's discuss moments when flowers came with a frown and reflect on the power of genuine support. In this candid conversation, we explore the intricacies of handling success, jealousy, and the profound impact of supportive friends!

Long-distance friendships are great, but let's face it – they come with their unique set of challenges. From missing them and experiencing FOMO to juggling time zones, conflicting schedules, moments of jealousy, and the inability to provide physical support, there's more to it than meets the eye. However, there's a silver lining: the beauty of long-distance friendships lies in the fact that no matter the time or distance that separates you, when you finally reunite, it feels as if no time has passed at all. It's truly incredible. So, if you're struggling with maintaining a long-distance friendship or simply missing your far-off friend, tune in! My two awesome guests and I have been there, done that, and bought a postcard! We get you! Let's chat, swap advice and laugh about it together!

Hey, I think you're a cool person, want to be my friend? Raise your hand if you have ever had a friendship crush! I know I have. Much like romantic crushes, platonic crushes can be exciting but daunting. Because what if they don't want to be your friend? Join me as I break down the instant connection, the danger of idealisation, vulnerability, and rejection, and how to shoot your friendship shot! And who knows, by the end of the episode you might have a big, fat friendship crush on me! HAHA!

Male validation is not only a choice it is a lifestyle... and some women swear by it! Join us as we dive into the world of male validation in female friendships. It's not just about crushing on someone; it's seeking approval and a standing ovation from men... at the expense of our female friends. Let's unpack its impact, find freedom, and show each other grace. So, get ready to laugh and learn as we swap experiences, share advice, and pledge to ditch the male validation craze. Tune in as we solemnly swear to break free from the shackles of male validation!